What happens to people in many respects: 5 facts proven by science

The second half can affect the way we talk, move and look.

1. They come up with their own idioms

No foreigner would not understand without explanation of the hidden essence of the phrase "slack". However, english idioms no better. In pairs also appear inside idioms, which for outsiders do not matter.

Language "dedicated" - a sure sign that people are living on the same wavelength. according to a studyCouples'Personal Idioms: Exploring Intimate Talk American Robert Hopper (Robert Hopper), a scientist in the field of speech communication, a secret language performs two functions: it holds bonds romantic or platonic, and creates a common individuality. Professor Hopper indicates a direct link between the unique habits of communication and intimacy in a relationship. Echoes psychologist Carole Brousse (Carol Bruess) from Ohio University.

Professor Brousse examine the relationship between the use of original expressions and contentment of family life at the 308 volunteers. Among the participants were like newlyweds, and people who are married for over 50 years. Study

2. They cut off the censorship

Most people talking to strangers completely differently than with friends and, of course, with a partner. We control his speech and adjusts its behavior in such a way so as not to make a bad impression, and like the people around us.

Alone with his half man retreats from such conduct and switches to natural speech.

We cease to care about what they thought of us and stop to restrain themselves. As it turns out more sincerely and openly.

Psychologist Daniel Kahneman (Daniel Kahneman) University of California, Berkeley, leads all familiar analogy. At first, most of us are careful in dealing with colleagues. We do not dare to bold statements and rechecking the facts in his head, not to blurt out something extra. With this barrier gradually disappears over time.

3. They are similar in appearance to each other

It remains a mystery why the lovers of dogs look like their pets. But you can say with certainty why people close through the years become common features.

Reason surprising effect described in the studyLong-Married Couples Do Look Alike, Study Finds Psychologist Robert Zedzhonka (Robert Zajonc) from the University of Michigan. Scientist wondered why couples who initially did not have much resemblance gradually become similar to each other?

In search of an answer command Zedzhonka professor asked for pictures in 20 couples and placed them in randomly in two piles: the first shots were newlyweds, and the second - a quarter of a century later. Then observers searched among these pairs. Find newlyweds proved problematic. But those who have celebrated their silver anniversary, gave the same wrinkles and facial contours.

For many years, people have unconsciously imitating facial expressions and emotions of their spouses. They used the same muscles so often that they have become a reflection of each other.

4. Their speech begins to sound the same

Long-term relationships affect the syntactic structure of the language and its rhythm. This is partly the result of a psychological phenomenon, which is calledEmotional contagion emotional contagion. Two people begin to imitate someone else's voice, when they spend a lot of time together.

We simulate everything from accent to the number and duration of pauses that our partner does between words and sentences.

Scientists analyzed a text message a few dozen pairs and came to an interesting conclusion: the probability of further relations after three months after they met was higher in the event that young people coordinate their sound in terms of vocabulary and structure language.

5. They copy each other's body language

Scientists suggest that the joint experience and overall knowledge base - the underlying reason why the pair repeat the subtle movements of each other. Memories form a special language of the bodyDefine gestures, posture, words and phrases. For example, a group of scientists from the University of California, noticed the same reaction in the eyes of partners, where the information sounded familiar to them in a spontaneous conversation.

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