5 rules to help make a decision and not regret

When a person get the chance, you must make a choice to change their lives or to leave everything as it was. Changing jobs, an acquaintance, or a move - you never know, as if the decree of fate, you go the other way. But if there is the right decision?

Clinical psychologist and PhD Peace Branco from Duke University in the United States believes that this is no solution. But you are able to assess in advance, will bring an opportunity for or go in harm. During a speech in a popular radio program The Lisa Valentine Clark Show Dr. He told five rules that will help you not to pass by really crucial chances.

1. Remember that there is an ideal opportunity

Branco ideal offer compares with the works of the abstract: each person sees in their pictures something of their own. So it is with opportunities. For example, speaking about the ideal job, different people will talk about different conditions and obligations.

Think about what you mean by "the right decision", and determine its exact criteria.

Let's say you are looking for work. Ask yourself, what are you waiting for from her. Suppose your ideal option - tea pickers on the plantations of the tropical island. Branco believes that if a new chance will meet the specified criteria for at least 60%, it is necessary to consider it. And if your name is following the harvest of coffee, it is better to accept, rather than waiting for the full compliance with the ideals.

2. Set the boundaries of freedom

Each new solution to change habitual way of life. And even if it changes for the better, the new order of things can cause discomfort. For example, if you are asked to increase the dream, be aware that the new post will almost certainly require more immersion in the work, and you will have less time for family. To avoid disappointment and not overstep the bounds in making career decisions Branco advises prioritize with four points:

• remote work from home;
• salary;
• type of work;
• employment.

Set each of the points of the boundaries that you are not ready to move - so it will be easier to make a decision. For example, you are not willing to spend on the road to work longer than 15 minutes, you expect to pay no less than 50 000 rubles, want to do something creative and not to stay late in the office. Define your items on this list, you will not waste time on job offers, which does not suit you and passes your border freedom.

3. Do not wait for the perfect opportunity - create it yourself

If you just sit and wait for the perfect partner or dream job, most likely, you will be disappointed. Instead, try to make themselves forward steps. If you dream of becoming a writer, the first to send a letter to the publisher. Want to meet a couple - Plant LookingAnd do not wait until you are called for a date image, woven of fantasy.

4. Listen to the signs, which submits your body

Branco believes that the body gives signals to us if we are doing something wrong. For example, if you often experience drowsiness, weakness and fatigue, the cause may not be tight schedule. Probably, you just do not like what you're doing.

However, if the work or relationships are fun, and the body feels better. As an example, the psychologist says that before starting each new project feels pleasant impatience, like a child waiting for a trip to the zoo.

5. Start small

Before you rush headlong into what seems like a matter of life, spend more time studying it, and start small. If you want to win the World Cup Pastry, do not immediately take up the huge cake in human growth. Understand the technology, bake a few cakes and move to the big goal in small steps. High expectations at the beginning of the path will quickly lead to frustration.