A few useful things that we need to know about anger

Many of us do not particularly distinguish between anger and aggression. Some do think it's the same thing. But actually it is not so! Psychology of communication He argues that aggression is likely to harm, both moral and physical. Anger can also be a push for good beginnings. The main time to understand what you are feeling and direct it in a constructive direction.

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Anger ≠ aggression

Anger - an emotion that can be caused by an unpleasant situation for us. For example, if your significant other forgot to book a table at a restaurant, you are, of course, upset and may get angry, that is, feel the anger. How will you react afterwards and whether to sort things out because of this unpleasant situation, depending on your temperament and upbringing. But if you start to crush around the tables, throwing fists at people and abuse them verbally - this is the aggression and the consequences of such behavior are never positive or constructive.

But the anger is still not very pleasant emotions, and it is because it was made by the majority of nonsense. That we would not say complete pessimists, people in the majority are nevertheless optimistic. And some optimists with entrepreneurial inclinations even of unpleasant situations are trying to make the most positive and beneficial as possible. In the end, the emotions - it is our energy, why do good to disappear ?!

Anger - the engine of progress

As strange as it may sound, but sometimes anger causes us to do what in fact is correct, but a certain point, we were just too lazy (did not want to, could not find the opportunity and time - a list of the reasons may be very long). And the situation is so complicated, and I'm here kaaaaaak angry! So I had all to do everything! In other words, anger can give you the needed kick in the ass, to get things off the ground. And if we connect your ego, then you will definitely finish the job. The only thing to consider is the fact that the action of "reverse" does not work with everyone. Some rather than engage in treatment, "I'll prove to you all that I can do it" switch In the "Yes, I can not do anything about it... and I will not do" and fall into an even deeper depression. But in this case, anger is more likely to harm than good.

If you're thirsty, you drink, if the body signals that hungry, you cook dinner, and if you hit or offended, it is quite natural reaction is the desire to answer the offender, or prove that it is not so, he He speaks.

Emergency exits are here, here and here

Perhaps one of the reasons why people confuse anger and aggression - they think that anger can be expressed only through aggression. But it is not so. Yes, one of the variants of the response can be quite aggressive. As I wrote above, it all depends on your upbringing and the ability to control their emotions and fists. But this is just one of many ways, and not the most pleasant. Other options "letting off steam" can be as simple physical exercise (for health it is useful), and picking himself "in a heap" and the search for real solutions to problems and tasks. Itself, the main problem that you have to solve constructively, without departing from the aggression and, preferably, with a positive ending - a search for the causes of anger in yourself. That is quite a deep introspection root causes of their reactions to certain situations and people.

And at the end of a small list of pugalka for those who think they control their anger is not necessary. protracted novel results from anger can be very, very sad: alcohol; injury to movable and immovable property and, as a consequence, litigation; Fight, aggressive driving; and, in the end, broken relationships with loved ones and friends, loneliness, guilt, sadness and fear. Not the most pleasant emotions, right?

And, as the rather chubby man in the prime of life: "Calm, not panic!"