How to find your life purpose

One of the most shocking discoveries was that for me that a very small number of people do not really give a damn about me. With the exception of two or three close friendsOf course. As for everyone else, then the most that they were able to - is to write me a sympathetic message on Facebook, if you suddenly found out that there was something wrong. With this sad truth, I had to accept.

Teachers, teachers and parents from an early age have spoiled us with their care and guardianship. We've learned that there is always a person able to take us under his wing. Someone is always telling us what to do. The only thing required of us in childhood - is to listen and not to violate any rules. And everything was fine. And then all of a sudden started adult life, and the real world upon closer inspection was not the most pleasant thing.

No one tells us what to do when it comes to important issues. Do you want to establish with whom a relationship? Make it yourself. You want to find a job that would really like? All in your hands. You want to be always surrounded by faithful friends, ready to help? It seems you already know what the answer is.

The situation is particularly acute when it comes to our careers. It seems that we are stuck and just marking time, Will not move. We know that there are things that we like, we dream about how to make a mountain of money, doing things you love, but a clear plan of action that would help to achieve the desired result, we not.

We unconsciously waiting for someone who will come and help solve all our problems and where you want to send. We are waiting for someone who can take us back under his protection and to start caring. And what power comes frustration when we realize that such a person does not exist in nature.

However, before we will understand, will take years. We all find ourselves in the same boring job where wasting their time and talents, feeling can not be stupid and worthless. Let's make sure that right now this is not happening to you. Here are some tips on how to find your life purpose.

1. Knock on closed doors

Many of us do not even begin to look for a job that would bring satisfaction, but out of fear fail. No one wants to feel useless and rejected. Having been refused, you start to think that is not good enough for the desired position, and it is actually not the case. It is not necessary to engage in soul-searching. Think of failure as an opportunity to understand themselves, to assess their capabilities and to understand on what exactly would you like to focus on.

The only thing you want from employers - is that you regularly perform duties and solve problems as they arise. Let them know that you are the person who understands the situation and is able to find a way out of this situation. Do not be afraid to try new things and try not to miss a single opportunity.

2. Set a clear goal

Thousands of companies have placed thousands of ads every day, hoping to find employees that would come to them. The labor market is constantly someone in need. In today's world, everything is simplified to impossibility: it is enough to have access to the Internet, to be aware of who, where and who is required. Just think how ridiculously silly you look, if you do not take advantage of it.

The labor market is constantly someone in need. Do not miss this one million opportunities!

In order not to get lost in the ocean of information, you should clearly define to what you want and what position applying for. The clearer the target, the more likely to get an advantage over those candidates who are yet in thought and not in a hurry with the decision, weighing all the pros and cons.

3. Ask more questions

Many people think that all the answers can be found, if you delve into yourself and self-examination. Overestimating the value or brick by brick by analyzing their actions, we hope to find some detail, which could be corrected to clarify everything. And then we'll know exactly where to go next. Alas, not at all. So it's not working.

You know what happens with startups in Silicon Valley who have a brilliant idea, but abstracted from the requirements of the market and consumers? They are going bankrupt. Yes, their idea, no doubt, was simply excellent, but somehow it was not absolutely necessary to anyone.

So it is with the work. You can not match the desired position, if you do not know anything about the market requirements. One should always be aware of the events. This means that in the search for work is necessary to constantly monitor the situation, to know everything on employers and the people occupying the position in which you are interested. You need not hesitate to ask them questions.

What are the duties you perform on a daily basis? Do you like your job? You do not regret that have been in this position? Are you sufficiently independent in making operational decisions? What problems does your company? What do you want to do next year? How about five years? Do not be afraid to be curious and interested, this is the best way to scout out the situation and not spend years moving in the wrong direction.

4. Find your passion and follow it

Passion - is something that you want to develop. She will not be waiting around the corner, it needs to grow. You always have to do something, not sit still. And try to do it as best as possible, to become a true master in his field. And then we can say that the process started - the passion is not long to wait, and always will be. Needless to say, "I do not know what my passion." You just have to admit that you have until it was groped.

Cal Newport (Cal Newport), scientist, author of several bestsellers on the work and motivation

The statement "Choose a job to his liking, and you do not have to work a single day in his life" obviously absurd. Even a favorite work sometimes tends to turn into a real hell. And that's fine.

All you need to start - is to find an activity that will seem interesting to the majority of working time. Learn basic with it, deal with the details, understand what your strengths, Conquer the trust of colleagues, will get the first results, make your customers happy.

Gradually, you will become more confident in themselves and in their abilities, will notice the first visible results, and begin to be proud of them and himself. Small steps, slowly but surely, you will move to the attainment of real passion and a sense of pleasant satisfaction of work done. The main thing - to act. Go for it!