7 truths of which you never tell family and friends

People often see themselves as quite not what are in reality. Affect emotions and subjective judgments. Environment only exacerbates the situation. Studies have shown that people tend to avoid uncomfortable truth. Therefore, even the best of us at times in their hearts think, "They're bad, and I'm done!"

But just the right self-image helps to achieve success in all areas of life. These truths will help to take a sober look at life and make adjustments to it, if desired.

1. If you do not have what you want, then you do not want

Stop lying to myself that you want to be rich or successful. We have exactly what we want. If money is tight, it means that you are so comfortable. If a number of partner with whom bad, then there is a need to suffer.

Consider the common example. Woman dreams of a rich husband. Subconsciously, she realizes that he can not be interested in a successful partner. After all, who needs to men? Confident, self-sufficient, is watching them, a harmonious relationship.

Lady realizes she can become such, but have to constantly work on yourself. So she decides that it is easier to lie on the couch, eating fast food and watching TV shows than to cook a healthy meal or exercise. A not so bad if you think about Bob, who at hand. Won in Lyudka from the third floor at all to anyone. Therefore, well it, this rich!

2. For you are the way you want it for yourself

Surely you've noticed that the good people of their loved ones and colleagues are frankly bad. Often we do ask the question: "What have I done to deserve such treatment?" The answer is simple: nothing but his own attitude.

If we want to be offended, be sure to find the situation and the person who does something wrong. If you want to suffer, be sure to follow up with those who will do things that bring pain. And if we really want be happyThen such and will, in spite of the fact that anyone does or says.

Can not offend anyone, we can only consciously decide to suffer. And be sure to find a suitable situation - tested millions of people.

Therefore, enough to complain and try to change others. Learn to truly love yourself. You'd be surprised the changes that will occur.

3. There is not and never will be a magic pill, and 100% working methods

Still waiting, when scientists will invent a way to eat and not get fat? I've been waiting for. I am eating cookies and believe in miracles. But the miracle did not happen. A pancreatitis occurred due to improper nutrition. And together with him and forced rigid diet prescribed by your doctor.

Yes, I want sweet, I miss the fries, and the absence in the diet favorite pickles and coffee seemed a tragedy. But nobody said it would be easy. But it turned out that the principle of "eat less" works. I do not need any magic belt, no trainers, no pills. It should regularly work on themselves, and the result is inevitable.

Stop waiting until gurus will share with you the secret of a purely symbolic amount. Take yourself in hand and act now.

• Dreaming lose weight? eat right.
• Need money? Work, not indulge in dreams.
• You want more money? Become the best in the business, looking for new ways to offer the world product.

Yes. This is hard. There will be mistakes and full of bumps. But otherwise there is none. And the idea of ​​a magic pill is best left in the movie "The Matrix", where she belongs.

4. You are free to create successful opportunities

The founder Bertie Charles Forbes magazine Forbes in 1917, wrote: "Mediocrity waiting for the opportunity will come to him. Strong and capable people watch for. The smartest people are creating their own. Opportunities will not help a person who is not accustomed myself to see and use them. " Forbes know what he is talking, and achieved success.

You can wait until the fate will give a suitable partner or a good job. You can express yourself on sites with job or go back to where you would normally get acquainted. Or you can offer yourself as a candidate of the company or the person they come to and meet.

You can refuse, but one said yes. Not because of the fact that the so-formed stars, but because you have created a good chance.

5. Nobody nobody in this world nothing should

Neither children nor wife, nor society, nor own guinea pig. It is worth to remember that we do not love, we do not have to take care of us and should not be treated with respect.

Yes surrounding it can do voluntarily, but not forced. Where there is a place inflated expectations begin insults, accusations and confusion. Once this realization comes, it becomes easier to breathe. And the offense will no longer work.

Familiar is not congratulated on his birthday? The man did not held the door? The neighbor did not say hello? They should not have to do all this. They could, but they did not. It is their right.

We ourselves are responsible for the quality of their lives.

If you want to go to the theater, it is necessary to buy a ticket. If you want to travel, but do not have enough money, earn it. And do not look for a quid pro quo. Maybe she will, maybe not. So simply and without drama.

6. Over time, life did not become easier and better

How nice to yourself is encouraging that the victims now, but then one day everything will be adjusted necessarily become good truck with gingerbread roll over on our street, and then zazhivom.

No, not zazhivom! Then do not exist. There is only now, in which you can do something and change. Time - a convention, it does not cure and does not change in itself. We change when the cease whining and We begin to act.

As long as we put a happy and successful life then it passes.

7. Life is very short

The amazing thing: the person, unlike animals, knows exactly what is going to die. And yet he lives as if this does not happen, if in stock he still so much time that you can spend days and weeks in vain.

We will never know how much allocated to each of us. But in any case, the years pass by quickly. And if you do not take life into their own hands, you can get as a hero of the movie "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears", who was sitting on the bench and said: "One life was foolishly. All puffed up anything, everything seemed to live, and - draft writing, still have time to clean copy... "

Draft no friends! Write a fair copy. Sad about the transience of life is meaningless, because the longer it is on it will not. But you can stop wasting your precious time on a futile exercise, illusions and resentments and to live consciously, filling each day with meaning and joy.

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