How to become a self-confident: 5 steps to goal
Inspiration / / December 26, 2019
Before we dive into the formation of this confidence, let's go back a step back and try to understand what is a certainty.
Confidence - the knowledge that what you own, would become with what you want and make you happier. It is a prerequisite that the idea became action.
Confidence - the ability to believe in yourself when the scheduled major deal, raise your hand, when there is an interesting project, or to speak at the conference (and without any disturbance!). Confidence - it's not 100 percent guarantee that everything will always work, but it helps to get out of their comfort zone, to expand the boundaries and take a course for success.
Statistics show that success is linked to a greater extent with confidence than competence. So, here are five steps to self-confidence.
1. depicts confidence
As strange as it may sound, but to learn how to be truly confident, initially can mimic confidence. In the wild, some animals pretend to be brave in the face of danger. Pretend you are.
Self-hypnosis does not work. Our brain analyzes and compares our expectations with our experience and the real life situation. If the two are not consistent with each other, the brain is spinning out of control and you begin to experience stress. Appear anxiety and negative thoughts, because of which all the self-confidence disappears. So how can we be?
Better prepare for an exciting situation, rehearse in front of a mirror (pay attention to the tone of voice, and facial expressions) and looks at the positive, have fun communicating with them. This will give the brain "reasonable grounds" to believe that our positive attitude corresponds to a favorable external situation, and confidence itself appears.
2. Do not forget that you expect from yourself more than others from you
The good news is that the world will believe that you demonstrate. Thank God, no one can read your mind, be aware of the fear and anxiety.
The bad news: any sidelong glance, any random word, any people's reactions to your actions, you can misinterpret, and then worry about this (you as far-fetched) over.
In this case, psychologists recommend to listen to your inner voice (do not worry ahead of time, no one is going to persuade you to take a self-suggestion). Spend a little experiment: for one week, write down the thoughts swirling in your head (the exact wording) when you lack confidence.
Simply recording and analyzing your inner dialogue, you will be one step closer to reducing the number and, hopefully, the complete elimination of such thoughts.
In addition, useful to record and to keep on hand a list of their accomplishments, lessons learned, events, that made you feel important, sure, understand that your actions bring favor.
Every time your inner voice is getting out of control, do a three-minute break, take it into the hands of the list and remind yourself how good you can be. Present your brain material evidence, when you need more confidence.
3. Monitor your physical condition
I know it's a cliché - to say that you need to take care of your health, but it's a cliche did not appear out of nowhere. Do you ever wonder why everyone without exception, successful managers regularly participate in sports? If you recycle, you eat fast food, little sleep and leads mostly sedentary lifestyle, it becomes more difficult to demonstrate to the world the best version of yourself.
You do not need to practice till you drop for several hours per day: 30-minute walking from work to home, or lift on the 10th floor of the ladder may be enough to produce endorphins. Start with small changes to their traditional way of life, gradually get used to it.
Difficulties and therefore need to add stress to your life in very small portions. It is necessary to cut around itself around your finger to both physical and mental health are in equilibrium.
4. Increase the return, change your internal dialogue
Do you know why most people skills leave much to be desired? Because they hover in their own thoughts. Instead of focusing on his interlocutor, and to demonstrate their location, they think, how would not blurt out nonsense and that this would be smart to say. The main reason for this behavior: they are poorly prepared.
It is practically impossible to be really confident if you are not ready to have to show their best side. Think about the people with whom you are talking. What do they really want? What's stopping them? How can you help them?
If you focus on helping his companion, you get rid of anxiety and get the same genuine interest in the answer.
This method you should use to promote their services or if you want to impress at any event.
Take time to study the materials on the subject and its audience. Every hour, conducted by doing this, will bring disproportionate result. And what happens when you get a positive response? You guessed it - you will gain long-lasting, genuine confidence.
5. Mistaken quickly, often mistaken
Terrifying word, which paralyzes even prominent people and prevent them succeed - failure. Especially, it does not give rest to those who by nature is a perfectionist and chronically afraid to do something wrong.
But the failures in our lives happen, it's just inevitable. In fact, if you're not wrong, then do not learn anything new. Often remember saying Ramit Network: "It is not failure - it is a sample."
You just check that it does not work. And when you learn, you will be able to move on and find a way that will lead to the desired result.
And most importantly, once came to himself after a "dip", you realize that you do not feel devastated. After all, this experience helps you to face your fears and achieve their goals in the future.