5 fears that prevent you live

There are many painful phobiasThat can turn life into hell. We read about them and feel sorry for the poor fellow imagined, not realizing that they themselves live a long time in captivity. Hidden fear is difficult to recognize, as he often appears in childhood and is perceived as an essential character trait. Such fear can fairly spoil your life.

1. fear of poverty

You like well settled - the salary is above average, the loan burden is not inconvenienced. It would seem, live in the pleasure - eat sushi, drove to the sea. But you can afford it do not.

Clothes you buy only the most necessary, ASSUME vacation once a year, darn socks, and bring along lunch in plastic containers. In the menu, the first thing you look at the price, not the ingredients, beverages, try not to take - is not enough to pay for some kind of tea.

Favorite phrase: "I just do not need it", "If I, too, was a husband / brother / father", "Buy a second time," "Everything is so increased in price."

Problem

You are constantly on their toes, because you need to keep track of every ruble. As soon loosened his grip, as necessarily buy something expensive and unnecessary, and then castigates himself for six months. Chances are that you will never be able to enjoy life and die in stress. Whether you're poor, you would have lived much better.

Decision

You do not necessarily grow up poor. Fear to poverty is inherited and is common among people from wealthy families. Weapon in the fight with them will be a sober mind and logic.

Evaluate your budget. Highlight a certain amount for basic expenses, adding to utilities, food and transportation item "NZ". Get a bank account and to submit to that amount every month. Then you will live much easier.

Do not overdo it - refers to the bank half of the salary is not necessary, less than five thousand. The remaining money is also better distributed - at leisure, personal care, household purchases. Or risk everything to pull, because you actually cash alcoholic sober.

2. Fear of wealth, denial of money

You can not save, prize then down to the road or gadget thing, and all the extra money to spend on short-term entertainment. If a lot of money, then buy expensive toys - robot vacuum cleaner, fur boas, shoes twenties, talking coffeemaker. What you just do not have - even the shower head with lighting there will.

You like and are happy, but sometimes for some reason remorse. They say about you: "He has his pockets full of holes."

Favorite phrase: "Why deny myself", "I can afford to," "Let It Be," "We live once."

Problem

Since childhood, you have been told that all the rich - thieves, bloodsuckers and sinners. Now you are grown up, and the money you burdened. Availability of money causes a lot of problems: it is necessary to think how to use them rationally, how not to lose. Easier to spend and not to suffer. Yes, at this rate, you will never get rich.

Decision

A lot of fear associated with money. Solution for all similar - a logical, rational thinking. Proceed in the same way as in the previous case - make a list of needs and see how much money remains available.

Go on - Go with a few long-term goals (repairs in an apartment, buying a car, house). To achieve them, please create a bank account and put back the extra money, leaving himself as long as necessary to a comfortable life without unnecessary things.

If money remains a lot, get a sensible personal finance consultant and find out where to invest profitably. Teach yourself to donate money to charity.

3. fear of responsibility

People are constantly on you want something, and it's annoying. Enthusiasm you do not show, works are carried out strictly according to instructions to rather go home to watch TV series.

You do not like to organize parties. The idea that soon the New Year, is disconcerting. You have achieved a lot, but circumstances prevented.

Favorite phrase: "I did not promise anything", "I do not have anything", "I did not sign it," "Why me?".

Problem

You present everything as if you pressed a circle. In fact, you just do not want to decide anything. Got into his shell deeper, you make miserable themselves and others. After all decisions they make, and you blame them in error. Work with you horrible, to live is no better.

Decision

Most likely, a child's parents often put you all to blame, and abdication of responsibility - it developed over the years of self-defense. But if you do not begin to make decisions, we will never create a normal family, will always hurt, not to build a career, you will be pushed around forever. With age you will become a lonely patient grouch, which shunned all.

So take myself in hand and do anything without having to wait until you are kicked. Start small: organize a family party, invite colleagues to help, sit on a diet.

4. fear of being alone

You backslapper, soul of the company, socialite, one-man band with a bunch of friends. In the store you go with a friend, evening spend in the company, the phone is constantly beeping of the messages. You all helped, and schedule meetings with friends so busy that you are trying to gather groups of friends.

constant partner yet, and you flirt a lot, creating an entourage of admirers, although you have not 19. Everything is done to music.

Favorite phrase: "Of course I can", "I have a lot of plans," "Do you want me?".

Problem

Alone with yourself you are suffering, silence is unbearable for you. You probably go to the village to dig potatoes, than to lie at home with a book, and spend Friday evening with the first counter than lie down to bed early.

You do not learn, not concentrated, unstable, suffer from mood swings. You can not build a personal life are subject dependencies.

Decision

Perhaps you are just a friendly person, but if you stay alone with you hard, then you are really afraid loneliness. Try to shop without companions, a couple of hours per day spent at home in silence reading, collecting puzzle or airplanes models.

Make a list of your friends and try to pay attention only to those who you really roads. So you get rid of unnecessary fuss and will achieve personal growth.

5. Fear does not find himself

You have long understood that the main thing for a man - is to realize its purpose. What you are constantly doing. Packs to buy up literature about the search of his "I", meditating, doing a belly breath, and God knows what else.

Life is not yet glued, but only because you have not found the right path. Sometimes you fall into despair in this world and the creators of successful people, but you put on legs biography Steve Jobs.

Favorite phrase: "All ahead", "I know myself", "Anyone can achieve anything", "We are the creator of your life."

Problem

You always remain in a state of dissatisfaction. Finding the right partner is especially difficult, because all too many shortcomings. Do you ever think that you did not achieve anything, that only reduces the already low self-esteem. Chasing the elusive success, you put aside the real life.

Decision

This fear can be considered a byproduct of the emergence of psychoanalysis. In the next twenty years, he threatens to become the most devastating of all the above.

Not everyone can become great artists, poets and artists, and there is nothing wrong with that. Be a good friend, a father, a neighbor, a partner - not less important role, which can make you happier than millions of fans. More talking with elderly relatives - they are better than you know what happiness is.

Remember that Steve Jobs is famous throughout the world, but subordinates hated him, and killed the disease. Maybe you do not want that?