Depression is the opposite: 7 happy man claims

A popular method for determining the doldrums proposed therapist Aaron Beck. In 1961, based on the analysis of clinical cases, he compiled a list of the most significant symptoms of depression. 21 of them came. According to this list, Beck developed a test that to this day helps to assess the likelihood and level of depression.

Familiarity with test Beck gave me the idea. If these symptoms indicate the presence of depression, then their absence corresponds to a state close to happiness. Then I chose the seven most clear criteria and "turned" them. Every person I have turned into a statement, confident and happy.

1. I'm not worried about the future

For a happy man the main landmark in time - is now. He is not burdened errors past (on this later), and do not worry about the future. Why?

Because he understands that now is doing everything in his power.

In one article I read a sure way to determine the true desire of man: to see what he is doing today. Neither his plans or achievements of the past and current actions correspond to the personal aspirations.

You know that the main thing in life? The main thing - that the life of one. A minute passed, and the end. The other will not be ...

Sergei Dovlatov

2. I do not feel somewhat guilty

It seems that this statement says about the lack of conscience. Let's face it.

Depression and emotional depression makes you think that we could fix it, as they could have done differently. But go back to the last point: we can not. At any time, we are doing everything in our power.

Think about this: if you make a mistake, then, in another it could not be. Because otherwise you would not be wrong.

You see?

3. I do not feel that I can be punished for anything

Neurotic feelings make us think that we deserve punishment. For the thoughts, actions, desires. The man in depression believes that someone from the outside dispenses justice on him.

The truth is that we alone are responsible for their decisions. This means - to take each of them, good or bad, and move on.

4. I know I'm no worse than others

Comparing yourself with others - a classic sign of shattered self-esteem. Just think, the first root word - "himself", then someone else's evaluation should not have to bother us.

Man will not be happy to prove to someone that he is better. While he is such in their own eyes, the rest will not matter. Unfortunately, some closer to the old adage: "Never mind that their own cow died, bad that a neighbor is alive."

Learn to be proud of the achievements, because they are yours, and not because someone had praised.

5. I rarely save their decisions

People who still lay, are afraid to answer for their decisions. Afraid not to pursue the case, or do badly. Easier for them to do at all.

The Russian psychologist Michael Labkovsky have on this subject rule: stick to the decisions to end. If you made an appointment with a friend, nothing will stop you, except the circumstances of force majeure. Without any doubts. I decided and brought the case to the end.

Deferred solutions generate uncertainty. Decisions been finished - healthy self-esteem.

6. I do not feel that I look worse than usual

How appearance correlates with happiness? Very simple. I mentally vulnerable person's appearance - the self-assessment test. He is important to the surrounding appreciated his efforts and shared appreciation.

It's different for a healthy person. It will appeal to themselves and in sports trousers and a jacket from of Armani, because he knows - only noteworthy character. You need to look in the mirror if necessary. Everything else for us to tell things.

7. I have not lost interest in other people

Socialization - an innate human need. It starts in childhood, when we perceive the other as a source of knowledge about the world and about themselves. This process continues to old age.

You may have heard about the Harvard studyGood genes are nice, but joy is better happiness, one of the many social experiments (he began in the 50s of the last century). Its purpose was to identify the criteria for a happy life.

And in 2009, the question "What is the opening in the work you think is most important?" The former head of the project said:

"The only thing that really matters in life - relationships with other people."

Do not forget about it and keep in touch with others. Especially close.

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Describing these allegations, I pursued a single goal - to remind of the importance of being happy. Scary, if some of them you are not yet ready to apply to him. The main thing - now you understand better how to do it. Musician Carlos Santana once said:

"Be happy - it is not the goal, and not acquired good. This decision. "

It remains only to take it.

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