How to politely answer a man if he climbs are not in the business

Sometimes the surrounding forget about tact and ask such questions, which baffled his impudence. Answer them frankly no desire, and it is not necessary, because there are many ways to avoid answering and avoid an awkward situation, while remaining within the framework of decency.

diplomatic answers

Sometimes irrelevant questions come from a completely innocent people, which, however, there is no need to spoil relations. And especially it is not necessary to satisfy their curiosity. Suffice it politely but firmly let them know that to develop the discussion of this topic you do not intend. Here's how you can respond:

• I do not want to talk about it.
• Sorry, but it's private.
• Never mind. Oh, well, what a difference.
• Long story.
• Complex issue. I can not go wrong with it to answer.
• But what we all about me! Let's talk about you.
• Sorry, this I can not tell you. I hope you understand.

Incidentally, the phrase "I hope you understand" works wonders. It gives your opponent to realize that you think it polite and considerate man who knows himself, why can not you keep the conversation on the subject affected by it.

Your words will sound benevolent, if you pronounce the them smile.

Answers for especially curious

The fact that for some indiscretion, for others it may be a healthy curiosity in which there is nothing to be ashamed of. Such people are not even aware that they ask you something touched. They are waiting for a sincere response and certainly repeat your question, if you try to hush up the conversation. Hints you too will not achieve anything.

For example, if you respond to inappropriate question counter meaningful "Why do you ask?" Be prepared for the fact that it does not work and the person does not understand that he asked too much. It may happen, and so that you get to this stunning in its simplicity answer: "I was just curious." Then on you will continue to wait for a response. In this case, it will have right to say that you do not want to discuss this topic.

In this dialogue can not be completed because the other person quite honestly ask why you do not want to talk about it. And if you have time and patience, it is not out of place really explain why you think the subject inappropriate. Answer will have simple and direct:

• Because this issue we are discussing only the family and nobody else.
• Because I hate this topic.
• Because it is private and only concerns me.
• Because I promised not to talk about it.
• Because I do not like to share these things.
• Because I do not want to.

It is important to say that calm voice, without having to call in his voice. Give the other person understand that you are not hostile, but also violate their boundaries do not allow it.

Difficult when your partner is not just curious, and deliberately seeks to put you in an awkward position. In this case, it has no choice but to say directly that you do not answer this question and this issue is not discussed.

Answers with humor

The first reaction to the tactless question - shock and outrage. However, ask it, perhaps, did it not in order to hurt you or to provoke a quarrel, but just not thinking. More often than not this sin to friends and relatives, who believe that we are always right they will understand and not be offended. To avoid conflict in these situations, try to laugh it off:

• Is this an interrogation? I demand a lawyer!
• How much do I get? Is work not only provide food?
• It's a secret. Can you keep secrets? I can too.
• Of course, I can tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.
• When married? Today, it probably will not have time. Maybe tomorrow.

So you threw the ball at half field of your interlocutor. Suppose now that he thinks of how to respond to your joke.

Asked? Responsible!

How much do you earn?

• Enough to live.
• Thank you, I do not complain.
• It would be desirable, of course, a little more, but who would not want to, right?

When married / kids zavedet?

• Everything has its time.
• When we are willing to take on such a responsibility.
• As soon as possible.

And why you got fired?

• Long story. Tell better, how are you doing.
• Oh, everything is so hard, you do not want to ship you the details.
• Because everything has an end and there comes a time to move on.

Going out with anyone?

• Everyday! Here today with you, for example, we met.
• On the loneliness I am not complaining.
• I'll tell you later on.

In addition to the evasive answers, jokes and polite bounce, There is another option - to say nothing. You can silently smile and let the question hang in the air. Most likely, your opponent will feel uncomfortable and he wants to change the subject.