That we should give up even before smoking

All constantly talk about the dangers of smoking, okay, it's long been known, no one disputes that it is necessary to throw. But in the life of every person there is a few things that every day brings him harm. They poison the life, and we do not even notice how it happens believing that everything is in order. We go to the gym, eat salads, give up alcohol and cigarettes, but continue to envy, to conceal resentment and constantly complain about their lives. Maybe it's time to give it up?

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Each of us has ever experienced these sensations. It would be good times, but we experience them more often and somehow did not worry too much, as if it does not affect the quality of life. And in actual fact, it affects, and how!

Almost everything we do is aimed at achieving the same - happiness.

But if you poison the stupid habit, no matter what you do, happiness is not, and is not due to the fact that little money and friends do not have a loved one or

favorite occupationAnd because, no matter what the conditions are excellent or you tossed life, you will still unhappy.

Here are four of these toxic habits that interfere take the coveted prize.

1. Envy

This is the more dirty trick, which does not give nor enjoy his success or successes of others. Social Networking - an excellent tool for the development of envy.

Sociologists from the University of Utah conducted a survey of 435 students and found that from the time a person spends on the social network, it is directly related to the ratio of their lives. The more people are looking at other people's lives (or rather, their edited reflection), the more the thought that others spend more than happy and rich than they are.

The reality is also quite envy, which makes mourn over his failure, thinking that this is true.

What to do

If you think for one day changed places with another person (for those who are jealous of you), you would have liked it a lot do not. In all their suffering and their awards, and other people is not better than his.

You can not compare yourself with anyone, everyone had a particular past, have their talents and opportunities, challenges and adversity. Just do not compare, there are no criteria by which to do it.

2. offense

If you disassemble the very resentment, it turns out that this discrepancy is your reality expectations.

Imagine, for example, that you have stumbled on the street, they fell and hurt yourself hurt the spilled product. Not far from this unfortunate incident was a blind beggar, who asked for alms. You do not expect that he will rush to help you, so no resentment toward him is impossible. But if your friend is standing next to the work and just watched as you crawl on the asphalt, collecting scattered oranges, resentment would be a serious and lifelong.

If you do not take into account the causes of resentment, it is a strong negative emotion that haunts you for a long time. At any mention of the man inside will flash a fireworks of negative emotions, and long-standing grudges at all dangerous to health as insufficiently treated injuries.

How to get rid of it

In order not to get upset, you just do not expect anything from people. They do not need you: do not be polite, pleasant, caring, understanding, friendly. Take it as it is.

Of course, this does not mean that you have to endure even rude, people who have not set at naught, and other unpleasant types. Just make your own conclusions, with whom you want to continue to communicate and with whom it is necessary to bow. No offense to life will be much easier.

3. complaints

Being miserable is very easy to be happy harder and steeper.

Thom Yorke

Complaints get into the habit, and if a person gets used to complain, no matter how he runs his life, he still finds, ponyt about. If a person is always complaining, so he sees only the negative aspects of his life, only to notice the problem, and what a hurry to tell everyone around.

No objective assessment of his life, there is only the way you see it. If you see only the negative, but he is. And all for what? For the sake of a sympathetic look from the outside?

4. conviction

Well, the last bad habit - the credo of grannies on a bench in a world filled with drug addicts and prostitutes. We are so pleased to condemn other personally and collectively. Gossiping all, regardless of gender and age.

What is interesting in this: you can not blame other people, not using the same evaluation criteria to himself. How many times have I noticed how people who explode and shout at others for some flaws, just scold yourself for mistakes, if not harder.

So, the condemnation of the two sides. One of them - the condemnation of others, and the second - a favorite (only in this case has not loved).

What to do

In this world, everyone is entitled to a mistake and all so different that an objective assessment of the actions, again, can not be. You have never been in the shoes of the other person, you do not know how he lives, how he lived before, what kind of thoughts swirling in his head. It's like a football match comments blindly, based only on the cries from the stands.

As for the condemnation of himself - a man whom you know very well, just remember that it came to nothing lead. Never. Perhaps this habit left over from their parents how to copy the model of behavior, but it sure does not motivate anyone. On the contrary, it makes you feel like a failure, suck it up and suffer. So to complain, maybe.

All bad habits

I saw a long time ago this practice probably heard a lot about it, because it for some time been very popular on the web. The practice is called "purple bracelet," and I thought about it, because it just offers a time to get rid of all the toxic thoughts.

This practice is suggested as early as 2006 the priest Will Bowen. The bottom line is that we must put on hand purple bracelet and 21 days to live without complaint, criticism others and themselves, gossip and statements of dissatisfaction (no envy here, instead of it - saying dissatisfaction). I think it is possible, the main thing - not to speak. If a person is unable to cope, he wears the bracelet to the other arm and 21 days begins again.

When I heard about this practice and decided to try it. I thought it was very easy, because I do not like to complain, I prefer not to gossip and all that.

It turned out that it's incredibly difficult. The very next day, I suffered a bracelet on the other hand at work, for whatever reason, expressing dissatisfaction. Then again and again. Disguise it had two or three times a day, even though I would never have called herself a whiner and eternally dissatisfied type.

Now even sell these bracelets: would idea, There are people who are in it to make money. Maybe the money spent do not give so easy to give up, but is not the point.

You can make yourself a bracelet, tie the hands of a simple thread in any color or use for this purpose the ring that will flip from hand to hand.

The main thing here - to throw finally poisonous thoughts.

If you have your own ideas on how to wean yourself from bad habits to complaints, criticism and other grievances, please share in the comments.