How do you know that you are deceiving: 8 surest signs

changes in breathing, extra details, unjustified aggression - to these and other signals can be determined liar.

Travis Bradbury

Psychologist, one of the authors of the book "Emotional Intelligence 2.0," co-founder TalentSmart.

People lie. And constantly. there is evidenceSelf-Presentation and Verbal Deception: Do Self-Presenters Lie More?That 60% of us manages to tell lies about three times during the 10-minute conversation (and sometimes do not even notice!). Fortunately, most of the cheaters is easy to calculate.

The man is lying to you if ...

1. Cover your mouth and vulnerable parts of the body

Liar often covers his mouth or simply touches the lips. Such a gesture indicative of the termination of the subconscious communication.

Also deceiver instinctively closes the vulnerable parts of the body: head, neck, abdomen. The reason is that lying causes him to prepare for the attack.

2. Repeated and gives too much detail

Liar hates silence, so he tries to fill every second of the conversation with unnecessary detail. With the help of these fictional details, he tries to convince the interlocutor himself of the truth of history.

Deceivers tend to repeat the same phrase.

So he's trying to buy time to gather his thoughts.

3. Is preparing to retreat

Lie makes man instinctively look for ways to escape. Therefore, cheaters, if there are, close to the door, and if you are sitting, then deployed to the exit.

If the source suddenly ceases to be in a relaxed position and becomes more collected, it can also be a sign of lying. With his hand is yet another way to prepare to retreat.

4. His words and body language do not match

An obvious sign of fraud - a contradiction between the words of man and non-verbal cuesThat it sends.

A striking example: Someone tells a tragic and serious story of his life, with smiles and behaves quite briskly.

5. His breathing changed

Deceiver reflex begins to breathe heavily because of the lie varies heart rate. Sometimes even a liar can be difficult to say, because it dries the mouth - this is another reaction to the truth.

6. Atypically moving eyes

We can not say that for a single direction of view speaks of fraud. If you know the person well enough, something unusual for him eye movement may indicate lying.

However, one universal way to calculate a liar by his eyes still there: if the person is constantly looking at the door, it is possible that he is lying to you.

7. gets aggressive

The best defense - attack. That is why a liar is prone to sudden and unreasonable outbursts of rage.

Another aggressive signal it sends a subconscious - a long, unblinking stare.

So the liar is trying to look more truthful, but instead terrifies and at the same time gives you.

8. nervous

Any manifestation of excessive anxiety can indicate a lie. This includes orzanie on a chair, permanent contact with the hair, nervous movements with his hands and feet. Especially revealing last point: if a person moves a lot of legs, so his body is preparing to escape. That is, subconsciously he feels threatened.

important clarification

Before incriminate someone, look at his behavior. If the above listed person sends signals continuously, it is not necessary that before you pathological liar. Maybe he just naturally fidgety or suffers from ADHD (a syndrome of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder).

The situation can be reversed: someone is lying to you, but does not exhibit the features described herein. So can behave psychopaths because they do not feel guilt or anxiety due to cheating. Fortunately, we also calculate their can.