6 Signs You're Getting Better Every Day

Our harshest critics are very often ourselves. But if we remember how it all began, we will understand that we are much closer to our goals than we think. And if you're trying to change, improve your relationships, your health, your career, and your finances, look for signs that indicate you're on the right track. They say that you find your true identity and become a more perfect and, most importantly, a happier version of yourself.

1. You set and respect personal boundaries

It doesn’t matter if you said “no” to the next work project because you already have a blockage, or you forgo a family dinner because you decided to take care of your needs. Personal boundaries help build a strong foundation for healthy relationships with yourself and others.

If you designate your space, then you are taking the time to think about what you want from friendships, love relationships, work, and other areas of life. And about why every border that you draw or are about to draw,

important to you.

Even if you are still taking small and simple steps and it is still unusual for you, remember that over time you will become a best friend, partner and employee. The ultimate goal is to feel safe, valued, and respected no matter what context you set your personal boundaries in.

2. You keep your promises to yourself

We often make sacrifices for other people. But if we don't take care of ourselves first, we'll pay the price for our careers, relationships, and goals. Perhaps you promised yourself not to watch TV shows at night, but to go to bed early. Or meditate for 15 minutes every morning instead of running to the coffee shop. Or start a personal budget because coffee is too much. Whatever it is, you keep your word, which means you become more confident and trust yourself.

You know secrethow to always keep your promises: they must be specific and realistic. For example, if you doubt that you can meditate for 15 minutes at once, start with five, and then draw up an action plan and monitor progress, changing strategy as needed and noting victory.

3. You let go of limiting beliefs

Everyone has false thoughts, scenarios and attitudes that prevent us from changing for the better: “I am not enough beautiful”, “I should not apply for this vacancy, anyway I will not get this job”, “I will never have girls." But you understand that for such ways of thinking we must “thank” our life experience, fears or impostor syndrome.

So you take a step back, write down your limiting beliefs, try to discover what's behind them ("They protect me from fear of rejection or failure?") and question them ("Are they really reality?").

You can reformulate any belief that limits you into a belief that will inspire and motivate you. For example, turn "I'll never have a girlfriend" into "I haven't found the right girlfriend yet, but I'll work on putting myself and my needs first."

4. You treat yourself with compassion

We treat our friends with kindness, even if they are too hard on themselves. But when we ourselves make a mistake or experience failure, being kind to ourselves is not so easy, and we begin to berate ourselves and give free rein to those very limiting beliefs. Therefore, if you treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding as you treat your friends, and support yourself in the same way, you are definitely moving forward.

Self-compassion is not only kindness to yourself, but also the ability to defend your boundaries when others violate them, and the ability to ask for help when you need it. And although you know what to reach this level relationship with yourself impossible at the snap of a finger, you continue to master this skill by being mindful, reducing stress, and gaining endurance.

5. You don't judge yourself for any emotion

Even the best version of our selves sometimes experiences negative emotions. You develop not when you stop feeling sadness, anxiety or stress, but when you accept them and learn to deal with them.

You don't try to push the negativity aside or drown it in wine or work. On the contrary, you experience a variety of internal states: happiness, gratitude, enthusiasm, sadness, anger, anxiety, envy, and loneliness. Because each of them matters and your mental health only benefits from it.

Sometimes, in order to cope with an emotion, you can give it a name, accept it, and find out where it lives in your body. And sometimes keeping a diary, going out with friends, or having a session with a psychologist can help. In any case, you find out where your negative emotions come from (“Anxiety and sadness cause me social media?”) and what exactly they are trying to convey to you (“Maybe I should take a break from TikTok?”).

And you allow yourself to cry if you want or need it. In the end, recognizing all facets of our personality - good, bad, even terrible - makes us human, and also improves our relationships, especially with ourselves.

6. You feel comfortable with discomfort

Sure, you can snooze your alarm clock, skip your workout, and keep your head down at work. But getting out of your comfort zone is essential for development—personal, professional, and romantic. Certainly, it is not easy. But if you're on the right track, you know the things that make you uncomfortable and you do them anyway. You meet them face to face, realizing that you risk losing and not getting instant gratification. And yet you continue because you know exactly what you want to achieve.

For example, you arrange a date with yourself, although you are embarrassed to appear in public alone. Or meet people at a work conference that you might have missed before. Or you express your disagreement with the opinion of your superiors, despite your inherent modesty. You are constantly trying new things and expanding your capabilities, because practice makes you better. All these are sure signals that you are moving forward along the path of self-development and becoming better.