How to get what you want as a gift

What can prevent you from asking for the desired gifts

It seems that the gift is pure, unclouded joy that accompanies us from childhood to the last years. But if you think about it, in the process of life we ​​associate many others with receiving gifts, including unpleasant emotions. For example, such.

Guilt for not having enough joy

Everyone knows the expression "precious is not a gift, attention is dear." But it provides too much scope for interpretation. If we mean that the value of a gift is not paramount, it is much more important with what love and care a person approached the choice of a present, then everything is correct.

But often the meaning of the phrase is turned upside down: no matter what they gave you, you must admire any thing, otherwise you are an ungrateful bastard. Even if a person bought the first nonsense that came across, that is, the gift has neither value nor attention. But at the same time you feel guilty - you could not rejoice properly. Although, in general, it shouldn't.

If a not very close person missed, for example colleague, you can shrug your shoulders and forget. This is a question of courtesy: he probably really didn't try very hard, and you probably didn't count on anything. But if a loved one continues to hand you things with the signs of the zodiac, although he knows that you consider astrology a pseudoscience (and not unreasonably), he frankly does not care about your desires. It is unclear why you should be happy about such a gift.

Feeling like you didn't deserve a good gift

This feeling can arise if in childhood you were given presents for a reason, but for something. For example, they bought a toy, but first checked the diary. And it seems that any gift must be somehow earned, earned. And if you are counting on the desired thing, you really need to move mountains or then pay back with something. Better not to wait for anything and not be obligated to anything.

But you can receive gifts without any reason. You just have to come to terms with the fact that people sometimes want to do something pleasant just like that. And you, too, can donate cool things not only for the holidays. It's time to exclude gifts from the education and training scheme.

Fear of causing inconvenience to a person

It can be uncomfortable to even hope to receive the desired gift. After all, a person needs to look for him, do something on purpose. Or maybe he wanted to buy something else? It's easier to moderate expectations and rejoice at any present (and then feel guilty for not being able to do it).

In general, of course, it is possible to put the donor in an uncomfortable position, expecting specific things from him. We will discuss further what to do to prevent this from happening. But without specifying your desires and interests, it is also easy to cause discomfort. After all, it is much easier for many to go and buy what they need than to rack their brains and risk not guessing.

So make life easier for yourself and the donor. Do not play the partisan who even for the can jam and the cookie basket won't tell you what it wants. Reveal this secret to the inquirers.

How to make it clear what you want as a gift

You can, of course, desperately hope that people know you so well that they will guess right. And such unique ones exist. But actually, wait for skills telepathy from others is not necessary. So you have to inform about it in one way or another.

1. To put it bluntly

Everyone understands everything. One person knows that the other is looking for a gift for him. The second tries to guess what he wants to get, perhaps asks questions. The first one flirts, says that he doesn't need anything, then gives up ...

You can skip all these ritual scrolling. If there is a holiday ahead, it is obvious that gifts will be needed. Sometimes it's worth saving time and just buying each other what you want. There is no surprise element in this. But the present will be exactly the bull's-eye. And no socks instead of playing for the console or jewelry instead of a collectible knife.

2. Create a wishlist

Wishlist is a list of things that you would like to receive as a gift. Those who think about what to hand you can look there and choose.

Previously, special sites for compiling wish lists were popular. But it's not so important where you write about your desires - even in Google-spreadsheet. More important is how you do it.

If you want to get something specific, it makes sense to clarify the characteristics, attach a photo or even a link where to get it. It will not be superfluous to give the donors the opportunity to note that they have staked out this or that desire. Otherwise, there is a risk of getting several of the same, the easiest gifts to buy.

The wish list can be attached to the invitation to the holiday, if such is provided, or simply left in a conspicuous place on social networks.

3. Choose a trusted person

If you are afraid to speak directly about your desires, you can delegate this to a loved one and send all the questioners to him.

4. Share desires and hope that the person will remember

Sometimes it is enough to periodically voice your desires so that a loved one remembers them and then takes them into account.

But there is a nuance: everything works if this game two are playing. That is, the second person does not ignore your words and is really interested in your desires.

5. Hint

This is a controversial point, but it is also worth discussing. Hints are such a half-measure. You don't seem to say directly what you want, but you voice your desire. And a person should guess and give it. You've probably seen the posts of a girl sending a guy a message "How do you like a manicure?" and attaches a photo of nails against the background of an open page with decoration.

This approach has several weaknesses. To begin with, if you hint subtly, a person may not guess. This is normal, people think differently. And someone may perceive it as manipulation, because not everyone likes trickery.

6. Take money

Money is a universal gift. If you don't know how to puzzle your loved ones, you can always ask for such a present. For example, say that you are saving up for an expensive dream and will be glad to any contribution.

Things to keep in mind when asking for specific gifts

Not every gift is easy to buy. Sometimes it is not freely available. Or is it simply expensive.

Leave the giver with room for maneuver. For example, if you are compiling a wish list, it would be fair to add wishes there to a different wallet. Moreover, it is obvious that there should be more affordable things than expensive ones. Guests can team up and buy something big, but one by one they will have something to choose from. Options with different costs should be voiced, and if you ask for a present in a different way. Still, ruining the donor is hardly part of your plans.

How do you make it clear what you want to get for the holiday? Share in the comments.