Why we do not see the new features and how to change it

We are always at the same time are less desirable point A and move to point B, which is considered preferable based on their explicit and implicit values. We are always faced with the failure of the world and yearn to fix it. We can come up with new ways to correct and improve, even if we have everything, we thought we needed. Even if we are temporarily satisfied, not quenched our curiosity. We live within the limits that define the present and the future as inadequate as the consistently best. And if we had not seen all this way, you would not have done anything. We are not even able to see, because in order to see, we should focus on, and to focus on, it is necessary to choose among all things one.

But we can see. We can even see what is not there. We can imagine how things improve. We can design new, imaginary worlds, where the problems of which we are not even aware are able to manifest itself, and where they were to work with.

The advantages of this approach are obvious: we can change the world so that this unbearable condition was corrected in the future.

Disadvantages of this foresight and creativity - chronic anxiety and discomfort. Since we are constantly oppose what is, and what it could be, we must strive to ensure that it could be. But our efforts may be too high. Or too low. Or too chaotic. And here we tolerate failures and live in frustration, even if it seems to others that we live well. How do we benefit from our imagination, of our ability to improve the future, not constantly belittling our present, not enough successful and valuable life?

The first step - it's probably some kind of inventory. [...] Ask yourself: Is there in your life or in your current situation is something that is in messThat you could have and are willing to put in order? You can fix this one thing that modestly claims that it needs repair? Will you do it? You can do it right now? […]

Put the following goal: "By the end of the day I want everything in my life was a little better than in the morning." Then ask yourself, "What can I do and what I will do to achieve this? What a small fee I want to get for it? "Then do what you decide to do, even if you do it badly. Treat yourself this damn coffee as a reward. Maybe you feel from this little silly, but it still continues - and tomorrow, and tomorrow, and posleposlezavtra.

Every day your standard of comparison will be all the better, and it's magical.

What is it like compound interest. Do this for three years, and your life will be completely different. Now you aspire to something higher. Now you want the stars from the sky. The beam out of your eye disappears, and you learn to see. That, in what you aim, determines what you see. It is worthy of repetition. That, in what you aim, determines what you see.

Dependence sight of goal, but at the same time and on the value (after all, you aim at what value) has been clearly demonstrated by cognitive psychologists Daniel Simons for more than 15 years ago. Simons studied something called "sustainable inattention blindness". […]

First, he filmed a video with two teams of three people. One team was in white shirts, the other - in black. Both were clearly visible. Six people filled most of the screen, and their faces can be easily seen. Each team had a ball. Players hit them on the ground or throwing it to each other, playing on a small patch near the elevators, where they filmed the game.

Once Dan's video appeared, he showed the participants of the study. He asked them to count how many times the players in white shirts were throwing the ball to each other. A few minutes later, he asked the study participants to name the number of passes. Most called number 15. It was the right answer. Most of these have been very happy - cool, they passed the test! And then Dr. Simons asked: "And you saw the gorilla?" - "What's a joke?? What kind of a gorilla, "Simons said," Well, look at the video again. Just do not count this time. "

And sure enough - about a minute after the start of the match right in the center of the field, dancing, a few long seconds comes a man in a gorilla suit. He pauses, then he beats his chest as, according to stereotype, do gorillas. Right in the middle of the screen. Huge as my life. Painfully irrefutable visible. But every other member of the researchGorillas in our midst: sustained inattentional blindness for dynamic events I did not notice it when I watched the video for the first time. […]

In part, this is because the vision - expensive, psychophysiological and neurological expensive.

A very small part of your retina occupies a central fossa (the fovea). This is the central part of the eye with the highest resolution, accustomed to distinguish faces. Each of the few central fossa cell 10 requires thousands of cells in the visual cortex to cope with only the first part of the multistage process called "sight". Then, each of the 10 thousands of cells required another 10 grand to go to the second stage. […]

Therefore, when we look, we sort of what we see. Most of our vision - peripheral, low resolution. We are saving the central hole for the important. We are focusing our ability to see in high definition on a few particular things in which tselimsya. And all the rest, that is, almost everything, we leave in the shade - unnoticed, blurred in the background. […]

It's not so bad, when things are going well and when we get what we want (although under such circumstances, it may be a problem: getting what we want right now, we can become blind to higher goals). But all this unsung world is a terrible problem, when we are in crisis, and nothing goes as we would like. Besides, maybe us are just too many things in bulk. Fortunately, this problem contains the seeds of solutions.

Since you are too much ignored, left a lot of opportunities out there where you do not even glimpsed.

[...] Think about it this way. You look at the world in their own special, idiosyncratic manner. You are using a set of tools to sort out most things, and some take him. You've spent a lot of time to create these tools. They have become familiar. This is not just abstract ideas. It is embedded in you, they send you in the world. This is your deepest and often hidden and unconscious values. They have become a part of your biological structure. They are alive. And they do not want to disappear, change or wither away. But sometimes they are undergoing; it is time to be born anew. Therefore (though not the only reason), rising up, you need to let go of something. […]

Perhaps your downline values ​​needed serious upgrading. Perhaps what you want, dazzles you and does not give to see what else you could be. Perhaps you cling to your desires in this so strongly that you can not see anything else, even of what really need.

Imagine that you enviously thinking, "I'd like to work as my chief». If your boss is holding on to his seat hard and well, these thoughts will lead you to the annoyance, disgust, and you will feel miserable. You can figure it out. You think, "I'm unhappy. But I could be cured of this affliction, if realized their ambitions. " Then you can think about the following: "Wait a minute. Maybe I'm not happy, not because I do not work my boss. Maybe I am unhappy, because I can not stop to want this job. " This does not mean that you can take and magically want to stop this work, listen to yourself and change. You do not do that, you will not be able to change themselves so easily.

You have to dig a little deeper. You have to change something that has a deeper meaning for you.

So you may be thinking, "I do not know what to do with this stupid suffering. I can not just give up their ambitions, otherwise I will have nowhere to go. But my longing for the work that I can not get, is ineffective. " You can choose a different course. You can request another plan - one that truly satisfy your desires and ambitions and at the same time cleanse your life of sorrow and outrage, under the influence of which you are now. You might think: "I will implement a different plan. I want to try something that would make my life better, whatever it was, and start working on it right now. If it turns out that it means something else, in addition to the desire for a job, I'll take it and I'll move on. "

Now you're on a completely different path. Before that, it was right for you, I wish worthy aspirations, was something narrow and specific. But there you are stuck, you are firmly clamped and unhappy. And you let go. You bring the necessary sacrifice, let the whole new world of possibilities that are hidden from you because of your past ambitions to prove himself.

Clinical psychologist and philosopher Jordan Peterson explores the ideology, religion, totalitarian systems, personality and consciousness. In this book he collected 12 truths that will help everyone to rethink his life. Abundance of examples does not let you get bored, and deep thoughts Peterson inspire change.

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