4 standard errors, which we assume when dealing with other people

Verbally person perceives 40% of the information (ie, hearing), but most does not rely on your ears, and your eyes. But this does not mean that you need to control your gestures and facial expressions and do not pay much attention to the fact that it flies out of your mouth and how you sound. Why he did not call me? Why she did not laugh at my jokes? Why did not they call me to his company again? And finally, why I did not take this job? Why did not agree to make a deal?

These 4 Board will not change globally your career or personal life, but they will help to make the first steps towards improvement and warming.

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A parrot

Repetition of the same phrases and words that have just been told, often irritate others. Repetition or paraphrasing just said proposals makes you look like a parrot. Parrot can not hold a conversation, he can only repeat your words and sentences or answer memorized phrases. You're not going to talk seriously with this bird, is not it?

Guide to action. If you realize that like a parrot repeating for the interlocutor, try to find other words or let us know what alternative opinion.

lack of emotion

Try to look at ourselves? What are you man? As flows your speech? Is your tone changing speed, accents? Conversation - a living organism, which is supported by the emotions of the interlocutor. And unless you would be interested in talking to a monument or listen to a speech that pronounced dead (boring) voice without any emotions and inflections? Some teachers of my university would be very surprised if listened to myself from the outside, and finally found the reason why the students are sleeping in their lectures! The same applies to the expression of your face. If it is impossible to read the emotional reaction to the conversation, you are unlikely to be considered a good conversationalist and will be avoided.

Guide to action. Try to record your voice and listen to yourself from the side. If the voice is not enough emotion, practice, play with voice, changing the speed of speech, intonation. Go to the oratory course, in the end. Especially it will be useful for those whose work involves lectures, performances, constant communication with the customer, etc.

Captain obvious

There are people who are going to the cafe on the question of where they go, meet the "Café.". Always like this. No adjectives, updates, etc. After 10 such answers ask again lost all desire, because the answer and so obvious. If you want, so you no longer sleep issues, the answer to that, and so obvious, so continue to respond and more - saves time and nerves. Much more interesting to receive unexpected and humorous answers.

Guide to action. Work out in the witticism, remember interesting quotes and phrases (not colleagues, of course). Sometimes even an accordion with a beard, fished from the network, it will be much better than stale and predictable response. Of course, everything has its limits, so it is not a particularly zealous and consider the person who is responsible. In any case, it's worth it, and the result may surprise you.

conversational Narcissism

No one likes to be listened to and not interrupt in order to turn the conversation to his side. Some people abuse it and ask the question, "How was your weekend?" Only to have to wait for their turn (and sometimes not much waiting) and talk about their weekend. Any question or a topic they can turn so that others had to hear about how this was going on or in them. This source is absolutely not able to listen, inattentive and often causes only irritation.

Guide to action. Watch out for a while talking and try not to interrupt. Be empathetic interlocutor, listen carefully, do not interrupt, ask questions on the topics of conversation and asks about something that has already said the source. So you come across as attentive interlocutor and you will be surprised how to change the attitude towards you in a better way.

My supervisor could not stand for the thesis work, when she listened inattentively or interrupted, asked stupid questions, the answers to which were obviously a lot of talking, and often not the case, and a little I listened. I did the opposite - said little, and often asked in the case, asked again and was interested in the health of her husband and sons. The quality of my work is not affected (recommendations on the case, too, the curator did not like to give), but affect the attitude of the Diploma and to me in a positive way;)