If you "ask": tips dismissed

Now a lot of those "asked for." They are different. But most often it is an ambitious and very bright young men or women - victims of war or corporate or social climbers, whose goal We parted with the objectives of the authorities, and ambitions are not allowed to do, what not to believe, or simply a victim of the crisis, when companies are compressed and die.

They are very similar in the first months after the dismissal:

• The first week - euphoria over what will happen next.
• From the third week of the month, two or three - the dense depression over the "I am a loser."
• Then two or three months - the realization of what had happened, and the search for a new job.

If realized past mistakes and, above all, to realize what's next, the further - access to work for six months. If you do not understand and do not realize that it is waiting for some work-through of the year, a bad reputation in the market, the internal effect of fatigue and a downed pilot.

What to do if you "ask", and a new job is not?

To think only about themselves. Not about former colleagues, subordinates, past conflicts - all will understand. Your task - to escape from the maximum to your parachute and start a new life. To do this, it is very important not to take part in the intrigues and coalitions that have been left behind. This is not your war.

Do not feed the green cockroach: now I'm gone, and everything dies. Do not die. None of these businesses who die from the dismissal of even very steep mercenary. You are not the creator, you are a mercenary. As long as you feed this cockroach, you do not think about the future. And do not think about the future is detrimental to you: the past, you've already lost.

Do not think in terms of "I lost", "I am a loser." Even if you lose, it is an occasion to analyze and move on. As long as you're alive, you're not a loser.

It's just one small step in your life. You will think so - the new steps may not arise: nobody likes to mess with someone else's depression. And employers do not pay for it.

Do not rush to the first available job. It is important to find a dream job if you do not, then at least to the next step. And in order to find it, we need to understand what you are looking further, and choose consciously.

Analyze your past mistakes already with a clear head, looking at the situation from the outside, and understand what you do not want to ever again. Only by understanding, look for its work.

Relax. Be sure to leave. It is impossible from a painful past to jump immediately to a bright future. Head should be cleaned of cockroaches. It is better to relax than stupid to drink in a Moscow apartment. :)

In the first six months, not to take away from the former employees of the company. Remember, it's bad for your reputation. And secondly, you have not understood the new job. You call people not yet in reality, and in their illusions.

Not to return. Never. If you call again on the old job, where "we ask" (and not the left), then do not. The second time will be the same: you would be fired again, only faster and more humiliating.

You see, people do not change. If your boss one day realized that he could not work with you, then it is without you can forget it, but on the third day of mutual existence remember.

Read column Alena Vladimir - an expert in recruitment and HR in RuNet - about work and career. And for those who long and unsuccessfully looking for a job of honorOn "Antirabstve" there is such a course.