3 questions that you need to ask yourself after failure

My story

At 17, I graduated from high school with the best scores among all students, and was very proud of him. I was from a poor family, we moved from Mississippi to Georgia, because parents wanted to get religious education. So, one of the advantages of the best graduates in the state - the opportunity to meet with the governor. I was a little curious to meet him, but no longer wanted to see his palatial home.

On the morning of the appointed day we met with the parents and boarded the bus. Machines we did not have, but in the south it is considered necessary, because with public transport is bad. In general, we reached the governor's house and approached the gate, who was standing guard. He gave us eyes and refused to miss. "You do not belong here, this is a private event", - he said.

Father tried to explain that we have been invited, but the guard did not even looked at the guest list. He looked on the bus, from which we came, I realized that we are too poorTo have a car. I do not know what else to think this person is, but again refused. After much debate, the parents forced him to check the list of invitees. Seeing our names there, the guard finally let us inside.

I do not remember meeting with the governor, I do not remember getting to know other alumni. But I clearly remember the man standing in front of the most influential home state, at a glance decided that I do not belong there. Therefore, about 20 years later, I decided to be the one who will open the gates to everyone.

Well, you know the end of history. It did not turn out the way I wanted. Now I need to understand why things went wrong and what to do next.

Questions to ask yourself

I realized that one attempt is not enough. Therefore I began to ask ourselves, as we now have? How to overcome the bitterness, sadness and apathy? How to stop watching TV, seizing it ice cream? what do next? So I decided to do what she always did.

I'm going to move forward, because it is impossible to go back and stand still - not enough.

I started the race for the governor's office, I thought about who I am and what I want to be. Before any thing I ask myself three questions. Their well to ask yourself, and after the failure.

1. What do I want?

In this case, I know what I want. I want to change. Now we need to ask ourselves more about this: I honest with him about their own ambitions? After the failure is easy to think that you have set yourself an impossible target. But I can tell you: Be resolute. Do not let setbacks stop you.

2. Why do I want this?

When you realize what you want, you decide with your motives. This should be something that takes your thoughts before bed. Or something that helps to get up in the morning and motivated charges. Or what makes you angry and you feel the need to change it. But you definitely need to know why you do it and why it should be done.

You've heard what motivates other people in similar circumstances, but you need to define your own cause. Pointless to move from an idea to its execution, if you do not know what for it undertake to. When it becomes difficult when you turn away from the friends, when you forget who supported you when you fail the first try, you can not try again without understanding why all began.

3. How can I do this?

We always holding back by three factors. Firstly, finance. How often dreams depend on the amount of resources! But there are many stories of how people have overcome financial difficulties.

Finance does not give us a dream. I can not promise that you will overcome the financial difficulties, but you'll definitely feel sorry if you try it.

Second, fear. He is real. It paralyzes. But even he can impart forces. After all, when you know what you're afraid of, you can find a way around this fear.

Well, in the third - fatigue. Sometimes simply can not start all over again. These moments allow us to estimate how much you really want to achieve your goal. Remember why you started. And to achieve the desired moving forward day by day.