How to relax and live the present day
A Life / / December 19, 2019
When we act aimlessly and only react to what is happening every day, then we drive ourselves into the frame. Our character is softened, we gradually lose the ability to set themselves objectives in accordance with its plans, the forces are only response.
We are moving in the flow influence us desires and goals of others. Only years later, comes to us understanding - we finally wake up and realize that the time spent is meaningless. There are profound experiences of suffering, but it may already be too late to change anything. All this can be avoided if to stop living under pressure and take control of your life in your hands.
Control your thoughts
Life takes place here and now. But often we let this slip away from us, and squander precious minutes, worrying about the future and remembering the past. At work, we dream about vacation and vacation worry about the amount of paper, waiting for us at work. To live the way you want it you have to learn to live each moment.
Be attentive to the present and to your thoughts. Try to watch them, but not to give them adrift. Control your thoughts. You will notice, as will become more conscious use of time, stop
prokrastinirovat. You will have more time and energy on the important things.Learn to enjoy the beautiful view, and do not think about how long you go home, eat cookies without thinking about what it will give you an extra kilos. Allow yourself to simply enjoy the moment and do not experience undue fear.
To do something well, stop to think about it
We often think that others value us every minute. For example, the lesson of dance you can not relax, because you know that do not know how to dance and looks ridiculous in the eyes of others. conviction fear does not allow people to try new things. But everyone is too busy to constantly celebrate your failures.
If something scares you very much - public performance, the need to talk on the phone with a stranger or the first trip to the gym - do not focus on it. So you will only reinforce the fear.
Try to focus less on yourself. Pay more attention to what is happening around. Be aware of themselves as part of an event, rather than a single character. This will help to cope with the emotions and respond appropriately to the environment. So you will be able to work on their weaknesses.
To make the most of the time as much as possible, to lose his account
When you are absorbed by interesting work, you cease to follow the time. This happens when we like what we do. And yet we do not see the time when we sleep. But you can not just plunge into work with his head, not wanting this, so it is important to create optimal conditions for such activities.
Pick an interesting target, that will teach you a new way. It should not be so heavy that you are experiencing stress, moving toward her, and too easy to not get bored in the process.
prioritize
One of the problems that hinder us to achieve their goals - the difficulties that we think. We often believe that we must do something, even though it is not. Do you think about it, do something without desire, without seeing in this sense, just out of habit.
whether it is really necessary or useful? To find out what is important to use your life Pareto law - 20% of your actions generate 80% of the results. Find out what it include the 20% and we pay more attention to them, and the remaining 80% have a look in a new way. Try to put them in less time and labor to make room for something useful.
Make a plan to anything you are not distracted. Please describe in detail all his affairs. So you do not have to be distracted in the process and remember what else to do. You can use a very simple plan. The main thing is that it is sufficiently detailed.
If something bothers you, do not run from it
We all experience negative emotions - the pain of separation, frustrated by a failed school project, fear of public speaking. It's quite normal.
However, the problem may lie in the fact that we begin to experience secondary emotions. For example, when we are angry at their own performances, afraid of the pain of separation, we are nervous at the thought of having to make a new project. So we just longer experience unpleasant feelings. Way out of this - taking their feelings.
Do not try to change what happened. Just live on without pushing their emotions and without judging yourself for them. Negative experience allows us to grow if we are not afraid to analyze it.