15 wedding traditions you don't have to follow

1. Redeem the bride

There are several reasons for this. To begin with, even purely symbolic, buying and selling people is not a good idea. At the wedding as well. This deprives the bride of her subjectivity. With this approach, she turns from a person who makes decisions on her own into an incapacitated object that is passed from hand to hand for a reward.

Of course, one could say that ransom is a process during which the groom confirms that he is worthy of the love of his bride. But she has already agreed to marry him get married. Her future husband proved everything to her. The opinion of the others does not mean anything at all - why this performance?

Plus, most ransoms are just plain weird. An indistinct procedure according to a script from the Internet in a shabby entrance - they hardly want such a holiday when they are planning a magnificent celebration.

2. Throwing objects at the newlyweds

A rain of rice, candies and coins should promise the youth an abundance of life. But it mainly leads to microtrauma and the formation of granules in the hair and neckline.

If you really want to throw something at a loving couple, at least stop at rose petals. They are light and delicate, they look beautiful. And it is easy to clean them - and you must take care of this, because littering is bad.

3. Break the wine glasses

Broken glass on the sidewalk is many times worse than rice. At least the birds will eat the grains. And the fragments will obviously not be of any use. And happiness - after all, they beat dishes for luck - too. It is naive to blame harmony in the family for wedding rituals. This is the sole concern of the newlyweds.

4. Torment animals

The tradition of releasing pigeons at a wedding has many explanations, but little meaning. The birds are clearly not happy that they are squeezed by smart people every weekend. From the hands of young pigeons do not necessarily soar upward - sometimes they do not take off anywhere or begin to rush in the air, simultaneously defecating for a couple. So it seems easy to do without animal bullying.

5. Release balls

And paper lanterns too. Of course, it's spectacular and cheap. But the joy of launching hardly outweighs the potential harm that such entertainment can do.

For example, in Yakutsk, because of the balls without light,In Yakutsk, balls from the prom left 34 thousand people without light. person / RBC 33.4 thousand people. Chinese lanterns killed in a German zoo"Chinese lanterns" became the cause of the fire in the German zoo / RIA eight animals. Wild animals and birds can swallow rubber balls, get hurt by wire from paper lanterns. Finally, one cannot be sure that these elements of the holiday are not toxic.

6. Drive around town with the whole crowd

The main problem with wedding corteges is that it is almost impossible to maintain a harmonious continuous chain of cars in normal traffic conditions. Traffic lights and traffic jams will constantly break it. In the end, there are two ways: to say goodbye to the idea of ​​a tuple, or to dare and ignore the rules. Often, drivers choose the latter.

The holiday is not a reason to break the law.

Moreover, participation in a motorcade does not make cars invulnerable. So sometimes it endsIn Tuva, a wedding procession provoked an accident with the victim / Komsomolskaya Pravda injury and even death.

It is worth remembering that the main purpose of the walk between the registry office and the restaurant is for the newlyweds to be photographed in different places. For such an occupation, a retinue is not needed: guests will be forced to shift from foot to foot and even get drunk out of boredom. It is much better to provide a buffet for them and leave them alone.

7. Demand a toast from every guest

People are different. Any one toast turns into a stand-up performance. The second only thinks that he is turning, while the others lower their eyes from shame. Well, the third does not like to participate in such events at all, and he has to be persistently convinced. At the same time, newlyweds are often forced to stand without food or drink until everyone has spoken out.

Two hours of painful performances of guests non-stop only betray the helplessness of the host, who has not come up with anything better. Let the toast be the highlight of the wedding cupcake and only come from the lips of those who want to speak in public.

8. Collect money for children

And in general, the whole celebration is to be twisted around the children. Previously, a child from the newlyweds was really expected in the first year after the wedding. Until there were effective contraceptives, pregnancy became a logical consequence of regular sex.

Now people can marry with children, including common ones, or planning to have a child a little later, or not thinking about offspring at all. It doesn't matter at all: the newlyweds are not obliged to explain their intentions and write in the invitations requests to do without reproductive pressure. Because tact and good manners are expected by default.

9. Selling cake to guests

And everything else too. The guests have already decided on the amount they are ready to hand over to the newlyweds. It lies in an envelope or was spent on a gift. Further money-taking looks like a dreary manipulation. Will the newlyweds really leave their grandmother without a cake?

10. Decide who will be in charge

There are many ways to "define" this. For example, newlyweds bite a loaf, and whose piece is larger, that one will be more important in the family. But, perhaps, instead of bread, it is better to buy a family consultation psychologist, which will explain that in a healthy relationship there are no main and subordinate.

11. Conduct "inconvenient" contests

Kringes, Spanish shame, awkwardness - anything, but definitely not joy and happiness, are experienced by guests at weddings, while their neighbors on the tables imitate intercourse with balls or sausages. The laughter of people does not mean anything - it is just a protective reaction of the body.

Of course, it is not necessary to arrange a “What? Where? When ”(although why not). But it is better not to forget about the dignity of the guests.

12. Pushing relatives of the bride and groom

Often this starts with a seating arrangement, and then is cultivated in contests. As a result, tipsy guests get too carried away with figuring out who is better, and forget that they, in fact, are not enemies.

13. Get witnesses about alleged sex

After the celebration, they may leave together and spend a hot night, or they may not. If the witnesses are adults and capable, that is their business. On the happiness of the young, this, contrary to the assumption, will not affect in any way. But the mood of those who observe unoriginal and stupid jokes - how.

14. Remove the garter with your teeth

It can hardly be called a touching and beautiful moment when the groom lifts up the bride's skirt and hides in the layers of organza. It seems that such an action can be missed.

15. Change surname

This should be done if both the groom and the bride want to, but at all not necessary.