What's stopping you to live in harmony with oneself

Dependence on partner

This is perhaps one of the main reasons that prevent us find inner harmony and feel truly happy. When people meet, there is a collision of their inner worlds. Each of them is beautiful in its own way and has its own unique features. Before this meeting, each of us went some way made mistakes and gained valuable experience. And at some point, these worlds are beginning more and more to approach: we share the feelings and emotions of each other, share their experiences and plans for the future with your partner, begin to gradually introduce a person in his environment.

It would seem that there is bad? We all dream of a healthy and harmonious relationship in which we wish to share each other's interests. Only sometimes it gets out of our control under the pressure of surging romantic feelings, we dissolve in a person, forgetting about himself.

I would call it a kind of mimicry. We observe with enthusiasm for life partner, his hobby became our hobby. We share personal victories together and celebrate together, and so on a thumb.

Everything would be fine, but for a moment imagine that this person is no longer in your life. What will be left of you after his departure? Will your life is still exciting and vibrant? Will you be in a constant process of creation of something? Or will you wait for a new collision?

Comfort zone: create or destroy

Recently comfort zone is the most discussed topic among psychologists and bloggers. Gloss is teeming with articles about the ways out of this notorious area in order to improve quality of life and self-confidence.

Undoubtedly, out of the comfort zone it is very important and useful, but we can not do it without thinking. First you need to understand where it starts and ends with your comfort zone. There is a very fine line between what you just unusual, and that may be for you a real test. Out of the zone komfora difficult even the most unfettered and sociable, I'm not talking about people who suffer from different kinds of phobias.

It is impossible to break the one who breaks the day-to day itself.

YU. Jo Nesbø, Norwegian writer and musician

Indeed, it is difficult to break the self-confidence and reliance man who is in constant creation itself through constant growth and exit from the usual environment. The reason for the discomfort of the first steps in a new reality sometimes is not that hard to adapt to a person unfamiliar way of life, and that he does not need.

Breaking yourself is vital to remain in the stream, but we must be aware that what you do is, sensibly evaluate all possible losses. Otherwise, constantly breaking self, you will become a desolate vessel will lose what has been given to you by nature, and your vital reference stray.

ripping off the mask

How often we hide their identity from prying eyes and themselves. We are trying to be like someone else, look back at the successes of others, somewhat jealous of the people passing by, sometimes angry and offended. Without a doubt, there are many role models who have achieved unprecedented success and live a life: bright, devoid of routine and daily ups early work, which does not bring pleasure.

But why get angry and give up when we are powerless to change the course of events? Our life is given to us not to stay in the image of the victim and complain about the injustice of fate. We must act without delay and desirable.

Do not like your hairstyle or wardrobe? Me and create itself anew. You have to admire his own reflection in the mirror and not look back at each random counter thoughts: "She's so beautiful and well appointed, why do I have everything else ..."

No need to push yourself to the experience and the knowledge that you do not like to be the way you are forced to be the circumstances. Remove the mask of normality and routine stop and have to worry about what you think of other people. Consider this: many of them are worthy of respect and admired precisely because it had ceased to care about someone else's opinion.

Perhaps at the very moment when you unleash your inner beast, you will come the realization of what you want to devote my life. And as you know, one of the main components of happiness is a thing that brings us pleasure.

Endless cycle of desire

We always want to get something or to achieve something, and that's fine, otherwise it would be impossible to talk about any development and internal growth. What's the catch?

The dream of everyone has their own: a new pair of shoes or a dress, most feature-rich or SUV supercar apartment or a villa on the coast, and someone's dream - to break out of the small town and conquer the top world. But after the implementation of these new desires come, and so it can last indefinitely. happy feeling quickly turns bleak joy, which gives way to contentment situation.

But as we know from his student years, satisfactory - it is only three, but one of us wants to live life on the C grade? We have to invent a new dream, once again worried about her performance, get angry if something goes according to plan, until finally she did not come true. After that, everything is new - the endless cycle of desire.

Do we bring this happiness? Hardly. After all, we can not keep to yourself to experience the happiness of the performance of our small, but no less cherished dream.

We have forgotten how to live in the present moment - the moment of the cherished desire.

As long as we stay in this crazy race, we can not feel happy when our dreams come true.

Learn to be happy alone with yourself and enjoy every moment of life. Realize that no one in this world can not give you a sense of harmony, if inside you raging storm of passion, consisting of dissatisfaction with their situation, insecurity and fears.

3 rules that will help to feel life in all its manifestations

1. Expand your horizons. find a new hobby, Meet interesting people, and start to engage in sports, travel, do something new and unusual for you.
2. Listen to your inner voice. You need to realize that just like you, and not your surroundings. Save your uniqueness and continues to be an interesting conversationalist.
3. Forget about what happened before, and do not make plans in advance. The past will give you invaluable experience and your future depends on what you are doing here and now. Concentrate all their efforts on what are busy at the moment. You'll see how much easier and faster you will move toward these goals.

Do not be afraid of the unknown and innovation. You will in any case remain in the win, because for your shoulders will be an experience that will help you move forward.