10 things you stop worrying about after 30
A Life / / January 06, 2021
1. New trends
At the age of 20, it is very scary to lag behind fashion: not to know that they are listening and watching, what slang they use, what they wear, what they are fond of. At 30, you start doing what is important to you, without thinking about how trendy you are. And you are not at all embarrassed if you have missed some fashionable trend.
Researchers who study the activity of buyers from different age groups come to the conclusionGeneration Y vs. Baby Boomers: Shopping behavior, buyer involvement and implications for retailingthat people of the older generation are more pragmatic, less inclined to care about how they look in the eyes of others, and are somewhat skeptical about new products.
2. Gossip
When I changed my fourth dozen, it is no longer so important that Masha from the next department tricked at the corporate party, with whom Pasha meets behind his wife's back and what passions were in full swing in the family of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. It turns out that there are many other, much more interesting things in life.
3. Others' expectations
You try to do what brings joy, not what your parents, friends, spouses, former teachers and classmates expect from you.
If you always wanted travel the world in a van and give ukulele lessons, and mother and head teacher Maryivanna predicted a career as a successful lawyer, it is after 30 that it is most likely to fulfill your dream without looking back at others.
The same applies to the choice of a partner: the older you get, the less you are interested in what friends and acquaintances think of your spouse.
4. Own birthday
If earlier it was considered “good form” to have a noisy party - to invite everyone to a quest, bowling, karaoke or somewhere else, then after the 30th birthday becomes a personal date.
And you celebrate it first of all for yourself, as it is convenient. You call only those guests whom you really want to see, do what you like first of all. Or maybe you just stay at home aloneto watch TV shows all day and eat goodies. Or you give yourself a trip, turn off your phone and enjoy new places and countries.
5. Gadgets
There were times when all of us (and if not all, then many) were chasing technical innovations. And they thought that putting a push-button phone on a table in a cafe when other friends had an iPhone was a real shame.
But the older you get, the less you care about window dressing: the release date of the gadget and its price or the label on your clothes. If a push-button “dialer” or a worn-out second-hand jeans suit you in everything, you will not buy other things for the sake of mythical “status”.
6. Social networks
Change avatar. Refresh status. Post a funny picture or interesting article. Reload the page while waiting for likes and comments. Worry that there are not enough hearts. Upload another photo. And so - almost every day.
When you are in your 30s, all this "dancing" around your own popularity on social networks is most likely in the past. If self-promotion is necessary for making money, it becomes thoughtful, methodical and deliberate work. And if not, you just keep the page for yourself and your loved ones the way you like. Or even abandoned all accounts long ago.
This is confirmed by statistics.Time spent on social media: Users aged 16 to 34 spend an average of 2.5–3 hours a day on social networks, while 35-year-olds spend 2 hours on average. The older people are, the less this time is.
7. Loneliness
In their early 20s, a person usually discovers that his friends and classmates one after another get married, acquire children, cars, mortgage apartments. Someone who does not have all of this may feel uncomfortable being surrounded by couples: thoughts of a ticking watch and that something is wrong with you come to mind.
But if you are single at 30, it doesn't matter if you were previously married or not, you just enjoy your freedom. And you don't feel a pang of envy when a friend invites you to her second wedding.
Research saysLoneliness - What characteristics and circumstances are associated with feeling lonely? on the same: people aged 16 to 24 feel lonely more often than those who are older. Least of all, loneliness is felt by those who are 65 or older.
8. Winter clothes
Oh, these attempts to ignore the temperature outside the window and dress in something short, tight and seductive, regardless of the weather. And then enjoy your own irresistible beauty and with it - "falling off" knees, blue ankles and fingers, pelvic inflammatory disease and head ache from cold.
Such nonsense usually remains beyond the threshold of thirty. When you really matured, in the cold you are ready to wrap yourself in the largest and most shapeless blanket coat, pull a hat up to the nose, hide in an immense hood, and stick your legs in something furry, waterproof and sustainable. It doesn't matter that from the outside you look like a fat caterpillar: the main thing is warmth.
9. Matching your environment
If in the second year of college everyone goes for a walk and drinks, it will be awkward to say that you are going to sleep or prepare for seminars. Suddenly they will decide that you are a nerd and a nerd, and will not be called anywhere else.
At 30 you almost don't care about such things: if the whole team goes to the bar on Fridays, and you want to return home and lie under a blanket with a book, you just say goodbye and leave.
10. Parting
20 years after breaking up with a loved one man literally leaves the ground from under his feet. It seems that the world has collapsed, and it is not clear how to live on, even if it is difficult to breathe.
At 30, parting, of course, is also taken hard, especially if the relationship has lasted more than one year. But as you get older, you find yourself more prepared for these things. Few adults do not scroll in advance in their heads what they will do in case of a break.
In addition, after 30, a person has many anchor points that will help to resist, even if it is very painful inside: work and career, children, hobbies and goals, relatives who need care, etc.
What has ceased to bother you with age? Let us know in the comments.
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