9 questions that we are afraid to ask yourself

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Why is it important to ask yourself these questions? I show an example. Tell me where you are?

I am sure there will be many answers: in the subway, at home, on the walk. However, what is important. It is important that you pay attention to it. While I have not asked you sat quietly and slid his eyes over the lines, thought about his.

In other words, the question of controlling our attention. He directs it to where it is particularly needed. Unfortunately, we rarely ask ourselves questions. Perhaps out of habit, perhaps, because we are afraid to be disappointed in the responses.

I have collected questions that draw us to the important topics. So that we prefer not to think about, but which are necessary for our development.

1. Why do I indulge their weaknesses?

We do not think about where are our habits

. Whether harmful or helpful. Over time, it seems that this is simply an indispensable part of life, to smoke a cigarette or seize sadness cake.

Unfortunately, most of our weaknesses - an attempt to drown out the uncertainty and neurosis. And no attention to him to the decision not to approach problems.

2. Why are my plans for life is not fulfilled?

Everyone loved to dream in childhood. What to become, what to achieve. Then we were very honest with yourself and choose only what really attracted. When did you last reconciled with those plans?

It's sad to admit, but the stability was above personal choice, and we have equated the desire to dreams. Therefore it is not surprising that they have not been fulfilled.

3. What do I expect from life?

People are always waiting for something. Sometimes, life in general, sometimes from other people: "And why is that people around do not behave the way I planned?"

I will tell you a secret: the only way to realize your expectations - to match them. Waiting for justice? Be just. Waiting for love? Love.

4. Why I did not I bring the case to the end?

The fact that people regularly postpones case- a sign of strong uncertainty. He believes that he is either not work or get bad. No one likes to admit it.

Although there is a third option - it is not like this. But then why did we start?

5. What have I done today to simplify your life?

We are afraid of this question, because the answer is often - "nothing." Routine, which is repeated a boring script prevents us to enjoy life. But happiness is in the details, the little things that are highly prized. Only need to add them to the schedule.

6. Why would I hold that it is time to leave behind?

Grievances and mistakes of the past - there are people who can not live a day without having to not recall them to someone. This is a simple way to absolve themselves of responsibility. "There I am, life is like." Familiar?

Hold on to what has been - is to miss opportunities right now.

7. I like myself?

The question underlying the self-esteem. Once to answer it is simple, but the effect gives only regularity. It is easy to like himself in a suit and tie. It is more difficult to do this by looking at their shortcomings.

The fact that the disadvantages - it is also you. All your habits, principles, ideas. There is nothing superfluous. So why deny it?

8. I am responsible for what I have?

Why do I have such a profession? Such a relationship? The answer is "because that is my choice" deprives us of the right to complain.

It is clear by the example of the relationship. Here you choose a partner for the best quality, but do not suffer the disadvantages. So, you love only the part of the person, which is convenient. But choose something you all.

Life - this amount is your choices. Respect them.

9. How do I live?

The most difficult question. You need to set it yourself regularly and regularly give an honest answer.

Our behavior every day - a reflection of our attitude towards life in miniature. If we give in now wrath, Why believe that tomorrow will get rid of him?

This question is at the same time returns to date and shows over what to work on.

Finally

The practice of killing fear. Therefore, ask yourself these questions as often as possible.

Start now. As long as you have read in my head for sure there were your answers. Take five minutes to decide if they suit you. And remember, sometimes the question - this is the answer.

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