How to become a man, trustworthy

Who is this man, credible? It seems that there can not be a single definition, even a vague notion. But, for example, you come to the supermarket and ask the meat department, "Girl, what fresher here?" She responds to you with indifference: "All the same, fresh." And after you use another person asks the same question and received the answer: "All the same, but you know, I would advise you that's not to take." Or, say, you forget to pass-through, and you do not want to start up, even though you are there 5 years running already. And another man, who in the same way as you would say, "Guys, I forgot, damn it!" Miss. It is possible to provide examples to infinity. The bottom line is that there are people, for some reason, causing the majority of the trust. They do not do anything special, they do not have some high connections or super appearance. But now they have to themselves, and that's it. Let's look at some of the features possessed by these people, and the ways how to adopt these attributes, at least partially.

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Calm, but calm!

Man, credible, calm and confident. It radiates the simplicity, openness, and from it emanates something home, in my own way. Many people believe that if you want a quick fix or a valuable advice, it is necessary to show how this issue is important to you, like you concerned about how you experience. In extreme situations, or in business, this can be so. But in everyday moments extra nervousness often plays against us. Users want to quickly get rid of other people's problems, you want to answer something like that to you as soon as possible left. The stronger you are nervous, the less willing you are to help. Calm down. Do not make my little difficulty problemischu. Imagine that you are accessing is not a stranger, but a neighbor of the site, who knows a hundred years. There's a fine line: peace of mind - it is not apathy, but not snobbish look down. This lack of nervousness, plus a certain amount of relaxation. Such an attitude is always a location. Even if you take your time, do not do nervous, jerky movements. Do not fumble phone, clothes, bag, do not express any signs of impatience. Do not say confused, hurriedly. Do not bite the lips, does not play nodules. Your motto should be "Everything is under control", it is to be read on your forehead.

Look in the eyes of the interlocutor

At the very beginning of the conversation the person look straight in the eye. Sight should not be ingratiating or, on the contrary, aggressive. Neutral neutral look with interest shares. It is best achieved such a result, if you try to determine the color of the human eye.

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Let's say your interlocutor blue eyes. Now define a more exact shade, while continuing to chat. During the dialogue, not taking his eyes for a long time, but do not "push" constant close study. Worst case - run view, it creates a feeling of nervousness and / or inattentive listener.

Appearance

Man, credible, can be dressed in fashionable, trendy, very expensive items. And maybe in jeans, shlopkah and a plain white T-shirt. Main feature - neatness. Clean hair, nails, clothes. Pleasant or neutral smell: the body washed, no fumes or tobacco breath, if spirits, it is not too strong. In a word, no apparent carelessness. Be around you must either be nice or leave it, that is, without striking a plus or minus.

Pose

Do not slouch. we recently wrote how much can be said about a man bearing. Talking, stand up straight. Not standing at "attention", just exactly, of course. This significantly increases the level of trust. The second point - do not try to occupy as little space as possible, not crowded. Calm and confident man standing (or sitting) as it is convenient, in a familiar pose. Do not touch the face too often, do not wring your fingers, do not hide your hands in his pockets, try to keep them in sight.

Speak when it is needed

Superfluous chatter and redundant information does not help to build trust in a stranger. Speak to the point. And it is better to ask a question: let the other person talks more, and you carefully listen to answers. If you offer something, do it exactly and confidently. "Maybe... maybe you and I could somehow negotiate, if possible?" - is a bad option. "Let's agree" - much better. If you can find a person's name (for example, a badge), be sure to use it at key moments. "Ivan Petrovich, let us agree," - a great option.

Be kind

From you should not come wary, covert or overt threats. We are used to treat strangers with suspicion, to be alert, to wait for a dirty trick. But people treat us accordingly. If you want to be credible, you need to start with confidence to treat another person. Not necessarily to smile from ear to ear, though sincere friendly smile has never harmed nobody. Simply remove the "visor" and the contact is open, without preventive claims and raids. Then the cashier and severe in the window, it is likely you will concern to a human, and more willing to try to help.

There's no terrible and horrible NLP or adjustment. Only impartial, neutral and positive attitude towards the other party, even by accident. Only respect for others, which may give rise to reciprocal respect for you.

- Picture-inspirer.