What is fabbing and how to get rid of it

What is fabbing?

Fabbing - one of the manifestations depending on the gadgets and Network wont be distracted by smart phone while talking. When you communicate personally and constantly emailing with someone flipping Public in social networks or call, then, in fact, ignore his interlocutor. Hence the name: phone (phone) + snubbing (snub) = phubbing.

The term appeared in 2012, with a light hand McCann advertising agency staff, specifically looking for a name for this phenomenon. Around the world, a new word is learned through the Australian anti-fabbingom campaign STOP PHUBBING. On the official website of the movement are interesting facts:

1. Moscow took 12th place in the top twenty most fabberskih cities in the world.
2. If fabbing was a plague, it would have destroyed six times more people than live in China.
3. For one dinner at a restaurant in the middle there is 36 cases fabbinga.
4. 97% of people admit that during fabbinga food is less tasty.
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5. 87% of teens prefer to communicate via messages, rather than face to face.
6. Most fabberov use their smart phone to update status, chat with someone live interesting interlocutor, read jokes, as well as to search for music, services, and all the small stuff on Google.

Consultants etiquette called fabbing civilization end. Therefore, the campaign calls to leave the smartphone in your pocket and back into the real world.

Why do people do this?

according to a studyHow "phubbing" becomes the norm: The antecedents and consequences of snubbing via smartphone University of Kent, fabbing stems from a number of other addictions and psychological problems. Internet addiction, fear to miss something important (FoMO) and difficulties with self-control leads to dependence on the smartphone, and she, in turn, leads to fabbingu.

The main problem is not in the smartphone, and the infinite possibilities offered by the Internet, and a lack of willpower.

There is also a gender conditions: women are more likely to fabbingu, more and longer they are involved. Perhaps the reason is the different attitudes to gender smartphones. For men it is primarily technology with advanced features, and for women - a tool of social interaction.

And another reason fabbinga spread that fabbi (victim) sees as a companion buried in the phone, and he reaches for the gadget. So the circle is closed, and abnormal use of the smartphone is becoming the norm.

As fabbing affects most fabbera?

fabbinga communication with other addictions have already hinted at the destructive effects of this habit on its owner. By definition, Internet addiction - inappropriate Internet use pattern, leading to distress. Dependence on the smartphone put on a par with a gambling addiction, and depression associated with an additional risk of health problems.

Another factor mentioned above - fear miss something important - and exhausting drains fabbera. He is constantly on the alert not to miss a message or call the news, and is afraid to find out what friends were walking without it.

And since to say when you do not listen - it's not the most pleasant, fabbera certainly expect problems with friends.

And the victim?

Researchers from European universitiesWhy Phubbing is Toxic for Your Relationship: Understanding the Role Of Smartphone Jealousy among "Generation Y" Users interviewed youths (representatives generation millenialov), What emotions they cause being obsessed loved one smartphone. Here is what the respondents answered:

• 28.6% were jealous, felt neglected, they do not notice the push that they are unnecessary and uninteresting.
• 19.4% felt irritation, nervousness, anger, resentment, hurt.
• 11.1% felt uncomfortable, stupid, hurt, confused, felt the lack of respect for themselves, they did not like, it hurts.

The others were talking about neutral, and a small percentage - even positive emotions. But, as you can see, fabbing increasingly causing negative zeal to the smartphone, the feeling that you have exchanged at the piece of metal.

What happens in pairs, if one of the partners - fabber?

In 2015, researchers at Baylor University decided to find out how fabbing affects the relationship in a pairMy life has become a major distraction from my cell phone: Partner phubbing and relationship satisfaction among romantic partners. Respondents evaluated on a scale the degree of fabbinga its halves and separately - the quality of relationships.

Scientists came to the conclusion that fabbing negative impact on satisfaction with romantic relationships, but also indirectly affect the contentment with life as a whole and may contribute to depression.

The constant use of smartphones - one of the most frequent causes of conflict in pairs (along with money, sex and children).

Similar results were obtained in the US study"Technoference": The Interference of Technology in Couple Relationships and Implications for Women's Personal and Relational Well-Being. Scientists want to find out how fabbing affects women, who have a boyfriend or husband. 62% of the 143 respondents said that a loved one is distracted by a mobile device once a day or more often, 35% partner uses phone during conversations, 33% - during the meal.

Participants in the dialogue with a man whose persistently interfered with technology more often in conflict, experienced symptoms of depression and were less satisfied with their romantic relationships and life in whole.

It was also foundPartner phubbing and depression among married Chinese adults: The roles of relationship satisfaction and relationship lengthThat fabbing - a serious risk factor for depression in people who have lived seven or more years of marriage. According to the authors, the fact that young people more easy on the fabbingu than older people, and also that lived a long time together partners are becoming more interdependent and therefore more keenly felt neglect.

How to overcome this dependence?

Try not to use the gadgets in person

Think of it as a rule of etiquette is the same as not pick a fork in his mouth. If you urgently need someone to write, ask for forgiveness from the interlocutor and do it quickly, and do not sit chatting polvechera. To answer a call, apologize and go away for a short while.

Do not place the smartphone on the table during a meal

It is mauvais ton. In addition, you increase the temptation for him to grab again and get into the social network. You can put gadgets on the table only if the entire company assembles them into a pile with the persuasion that first reached for the phone will be punished. For instance, monetary.

Buy cheap mobile phone

Suitable for those who do not need to work to be constantly in touch in the mail and instant messengers. Not be able to sit on the Internet - will not be fabbinga.

Ask you to call on important issues

Agree with your colleagues, friends and family, to all urgent matters you call, if you are afraid that miss something urgent. This will help to wean yourself from checking messages once every ten minutes.

Determine what you normally do during fabbinga and why

If it is sending messages, see the previous two items. If this news is interesting and the game, from which it is difficult to break away, then unsubscribe from them, removed or made uncomfortable using them. For example, leave the app on the tablet, which is not always with you, but remove it from your smartphone. The most daring can delete your account at least one social network.

If you fabbite because friends are doing, tell them straight out that you do not like this style of communication. Offer options, what to do instead of sitting with a collective gadgets.

If grasping at the phone, because they do not know, something to talk about, read about art of conversation or just any book - you will have to discuss.

By fabbingu can be treated differently. Only you can decide whether to deal with this habit, and if so, how radically. But, you see, a future in which all sit in silence, buried in your smartphone, and have forgotten how to talk face to face, it is sad.