Life hacking for the effectiveness of the mothers of large families
Productivity / / December 23, 2019
Anna Fedak
Recreation therapist, yoga teacher, founder and leader online school maternal art.
You're a mom and you no matter what do not have time? Children do not allow you to realize the way you want to? In your home and in your life chaos, and it seems that it will be, until the children grow up? Believe me, no! You can keep up much longer, to restore order everywhere, implement plans, and spending a lot of time with children.
Lifestyle
Before you begin optimization of time, take care of their basic needs and deal with their resources. Adequate sleep and physical activity, good food - what should be the priority.
1. Find your resource
My mother a lot of places where you can spend the forces, and this is where to take them, she does not think. In the meantime, we can not allow that resource is exhausted to zero. It is necessary to constantly replenish it. That you are filled with: bath, book, walk, delicious food, laughter and interesting movie, sport? Plan it, let each day will be something that will sustain you.
You go for a walk with children - walk for myself and not for them. Cook - cook for themselves, and not just for the family. Tidy - get out as if you have now or cardio power training. Children also share a mop.
2. Know your limit
Learn what you drains and minimize these impacts. Do not like to play - do not play, organize children peer group. Do not like to read out loud - turn audio fairy.
Motivation
You have to want to do what you do.
3. Define your global goals and life mission
This is the most difficult point, and some of his execution takes a lifetime. But it's worth it. To find out, try different ways: the work of the senses, childhood trauma and installations, psychotherapy, placement, and so on.
4. Take small steps motivate
For me it is a daily morning ritual setting for the day. I learned this method from the book "magic of morning"Hal Elrod. I wake up before everyone else, a few minutes meditate, I read a short affirmations, writing in a diary. I remind myself that I can make every day a better day. For this we must do what is necessary, but not that convenient, and not waste time on something that does not lead to the goal.
Planning
Do not drive yourself to the very narrow confines. Do not make a plan in which the day is painted by the minute. With children, you still will not be able to follow it. But it will put pressure on you, frustrating and demotivate.
5. Plan a day to two big things
Depending on your work it could be one working the case for some time and one home or baby. Meeting with a client and a trip to the grocery store. Laundry and one hour and a half webinar. preparation dinner and the meeting via video. A trip to the doctor with the children and doing yoga. And yet - on the day of compulsory affairs and plans no more. Made them - praise yourself, you execute your plan for the day.
6. Make a list of global affairs that bring you closer to the dream
Write a book, listen to lectures, read the complete works of Tolstoy, disassemble all the cabinets, curtains perestirat - each has its own. Break them into small pieces for 30-40 minutes. Carry out in the order as you like, and when the opportunity is issued. But follow.
Optimizing
Learn how to do things well and quickly. Well - does not mean perfect. Fast - means ASSUME and doAnd without delay, without any hesitation. For example, I work on the computer, I spent three months to learn how to touch-type. You have to write - I sit down and write. It is necessary to make a bad call - just take the phone and call. This is an ordinary skill, each time will be easier and easier.
7. Reduce the cooking during the week
multivarka, Steamer, Rice Cooker, oven, cooker timer prepare themselves practically. The fact that you can prepare, make a margin. Home-made soups, fermented and dried vegetables, freeze-dried soup and sauces - all this saves time.
8. Properly organize the care of things
Encourage your children to clean up after themselves things, do not put the dirty in the closet. Dismantle their clothes, even clothes will be a little, get rid of all unnecessary. Timely remove seasonal clothes. Start the dryer - do not have to hang things and ironed most of them. Well, use dry cleaning and laundry services - your time should be more expensive their services.
9. Place your order in closets
I: what can be hung - hanging that can be folded down - folded vertically. Vertical folding method is very important: if everything is immediately obvious, and there is no confusion when removing. So there were shorts, socks, T-shirts, sweaters, pants, homewear, sports uniforms - everything. Spoon things after washing themselves, do not trust children or husband - so you can control the order in cabinets and on time to sort things.
10. Get a place for everything in the house
Then get out of it will be much easier. Keep all the same type of thing in the same place: documents, toys, clothing, stationery, books - let all be clear in the apartment. Shelves and drawers should not be crammed to the eyeballs - then everything in sight and easily gets. Maintaining order will also occur by itself. This book has a lovely "magic cleaning"Mari Kondo.
11. Sort out the things of the conditions necessary for them and for the duration
- Cases for which you want solitude: scheduling, complex operations with documents, construction and other calculations, writing, video recording and podcasting, business talks and meetings, yoga class, massage. They all take about an hour and a half. Set aside time for them in the morning, when everyone is asleep, when the kids are watching a long cartoon or play with friends. Let them be not more than 2-2.5 hours a day.
- Cases that do not require solitude and concentration, Follow with the children: cooking, cleaning, washing, doing the exercises, listening to webinars, informal or short communication with customers, walking, swimming, reading, surfing the Internet or naps. From a joint venture made up communication with their children, and do not need to play with them and entertain them.
- Case for 15 minutes: Prepare a simple dish and put it in the oven, read 20-30 pages of text, sketch plan of the article or any other plan, wash and put the hair, do a set of exercises to load the dishwasher or washing machine, put things in order on the shelves 1-2, snack, read the article, respond to emails, write a friend and chat, the children cut the nails, pet bed linen or 10 T-shirts pickle vegetables future, scroll ribbon social network (I recommend to include it in the 15-minute thing, then you are not carried away) - so much more.
- Case for 30 minutes: Prepare a complicated dish or chop all the soup, make a complex or a complex workpiece, pat and spread the linen in the cupboards on one wash, change 4-5 sets of bed linen, to read 30-60 pages of text, write a few pages, listen to the half hour webinar - and so on, each will have their own.
- Minister for an hour It will not be so much on the two - even less. We must remember that a great deal can always be divided and performed in two steps, if we make the right circumstances do not permit.
12. Combine several cases
That is what really increases the number of hours in the day. Actions can be at everyone, the general principle is maintained. I'll tell you how it turns out for me, and you configure the habits of Julius Caesar.
- When I remove or cook, or I'm doing it with the children, or something listen. I always have to listen to that, I have a whole list. It is clear that there must be technical features: the mobile Internet, Wi-Fi, wireless headphones.
- When I go for a walk with the kids or the sea, the class, I always bring a book or something to listen to. If the trip is going to be long, then it takes even a laptop. While the children play, and play it for hours, I can even run business for an hour and a half, requiring solitude.
- When I participate in webinars or some online meetings that require me to connect only occasionally, I parallel tidy things out, sort out the clothes, folding the little things, sharpen pencils, laid out the socks by color, polish pans, and sometimes squat I squeeze. And I viewed the webinar, and things are made, and workout facilities.
- When I cook something complicated, I do not deserve, and not wait until the water is boiling or frying pan heat up, I can make out the dishwasher, can quickly rearrange the pots or boxes rub, spread things out. You can at the same time restore order and cook the soup, for example. And you can do it all with an audio book in the headphones. And you can even with a fitness elastic band on the legs.
- When I was just somewhere to go or food and no way something to listen to or read, I make plans and think, write in a note or in a notebook. A massage and beauty treatments, I try to relax as much as possible, and during the pedicure is always at the computer - here's another chance to do the same thing, which requires solitude.
- When I watch a cartoon with the kids or a movie with my husband, I'm doing something hands: stroking, sewing, knitting, sort something chinyu clothes and books, I clean cutlery.
- When I go in the car, I listen to audio, watch video in a traffic jam, I conduct handsfree long conversations that do not allow myself another time, do intimate gymnastics or exercises for the face, sometimes painted.
In general, it is a matter of habit and desire. Look for opportunities to combine - in a day and time will be longer.
13. Place your order anywhere
In order not to waste time looking for the right recipe, a document or a book, all you need to keep in order and always have on hand. I have several lists, they are called simply, "Buy", "Read", "Listen", "Ready", "View", "congress". So everything is always at hand and do not need to memorize anything - has made the list and return to it when you can. Very convenient program planners, shopping programs, storage of books, audio and video. The main thing - to make clear their lists in them.
14. Eliminate time wasters
- The first is the social network - I distinguish them time in 15-minute intervals to the frame made me time to disconnect and do chores.
- These are people who are constantly complainEveryone unhappy. You will not help them, they do not solve the problem, you just spend on them time and effort. Avoid them.
- This is the thinking "gum" and hang on past events. Rather than think and plan something inspiring or listen to something interesting, you iterate through the events of the past or fantasize, to whom and what you say and what you answer. From this, too, must get rid of.
- Alcohol, fatty food is plentiful, the TV also did not allow time to consciously and effectively. Do not let them govern themselves.
All these rules of life let me at four children, household tasks and more "work" to feel free and relaxed. Much to keep up, but not to be in the grip of constant time pressure. This summer, they allowed me to realize my dream and start writing. And write a lot: thesis, polknigi and six articles.
I like to enjoy life, and even love, when everything happens by itself. Try it and you!
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