Happinnes exists. This is the shortest path to it

Each person has their own definition of happiness and its search method. In this article, we share one of them, and who knows, maybe it will suit you?

Let's talk about happiness.

Happiness - is generally a strange thing. All aspire to it, although no one knows what it is. All they are looking for him, although no one has seen what it looks like. And the most terrible secret that everyone is trying to solve: how to find a simple and completely works the way of finding happiness.

However, some work in this area still exist. For example, it has long been noted that one of the most reliable ways to feel happy is to make others happy man. It works around the following scheme:

Stop!

It turns out that we become happy only when we get something in return? We do a happy response or gifts words of gratitude?

No, there should be a little bit different. Like this:

I make a gift or to perform a good deed, just to make people happy. If he's happy, it also makes me happy.

That sounds just fine. I'm doing good deeds without expecting anything in return. After all, so do normal people, right?

And here and there! We still expect the reaction of his friend and depends on the reaction. I liked him a gift - we are happy, and if not, then sadness. It turns out that, regardless of our actions and achievements, our happiness is entirely dependent on others?

Yes. This is where lies the trap.

We expect reciprocity from a loved one. We are waiting for compensation from the boss. We strive for gratitude in response to its charity. We cherish the admiring glances, marking the results of our workouts.

We are waiting for approval from, to feel happy.

Let's go back to the previous picture. It consists of three blocks, the average of which is the determining factor in our happiness. And let's try to fix it!

This scheme is much shorter and easier. It tells us that we should not wait for the outcome of our actions - should just get satisfaction from their process execution. In this scheme, there is no external cause that affects your happiness. There is only you and your actions, and only on them depends on your feelings. Now it is you are responsible for your happiness.

I believe that this change in the perception of happiness is the best tricks that you can do to make your life better. If you learn to synthesize and to feel the happiness within themselves rather than getting it from the outside, you'll never be sad, you will never be disappointed, you will never get depressed.

See how easy it is to apply in life.

But this is our way to happiness does not end there. You may have noticed that we've got two bubbles in the picture. Let's try a little cut?

Can they take no effort and still be happy? Is it possible to synthesize happiness out of nothing?

Yes it is possible. It is the state most closely matches the word "nirvana" and is the ultimate goal of many religious and mystical teachings. But to achieve it will not work without going through the step-by-step throughout the supply chain, is described in this article. Of course, this is just one of the many paths that lead to happiness, but it is better than to wander randomly in the dark.

Let's try it this way?