Layfhakersky yachting: how to coexist in a small enclosed space

Although this article is written with a focus on the problem of the interaction of people on board (in continuation of our last topics), It will be interesting to all those who have to some time in close contact in confined spaces with other bipeds.
If you are planning a trip on a yacht in the company, you should not rely on a "maybe" in matters of mutual relations in the carriage. Even if these people are your best friends or colleagues with whom you get along perfectly. A closed space from which there is no place to go, no place to retire - a powerful test of strength even for couples, to say nothing of the rest. No wonder this story is so popular in books and films.

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We agree on the coast

So, rule number one: agree on some points even on the beach. If you have things that you are cherished and do not want anyone else to touch him - tell me about it in advance. Due to the joint ownership conflicts flare up very easily. If you have unusual habits that may affect the other (for example, if every day at 6 am you have used to sing the Russian national anthem) - again, do not be silent about them, hoping someone's natural inclination to telepathy. And most importantly, decide money issues in advance. By how much and what thrown off the road, anyone any suggestions for additional entertainment, who are willing to invest in a particular event. Be sure to discuss culinary moments: the tastes and needs are different, someone can be allergic to certain foods, someone can not tolerate alcohol, etc., and in fact have to cook at all. It is equally important to agree in advance on certain obligations, for example, cleaning, washing dishes. It would seem a trifle, but it is with such small things often begin personal grievances and conflicts in domestic violence. The clearer boundaries will be marked, the fewer problems you will find while traveling. Experienced travelers will not lie.

zoning space

The key point for anyone who has to travel, live or work in confined spaces. Every man should have his own territory. The yacht is carried out is not so simple: everything is all actively cooperating, there closely, and each piece of the boat is arranged so as to perform as many functions. However, your bunk in the cabin - it is 100% private area. Even if you are sharing a cabin with a companion. No one enters into another cabin without knocking. Make it clear to people that if you're huddled in a "corner", then you do not need to pull without a serious reason, even if someone thought well, very funny anecdote or a hurry to share the wonderful pictures of the form of stern.

Do not overestimate their tolerance

Many people are sociable and open-minded people, the first time going out to sea (hiking, settled in a hostel, settling to work in a tiny office, underline) are confident that they somehow these problems will not be affected. And very much in vain. Even the most sociable of us needed privacy, required to stay a. First - do not be afraid to lose the image of the "shirt-guy" who is always ready to joke and entertain people. Or air, charming, always smiling girl. This vicious tactic, and it often leads to the fact that you choose to never, never have to go to such travel. Or just quietly hate others. You are entitled to mood swings, to sullen silence, the dissatisfaction of some situation, you nothing anyone should not be (except the skipper, of course, that all on board are obliged to obey any mood). Second - pre-tune the difficulties and possible conflicts. In the context of any enclosed space nedogovoronnost, swallowed the insult may, through some time to break out the scandal on level ground and damaged nerves. If you have something seriously not satisfied, talk about it with the person directly, do not pull the cat's tail.

Microgroups and psychological climate

Leased ships usually have 3-4 cabins, ie, 6-8 beds. It is not without reason. The bottom line is that more than 7 people on board will inevitably fall into two sub-groups, each of which desires do not coincide. There are two camps, there is the potential for conflicts. 7 people - the limit to create a monolithic team in a confined space. In the previous paragraph we indicated that we should not gloss over problems. Now remember that sometimes it's better to chew than talk.

Even in peaceful cozy office intrigue and talk behind your back are able to destroy the favorable climate. On the yacht, and in general in any campaign this effect is doubled. Do not discuss someone's ridiculous appearance or obvious gaffe - yacht insulation, frankly, weak, if we are not talking about a catamaran or a very large boat. Do not make fun of a friend to show off wit. Do not be intrusive. Do not remove all excessive micromanagement - it is unbelievable, fantastic enrage people, even if you do it from the heart. Do not be a snob and a bigot ( "How can you take food from a plate hands ?!"). Try to maintain a positive and maintain a good climate in the team. If we are really hard, better write down your thoughts on paper, stinging or phone. And most importantly, "no" - Never argue with a captain (skipper). Yes, it is a hired man, he will try to politely and correctly express their requests. But the skipper is not the staff. He is responsible for you to head over all judicial and heavenly authorities. And he knows exactly when the situation becomes life-threatening, even if you think that everything is in order, and the captain paranoid.

Team roles

Any crew, any tourist group - a temporary group. We are entering there voluntarily. We are united by a common interest: in this case, joint leisure activities. Therefore, the internal structure and relations are determined only by the personal qualities and character of each of us. The tour group incorporates many sides personal life of the participants, and it is not always pleasant. Do not disdain fashionable term "psychological compatibility". Think in advance: what is your role? If you are an informal leader, are you ready for the fact that not everyone is on board will listen to you? If you are an ardent individualist, ask yourself: Are you ready to be with these people in such close proximity, to compromise, to endure someone's weakness? If you do not like to make decisions and to take on extra responsibilities, whether you like the situation will have, from where you will wait for activism? Try as people can find out more, which go to the charter. Experienced sailors say: "There is no better way to learn all about the man than to go with him on a voyage." And yet mentally prepared in advance should start by knowing your weaknesses and figuring options for conflict resolution.

If a conflict does occur

Closed space still play with your friendly company cruel joke. conflict begins. Well, try to behave decently.
1. More humor and skepticism. Do not take to heart the words of others. No one can try on your life, it is just an opinion of another person. More self-irony and less pathos.
2. Do not get in a defensive stance because of the little things. On the boat are all one team, and no one seeks to consciously make your life worse. You do not have to defend themselves from each other. If someone attacks you, maybe he just broke and we should give him to talk, and then calmly figure out what the problem is.
3. Be able to learn a lesson from the situation. If you're being annoying, think about it: why is he / she? You hurt a nerve someone's word - why? Do you have something to hide? Or maybe you are someone provoked into aggression?
4. Re-read the preceding paragraph of the roles in the team. This whole situation is temporary, soon you will return to firm ground, home. In the end, you're on a yacht, a snow-white sail among the blue waves, you are surrounded by beautiful scenery, you may never see in their lives. Surely some stupid run-in can cost these memories?

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Of course, this is not affected by all aspects of the relationship in a confined space. We will not go into the jungle of psychology. We did not try to list all the possible unpleasant situations, but only wanted to indicate the general outline and share the experience of how to avoid such situations and what to be prepared.