How to accept and love ourselves: 6 Tips on Lesi Ryabtseva
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
Les Riabtseva
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You can be thin, fat, tall or short, wise, quick, slow, can be disciplined or sloppy... You can be anything, even almost perfect, but not the fact that this will favorite. And we all know: that you fell in love with the surrounding, you must first love yourself the most. Below I've gathered tips for those who want to get acquainted with the present, accept yourself and love.
1. Not to please others
Often we act on the basis of a false sense of duty or guilt. Installations such as "we need" and "well made" separate us from his own desires. Altruism - that's fine as long as not contrary to the healthy egoism. Helping others - a good thing, and voluntary, but optional.
Before you take on extra obligations, make sure it does not hurt you most.
2. Stop please everyone
In an effort to please others, we often forget about their own desires, their health and interests. The most senseless desire - to please everyone, because it is simply impossible. Banal "how many people, so many opinions" should be free us from having to pay attention to
foreign criticism, but no. We still subconsciously seek their own, those who approve and praise, and not just because we are social creatures. Nevertheless Delhi two public opinion: it changes like the wind.3. Do not be afraid to say "no" and "yes"
We are afraid to refuse, even though we really do not want to do something, because the experience that we deem unresponsive, selfish. But just need to learn to say "no" respectfully.
We "yes" in no hurry to speak, as if afraid to seem intrusive, or worse, too ambitious, as if badly want above and beyond what we have and so there. There is nothing bad to say about their desires and say "yes" without aggression, without hurting others.
4. To allocate an hour a day for yourself
Sometimes in the rush between the dashes from home to work and from work to home, we can even forget to eat, distracted in the household routine. Mark one hour a day, and one day a week to stay with him alone. You without remorse can devote them to itself. Warn family and friends that this time you will not be able to respond to their requests.
It is advisable to plan for this hour for itself either early in the morning before all the cases, while you do not disturb home and work chores, or just before going to bed, when all the works are completed, and the thought of them will not to distract.
5. Do not talk bad about yourself
Golden rule "Treat people the way you want them to treat you" also applies to the other side:
Treat yourself as you want people to treat you.
You notice how the behavior of others, when the room comes someone higher in status? Or someone is very beautiful? And even, perhaps, not so beautiful, but confident? But the deal only in self-perception. And who wants to respect a man who does not respect himself and scolds. Psevdosmirenie and modesty do not paint, and others give reason to nit-picking.
6. Plan your vacation
The idea that the holiday is coming soon, will lift your mood better than waiting on Friday, and the memories of the last holiday will help to hold out until the next.
you can afford to do whatever he wants these days: Arrange a holiday disobedience in an adult. Plan your trip to the cinema, restaurant, salon, or a journey to save money to buy a new console or a class on pottery. Such vents can help uncover previously unknown potential and show what you really want to do.