Types handshake: how to make a good impression and get to know the mood of the interlocutor (Part I)

And in continuing affected me sign language themes invite you to know more about the handshake. This knowledge will not only help you make a good and "right impression", but also shows the mood of the interlocutor. Especially recommended for those who often goes to business meetings.

Let's start with a little history. Handshake is deeply rooted in the past. In ancient times, people have demonstrated an open palm to show their lack of weapons. The ancient Romans had a bad habit of hiding in the sleeves of clothing daggers, so they have also been invented and introduced shaking the wrists during a meeting at the waist. Later this movement was transformed into a handshake. It began to be used at the conclusion of business deals in the XIX century. In most countries, a hand shake between five and seven times in Germany - two to three times, after which the hand is held for some time. And most often used French handshake.

And now I come to the main point: as a handshake can be determined by the mood, a handshake is appropriate when business meetings and the like do not need to shake hands.

At the first handshake, you can figure out how to set up your partner. This may be a dominance, submission, or equality. These signals are sent and are perceived subconsciously and affect the outcome of the meeting.

Domination. It is transmitted by turning your hand so that it was under his interlocutor with his hand, palm turned up. The same thing can do, and you, thus showing that holds a dominant position.

Submission. With this handshake interlocutor to do so that his hand was the bottom, thus showing that the decision will take you. Similarly, you can use this handshake to show their submission (with the head, for example) or if you want to apologize for something.

Equality. When two equal energetic person shaking hands turning into a power play, and thus, palm remain upright. This handshake immediately establishes an atmosphere of equality and respect. Very often, these sides are not inferior to each other in negotiations.

A small digression. When a handshake is necessary to take into account with whom you meet. For example, violinists, pianists, artists and neurosurgeons can shake hands very carefully, so as not to damage it. Also, a handshake is weak, if a person has problems with joints, or have a hand injury. Do not count on a favorable outcome of the case, if you compress strongly and vigorously shake the hand of a man suffering from arthritis. So be careful.

Power Game: receptions

If you feel that you are going to want to drive a handshake in the "subordinate" position, there are several options to avoid this.

Reception "step to the right"
The authors of the book "The new body language" to advise hands to take a step forward with the left foot, approaching the other person. Then step right and shake hands. So you invade the personal space of the interlocutor and will be able to take control of the situation by moving a handshake in the category of equal or even dominant (on your part). Of course, to do it beautifully and quietly, it is necessary to practice.

Reception "palm top"
If the other party is trying to move its hand in a dominant position (ie on top of yours), do not resist. Then cover it with his right hand with his left hand. It turns out a handshake with both hands and your hand is on top.

Handshake in order to obtain control

Handshake with both hands - a demonstration of the sincerity and depth of feeling. This handshake between you can see your friends who have not seen, or relatives (and here it may well turn into a hug). The left hand expresses deep feelings initiator handshake. Therefore, the place where the left hand is the initiator handshake is on the right hand of his interlocutor, plays a very important role. But in this way the initiator can not only show their closeness, but also to establish complete control.

For example, elbow grip demonstrates greater affinity (or control) than your wrist shrugging. That people feel comfortable in such a handshake, it must be really close to you man. If you try to shake hands with the man since, which have seen only a few times in my life (of course, to demonstrate the special relationship), you will cause him it only more distrust and perhaps even, fear. For him, it will look as if you're trying to hold him back, so he did not run away.

For the second part, I saved up the worst examples of handshakes that are just not worth it to use. Is that on purpose.

Before you shake hands, think carefully how best to do it. Bear in mind that with whom you meet and what outcome you expect. And we would like to note that the majority of people shaking hands completely unconscious and not likely to be specifically try to translate your hand in a subordinate position. The handshake shows their character and attitude, so be careful.

And I would love to hear about your experience. Have you noticed the connection between a handshake at a business meeting and its outcome.