Should a man be strong and keep emotions in themselves

Skaturo blogger Charlie (Charlie Scaturro) wrote a frank lyrics about the modern view of masculinity. The author speculates why men want to appear strong and where it can lead. Ballroom with his thoughts.

I remember the moment when I first picked up lying weighing 100 kg barbell. Bit for serious weightlifters and the majority of professional athletes, but for me it was a triumph. This weight was everything to me, because those 100 kilograms seemed a symbol of masculinity. It was all because the power in our culture are often considered the most desirable characteristic which can only have a man.

I regularly go to the gym for almost 10 years and for a long time did not think, why me. But in trying to know myself, I still began to reflect on the true cause. And I came to the conclusion that do not for health and not for nothing. I go to the gym just because it's a man. Because after years of training I can be wrung out 50 times and do 25 pull-ups in one go.

I know that does not make me strong and does not characterize as a person, I'm not trying to brag, and do not expect someone to impress. In fact, no matter how many times I pull-up and pick up some weight. The bottom line is that in this way we hide from prying their weaknesses and hide them from themselves. It is our escape from reality.

The problem is short-sighted and ignorant notion that anxiety and depression are alien to this man.

It is these stereotypes are forcing me to go to the gym in order to appear strong on the outside, even if I did not feel himself to be inside.

It's hard to describe in a few sentences masculinity. It is much easier to call it what it is not. Depression, Anxiety, panic attacks, feeling of meaninglessness of life and the desire to give up - all this is not manly.

It is believed that this man is more characteristic of rage. He must suppress anxiety and panic and not be razmaznoy. Is militants heroes suffer from panic attacks before all the rescue? Hell no. They're kicking ass opponents and conquer women.

If you look at masculinity in such a short-sighted and ignorant context, a man can feel anything, but not depression or anxiety.

In high school I had a coach who said that depression is far-fetched. According to him, it can not be the reason for the lack of appetite or reluctance to get out of bed. "Just get up and eat your damn sandwich. It is not so difficult, "- he said he would be grief-stricken man. This ignorant and destructive attitude towards depression, but that is how it is treated so far.

While many things change, boys and young men still hear about depression, anxiety and other similar states in the destructive and ignorant way. Therefore, attempts to avoid all virility and opposite force can cause suffering. Because we refuse to talk about their weaknesses and take care because it is not considered the norm for men.

In this context, masculinity becomes a synonym for force. But it seems that these two concepts can be divided. I think the problem is not even in the emphasis on the fact that a man should be strong. The problem in our misunderstanding of weakness and strength. The problem is ignorant and short-sighted look at masculinity.

Should a man be solid as a rock, or he also has the right to emotions? Share your opinion in the comments.