10 signs that your relationship

How to recognize the relationship

Dependence always formed the same pattern. Man makes it nice for action or substance use. In response, the brain produces in the nucleus accumbens - or the pleasure center - the neurotransmitter dopamine. It causes euphoria, improves mood and motivation. When the action of dopamine ends, the person is either returned to normal life, or decides to repeat the action. If each time he chooses the second path, then it can be formed relationship with time.

Here are 10 signs that help to recognize an unhealthy relationship with the usual sources of pleasure like alcohol or cigarettes.

1. You change the social circle

Think you are less likely to former friends: they either do not have time or you get bored with them. New acquaintances, you are looking for the same habits. They have things to do, and they are what you are not criticized.

2. All thoughts and conversations you have only one

You talk and think about the subject of his most fun than appropriate. You are stuck on it, and left the old interests. More pressing issues, such as domestic workers or do not seem to be significant.

3. You feel bad if you do not do "what he likes"

Away from the source of pleasure you do not own: you experience anxiety, worry, fear. Can you feel distracted, unable to think. To come back to normal, you need to get back to the "favorite occupation".

4. You are angry, when you forbid the use

Or when you are criticized for it. In response, you snap, you invent excuses, whining, or jokes. After all, your habit - not a problem, as a way to relax. So what?

5. You spend on your relationship too much money

The fridge is empty, account for an apartment is not paid, but your habit with you always.

6. You are willing to do anything to achieve your desired state

If need be, you go to the other side of town at two o'clock in the morning, walk to work, will go to the theft, sovret. The risk does not exist.

7. You are no longer reckon with the opinions of others

Home you can arrange scandals, on the face dismissal. But it does not matter. You continue to follow the habit and will defend their right to do so.

8. You can not live a day without pleasure source

And, sometimes hours. Here is what the psychologist:

9. You feel unimportant, and do not look

You may not sleep or forget to eat. You feel tired and beaten. It may get a headache. Do not have time to maintain a healthy lifestyle, and this is reflected in the appearance and health.

10. Your life is subject to the new routine

The day begins with a favorite habit, held under the slogan of her and she ends up the same. If for some reason the order is broken, and you are not allowed to return to the source of pleasure, you feel empty inside or irritation.

How to get rid of dependence

Psychologists advise to begin to recognize the problem.

Realizing the problem, write down how your life would look like if you never had a relationship. What would you do? Leaflet describing hang in a prominent place: it will remind you of a better life.

When still dare to throw, throw once and for all, with no compromises. If deep down you want to ever return to the habit, then you are not fully aware of the problem. Struggle with himself to continue, and you inevitably will return to the former way of life.

And most importantly, cut the communication with those who do not support your desire to get better. Such people will inevitably pull you back, and in your best interest - to change.