How not to worry about being insulted?

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Julia Hill

Psychotherapist, family counselor and relationship specialist.

When we are insulted, we react with the most vulnerable and unprotected part of ourselves - the inner Child. This is the part of the psyche that stores childhood experiences, relationships with parents, body contact, feelings and emotions.

If childhood was filled with joyful experiences, we felt care, support and enough attention from the outside parents, then the inner Child turns into an active, self-confident, cheerful, purposeful, open to the world. If the childhood experience is full of trauma, resentment, betrayal, ignorance, prohibitions, punishments, then the inner Child remains unhappy and rejected. Behind his embarrassment, resentment and anger are unconscious guilt, shame and fear of loneliness. He is afraid to create and be open.

To truly love yourself, you need to restore contact with your inner Child - that part of us that is suffering and needs love. In other words, to become oneself that very ideal Parent.

This can be done in different ways. The simplest is to do more often what brings pleasure. Dancing, drawing, handicrafts, computer games, mastering culinary recipes, decorating the house, riding cycling or watching movies - everything that helps you to lay down the burden of responsibility for a while and be a little carefree a child.

More serious methods include psychological techniques.Inner Child Healing Techniques healing the inner Child - there are a lot of them on the Internet. And of course, the best way to solve the problem is to help a professional psychologist.

Contact with your inner Child will help you to stop dwelling on offenses, learn to trust the world, and quickly switch from negative state into a positive one, be more energetic, find non-standard solutions and get rid of feelings of guilt and shame.