What is to say a categorical 'no' to work

The ability to say "no" - it's almost a talent that will keep you out of trouble heap. But sometimes there are situations, when to say "no" should not someone else, but himself.

Today we will talk about what you should say "no" during operation. If you can do this, it will protect itself from overloading the system, increase your self-esteem and learn how to interact properly with others.

'No' complaints

Officer N praised, and you do not, even though you have achieved similar results. X colleague got a promotion, and you do not, though, in your opinion, did not work worse. An employee of L a month away from work two hours early, and get the same wages.

You should never fill your colleagues such claims, and especially your superiors. First, remember that the complaining - it's mostly the prerogative of the weak people. And secondly, you've probably do not know all the details of the lives of others. Maybe the employee is ill child L and X colleague I was busy with a complex and important project, which did not apply.

Instead of empty and useless complaints better direct their anger in the right direction: try to better fulfill their duties, show that you do not just work off the salary, and genuinely interested in what you are doing. In this case, the remuneration is not long to wait.

"No," colleagues who pushes you to its responsibilities

No, I'm not in any way saying that you should not refuse to help colleagues. You have to help those who really can not cope with the task, but impudent comrades who transfer their responsibilities to you, you must learn to say a categorical "not".

Saying "yes" to others, make sure you do not say "no" to ourselves.

Do not allow anyone to sit around your neck, nothing good will come of it. And if you think that colleagues because this will treat you with respect and kindness, you are wrong: most of the people on such a secret laugh.

"No," the phrase "I'll try"

"I'll try," "I'll try," "I hope I can do" - Of course, there are exceptional cases where these phrases are relevant, but often they only emphasize your lack of confidence in their own abilities and opportunities.

If you do not believe in yourself, why someone else to believe in you?

And who command respect insecure people? That's right, none. So forget these and similar phrases, exudes confidence and try to only speak an affirmative proposition, even if you are in doubt and do not believe in something.

"No," the office's request to use the property for personal use

Of course, the temptation to use the office printer for personal purposes, or, for example, to steal a couple of corporate pens and notebooks is big enough, but not Remember that this may lead to a reprimand and, in extreme cases, dismissal, and yet to fly from companies dream of such trifles do not really want, true?

"No," the lie

You promised to be at work half an hour earlier? Be at work half an hour earlier. You promised to insure a colleague who was in the hospital? Do it. You promised to deal with this challenge up to five in the evening? Get familiar with it at this time.

We all vrom. Some less, some more. Get rid of it will not work - it is a constant world in which we live. But do not forget that the work you are responsible not only for himself, his lied, you can let down their colleagues with whom you are in the same boat. Try to be honest, and if you can not or do not have time to do something, it is better to say so explicitly.

"No" activities outside working hours

Of course, there are those times when you really do not have time to complete an important task and you should do it during off-hours. But if it happens all the time, this is the first signal to the fact that you need to change something.

Perhaps you're an incorrigible perfectionist who wants to catch everything in the world. In this case, your enthusiasm is likely to subside when you see in the mirror haggard man with dark circles under the eyes, which is already a month does not sleep more than three hours.

But if you really feel that the workload is too high for you, then you should talk to your boss - most likely, it will go down in your position. Otherwise, if you want to keep your mental and physical health, you should find another job that will get you in the teeth.

"No" cramped

Do not be afraid to openly express their opinions and participate in the discussions, even if you only have got a job. A person who has an opinion deserves respect, and if this man is not afraid to express their opinion, it deserves it twice.

"No," desire to burn bridges

Let's imagine: you leave a job that you have a few years to be fed. Of course, it is finalizing two sacred weeks already feel free bird and can begin to be rude to colleagues, get involved in unprincipled disputes for you nothing better to do, or even in any way begin to spoil relations with others. In this case, do you think something like: "Why should I be afraid? Very soon I will not be here. "

Remember that the Earth is round, and you should never burn bridges. Any relationship is important to you, anyone from your past can ever again meet you on the road. Especially if you live in a small town.

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