How to stop negative emotions, thoughts and actions

When we are in a bad mood, our distorted consciousness perceives the world through the prism of the eternal dissatisfaction and frustration. The circle closes when our negative thoughts gradually and imperceptibly flows in negative emotions, and emotions are transformed into destructive action.

If this vicious circle is not break time, the negative effects of your thoughts begin to affect not only your mood, but also on your career, personal life and physical condition. The fact that such a condition can lead to depression and a sense of constant worry.

Stop negative emotions can be only when you realize that it is a negative thought and the further chain of unpleasant events. You find your triggers (pulses) - look for a golden key to a good mood and in the future will not be only to prevent negative emotions and actions, but also to catch the tail of the gray thoughts directly on the approach to your head.

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Their secrets to combat negative divided Philip Vian (Philip Viana), bank financial advisor with a very busy schedule of life and work.

triggers

In psychology term "trigger"Means any an external stimulus, which acts as a pulse triggerWhich launches the proper emotional or physical reaction.

Thoughts, words, actions, and sometimes physical reactions can be triggers your negative state. A single trigger can be quite harmless, especially if you gave gave out negative. For example, thoroughly beat the dishes or a good shout. Plate - to pieces! Bad thoughts - on the way out! It was over, everyone is happy, and you are finally able to buy the new plates, which stare from last year, but there was no reason.

But... But if after you broke a plate, you'll hear something like, "I can not believe you broke favorite dish my mother! ", the process is not completed, and just in a bad mood can turn into anger and the cycle will begin again.

Negative thoughts like flame

Imagine the negative thought in the form of a flame. On an empty concrete parking lot is the flame will not cause much harm. Its very easy to extinguish it or gradually burn out by itself. But if even a small flame flares up in an enclosed space filled with flammable and explosive material, trouble can not be avoided. Even if you start to put out its flame will try to eat as much as possible before will be paid. The flame will burn as long as the light will not be anything.

The same thing happens to a man in anger. The flames of discontent erupted inside and if he throw the fuel, it will not stop until it will burn inside of a man all the other emotions and as a result will be only one emptiness. I do not know if you've ever felt an uncontrollable anger that burns all pulled inside. You feel anger and aggression! You choke on the negative until the sensation of physical pain in his chest. You do not have enough breath, you choke. And when the flame breaks out, it incinerates everything - your relationships with family and friends, your emotions, your work. When the fire goes out, usually burn is simply nothing.

An example of a negative emotional cycle

You are driving to an important business meeting and get stuck in traffic. As a result, of course, you are going to be late. And even if you are late for a meeting only 20 minutes for a good reason, you still start stress and you feel it even physically - you rolled a wave of nausea.

In my head there are thoughts that you are always running late, it does not work with you, your colleagues do not appreciate, you can not conclude bargains, etc. Your full circle and you pulled into a swamp called "I - a loser, and I will not be loves". Plus, you start to take it out on those around car drivers, which in no way to blame, and just like you, have become hostages of the situation.

Is there a way out? Try to reassure myself with the thought that you specifically went in advance, but still got stuck in traffic. Everyone can make a mistake. And colleagues necessarily enter into your position and you will understand. In the end, 20 minutes - not hours.

We recognize the triggers

In order to remain calm in any situation, you have to understand that it is for you to trigger, and work through them. Moreover, in different situations and for different emotions have their own triggers. Add to that the positive thinking, choosing the right environment and the avoidance of negative selection of work that you really like, a favorite hobby, for which you have enough free time and, of course, the right choice of the people around you - and you will have a reliable armor.

weaken triggers

Try to find the positive side in everything and think positively. It's quite difficult, because people - creating a mysterious and even if everything folds perfectly, we do not believe it carefully and find negative points even in small things. And if not, then just come up (all just does not happen as well). So you have to take the time to learn positive thinking and to find a positive thing, even in the most unpleasant situation.

For example, instead of thinking that you are not attractive, and you have no one loves (even if it's true), think about what you have your loving family that every day looking forward to your return to work, loves you and always you glad.

Try to put out negative thoughts as soon as they arise in your mind. To get started, try every day to allocate at least 5 minutes trying to list all the good things, you had to do today, your positive qualities, things and people that make you happy.

Destroying cycle and a sample

Sometimes it happens that you are not able to recognize the impulse that triggers your negative emotions. For example, you go to bed in a good mood, and woke beeches. In this case, rather than follow the usual schedule "woke up, drank coffee, read the newspaper," it is better to interrupt the standard cycle and do something else. For example, take a soothing or invigorating (depending on the situation) shower. Shower and wash away calms negative emotions. Can you imagine how with the water leaving all your worries and bad thoughts. Relax, tune in to a positive and productive day

Try to avoid the negative economic and political news in the morning. Leave home early so no stress, no hurry to get to work and you still had time for a cup of coffee.

conclusion

Learn how to extinguish the flames of negativity before it began to flare up and devour you. Do not allow negativity to fill life and distort your perception of reality. Try to find the positive aspects even in the most desperate situations.

Anger, rage, aggression, apathy, anxiety - all this destroys our lives, we change beyond recognition, leaving our souls empty and dull. Keep this in mind before you think that you have nothing.