Three-second exercise by former Google employees who learn to be happy
Inspiration / / December 26, 2019
Who is this guru
Chad-Meng Tan (Chade-Meng Tan) - former Google developer, and now self-development guru, who daily teaches employees the largest corporations of IT-personal growth, meditation, empathy and Development emotional intelligence.
Chad says that before permanently unhappy. But he was able to change this situation and learn to find joy in each passing day. How did he do it? When Chad was about 25 years old, he discovered that not everything is so bad and the feeling of self-hatred can work.
How to be happy
It turned out that you can change the thinking not only with the help of psychotherapy sessions, but also through special exercises. Chad says it helps to feel a little flash of happiness.
For example, you feel thirsty, so drink a glass of cold water. It is very nice, and you experience the joy and pleasure. This feeling can not be described shouting "Hurray!", Rather "M-uh, not bad."
Such happiness flash usually go unnoticed: eat a piece of chocolate for the first day, go to a cool room with the heat, get a long-awaited response to the message. It's so nice!
Moment of pleasure and joy lasts 2-3 seconds, but it helps to lighten the mood. If you learn to notice, record, then the effect will only intensify.
Chad says, "The little flash of happiness arise constantly. When you notice them once, miracles begin to happen, you will see more and more of these happy moments - anytime, anywhere. Now you can count on the joy and happiness every day. " Count as a best friend.
Why it works
The idea, which is the basis of this advice is simple. Powered by the same mechanism by which we form the habit. Habitual behavior is controlled by the basal ganglia, which are also involved in the creation of memories and emotions. The habitual actions that we carry out, the easier it is to realize, and the less you need to use the brain.
Exercise "flash of happiness" contains the trigger, routine and reward. These are the three ingredients necessary for the formation of habits.
- Trigger performs a nice moment.
- Routine - the fact that you notice this point.
- The reward - a feeling of joy and happiness.
Exercise is good for those who are engaged in meditation. It helps to get into the right state before the start of practice. However, Chad believes that the implementation of the exercise in itself is meditation. In addition, the first we begin to notice the details around you, then - really see.
There is also scientific evidence that supports the idea of Chad. A small study conducted by psychologists at the University of Loyola, showed that the majority of people aged over 55 who can savor pleasant moments, showed high satisfaction with life, regardless of financial status or condition health. Those who could not notice the small joys, feeling bad, and any illness only made worse mood.
This exercise would be worth to learn right now. After all, the older we get, the more we have to savor life. In 2014, a study was conducted, which showed that the elderly easy to describe themselves, listing the pleasant experiences of life. But young people tend to call only rare, "the most-most" dates: release from the university, getting right... But the truth is that all these extraordinary moments seem incredible only you. And the happiness they bring. The number of happy days spent in the pleasure of good events - that's what really matters.
With the result that
- Learn to notice and appreciate the slightest pleasure.
- Feel like they bring you joy and happiness.
- Repeat until the feeling of joy will not enter into a daily habit.
see also
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