20 vital truths, which is to remember every

UPD. Text updated August 26, 2019.

1. life is precious

As long as you do not like life, it passes, so do not expect perfect conditions and appreciate what you have. Yes, we have work to do, obligations to others, problems and concerns, but that is no reason to deny yourself the pleasure. Do not forget to periodically come back now and realize that you are alive, and life, in spite of all the troubles, beautiful. Appreciate every moment.

2. All people make mistakes

Forgiving offenses themselves and others. People constantly make mistakes, no matter on what positions are and what the burden of responsibility lies on them. It's just part of the life of any of us.

If suddenly the airline lost your luggage or employee of the bank incorrectly recorded your name, you should not get angry and raise a stink. Ask to correct the situation, but a transgression Treat others with understanding. So you save the nerves themselves and others, and do not become to bring even more negativity in this world.

Also, do not forget to forgiving yourself. Your miscalculations in the past. Remove from missteps

lessonsBut do not worry because of them: it is a waste of energy.

3. Health is not a joke

Your body copes with the most problems, and without your participation. Nevertheless, it depends on you how many years it will be able to survive without serious disruptions. Eat healthy, be active, do not sit too long in one place, take care of your teeth. Get enough sleep every day and in any case do not put work above wellness.

Remember, a healthy lifestyle is much cheaper than treatment.

4. People close to the important work

Health is not the only thing that is not worth the sacrifice for the sake of work. It is easy to convince yourself that the work is most important. It brings money, without which it can not live. Many do not stop working even after they come home: think constantly about affairs, decide questions by phone and e-mail.

Working activity is certainly important, but spent time with loved ones is much more valuable. Friends, relatives and loved ones will not always be there. Visit parents, meet friends, dedicate pm children. Rejoice in these moments and appreciate them.

5. Time - your main resource

You have about 70 years to make all our plans and leave a mark in this world. And in recent years, 20 of them to learn new things, to travel long distances and endure dramatic changes in the living conditions will be much more difficult.

therefore not waste time. If you want to achieve something - move to the goal, if you want to do something - do. Live as you want, but not your relatives, friends or anyone else. Do not waste years on unloved occupation, even if it pays well. You can make money, but the time spent will not return.

6. The opinion of others does not mean anything

Too often, we give importance to what others think of us. But no matter how important or looked someone's role in your life, it's just people, just like you. They also occasionally do stupid things and behave strangely. And their opinion means absolutely nothing.

Forget about the shame and fear that if you do not do anything illegal and is not objectively harm to others, their thoughts do not need you to worry. Your peace of mind and harmony with them is much more important.

7. Almost any problem can be solved

All ever start to dwell on the problems. You lost beloved umbrella in the car something began to crack, and the chief at work constantly makes comments. Sometimes it seems that trouble - it's what makes up life. Unfortunately, many only on his deathbed understandThat no problem is not worth it, that because of her worry.

Almost all the troubles can be overcome. Umbrella - you buy a car - to fix and work - to change. But return the energy and time spent in the depressed state, it is impossible.

8. Honesty - the main condition for harmony

Think of a reason not to go to a party, to lie with the authorities lateness or to express admiration for a gift that is actually not very much, it seems to be something ordinary, harmless.

But when you are cheating yourself or others, fall into disharmony with themselves and the world around them. If your thoughts, words and actions contradict each other, the integrity of life disappears. There is disagreement, and personality as it is divided into several parts, which can not agree. One part wants to tell the truth, the other - to deceive, to make your life easier, the third - to embellish reality, to put yourself in the best light.

Being honest is not easy: it is possible someone accidentally hurt or reprimanded at work. But in the end such behavior will help you become a better, more responsible attitude to the problems, with great attention - to the feelings of relatives and friends. And honesty with them - recognizing their own mistakes and cons - will be the person you want to be.

9. Happiness - is the choice

Sometimes it seems that happiness - is a kind of special condition that can be earned the hard work, the perfect solution of domestic problems and the heroic self-sacrifice. In fact, to feel it, do not the special conditions are needed. Happy you can be at any time of life, you only need to afford it. You are worthy of this feeling, simply because you are.

Until happiness is impossible to reach, because it depends on your internal state. For it does not need to fight, it does not need to earn. You just allow yourself to be happy.

10. Fears only hinder

Each person is afraid of something: layoffs, loss of loved ones, health problems. Test fear of course, but not necessarily. Succumbing to it, we have much to lose. We are working late, because we are afraid of losing positions. Do not give yourself to truly relax on the weekend, because we are afraid not to achieve something. We are trying to constantly monitor the children because experience for them.

Fears unrelated to a direct threat to life and health, greatly hinder a harmonious and happy life. Get rid of them. Do things that scare you. Stepping into the unknown. It is better to try and make mistakes than to regret in the end, it never tried.

11. Things - it's just things

People often worry about trifles, including due to material things. New T-shirt dirty, scratched on your phone, the child painted door to the room - the reasons for the disorder can be set.

Do not do like this. material things are transient. They certainly are not worth your energy and nerves. Rather than attach too much importance to the subjects, focus on your well-being and relationships with loved ones. This makes more sense.

12. Everyone needs support

Every now and then I want to hear that all is well. Do not be afraid to ask for support. It acknowledges that it is difficult and bad - a sign of strength. A build of a terminator, which do not need anyone, on the contrary, the index of weakness.

And do not hesitate to provide support to others. Especially for those who looks incredibly self-sufficient. Most likely, these people need help the most. A simple compliment a person's ability or encouraging phrase It can work wonders.

13. It all depends on your point of view

You've heard phrases like "Do not we have such a life such," or "This world is cruel." Many people believe that life is full of dangers and it is constantly need something to fight to achieve something and someone to overtake. In fact, it is incredibly versatile. Every second, thousands of events taking place on different scales, each of which can be viewed from different angles.

Suppose you left your favorite hat in the subway. On the one hand, sad to lose a dear heart thing. On the other - this is a great reason to go to the store to buy a new one. For sure it will be even better, and shopping will cheer up.

That what makes up your life, just depends on what you focus attention and how you perceive it.

That the world has ceased to be cruel, just enough to stop focusing on the bad.

14. Self-love and selfishness - is not the same thing

Love yourself - a prerequisite for a happy life. Some do not allow themselves to this because they believe that self-love is equivalent to selfishness. In fact, two different things. Selfishness - this behavior is when a person puts their interests above those of others. A love of self implies that it is not reproaches himself for the mistakes, and praise for achievements He takes care of itself.

To go over the head, to push forward line and use people for their own purposes - it is the prerogative of the egoist. Loving yourself a man, on the contrary, will be honest, open and compassionate, because he does not need to solve their problems at the expense of others.

15. The less you wait, the less you will be disappointed

All people make mistakes, and, therefore, do not expect anyone ideal behavior. However, many do just that, and then get disappointed in people. It is much more logical to not wait for anything. While other offenses will not surprise you, or hurt, it's normal human behavior. A display of good taste and respect the contrary, will delight.

16. Everyone has different tastes

There is no objective way to assess how the work of art is good or bad. As there are no objective criteria that rank as art and what is not. It all depends on the tastes of a particular person, and they are formed on the basis of a huge number of factors: education, character, habits, complexes, environment.

So that all disputes on the Internet about what a film, an album or a book is better or worse, it is absolutely meaningless. If a person says that the movie that you personally do not like the masterpiece, he will not attack you or your tastes, but simply expresses opinion. You may agree with his statement or not, the main thing - remember that the truth can not exist in this matter, and your tastes are not in need of protection. We all like different things, and that's fine.

17. changes needed

To move forward, you need to change something. It happens that changes scare us, but these fears can not resist. Only with time can be assessed, positive changes have been or not, and decide whether or not to return to the previous conditions.

In this case, even negative changes should not be afraid. They are also useful: make us think differently, to think about their values ​​and goals in life, sometimes give motivation to work harder or take better care of yourself.

18. Condemnation bane

Surely you are familiar with this situation: someone at work makes nonsense, and others to discuss the man with other colleagues. This is a normal mechanism when we are not sure of yourself, belittling the other it allows you to feel better.

Nevertheless, it should not do. Judging others deteriorates the quality of your life, making you dependent on other people's failures. Not to mention the fact that discussing someone behind him just wrong from a human point of view. Do not get fooled by the argument "it's all done." Everyone does it in vain. Nonjudgmental your life will be more peaceful.

19. Not everything has to be perfect

Cinema, literature, advertising create for us the image of an ideal world. In it all the family happy, people - breathtakingly beautiful, the characters - a strong and wise, and relationships - infinitely romantic. Unfortunately, the reality is not so. Most families suffer from the same problems that people are full of flaws, and relationships - of misunderstanding and conflict.

But this world and interesting. The disadvantages of doing things, events and people alive and give us a chance to absorb valuable lessons to get better.

We are not the characters of movies or books, but the heroes of their own stories, which are much more valuable than the fictional, because what happens in reality.

20. Be a good person - it's free

Any nice when it is helped or treated respectfully with him. But while few people trying to behave the same way with the rest. A pity, because such behavior benefits all. If you do good, people forgive mistakes, keep quiet in a conflict situation, you do better themselves and the world around.

If exercised, then this behavior is simply no flaws. you become happierWhen are giving love and warmth to others, you begin to feel better, and feel the joy more often. And most importantly - it is absolutely free. So why not start now?