"I'm Kate and I'm a workaholic": how to work hard and do not burn out

I'm Kate and I'm a workaholic. I sit down at the monitor at eight am and ends at 12 am. Before going to bed, instead of women's novels and books about self-development of new laws and read the analyst check in online shops. I do not go to parent-teacher conferences, do not drive children in the section, and every day I prepare dinner. Not because of laziness, but because there is no time.

It seems that I have a hard life, I have devoted to her work and more in it, nothing happens. That I deprived myself of ordinary human joys, and scored on a close chase for the number of published texts. Sooner or later, I get tired, disappointed in, I burn out or will regret the lost years. Sometimes they give me advice on what to do to prevent this from happening. Love advice from people who are oriented to themselves and their lives. As if all the others have to live in the same way and who do not live - allegedly making a mistake.

A lot of work is not to suffer, and here's why.

I myself wanted so

I have no one makes a lot of work. I have a house, car, everything you need and there is no mortgage. I still do not need to help their parents: they are still young and do work.

I work so much, because she want to. Tired - stop.

I like it

I do not like to travel. The road takes me more strength than the work and lack of sleep. My brain does not rest during walks or sports, because it is so constituted. At night I can dream analysis on taxes. It does not bother me. A real pleasure for me - to understand the complex issue (and this is not necessarily an article in the "F-T"). About this, as in many of the contemplation of landscapes and visiting exhibitions.

I have always worked hard

I work 18 years. I'm 35 now. I have never had such a position, so I went in six out of the office and could forget about work. In the chief accountant does not happen. When he took the texts and sites, hire people and got involved in other people's projects - even more so. For me, a lot of fine work, and "T F" here at all to do with it. Before him was the same. And without a "T F" so it will be, if only to health permitted.

My family is not deprived of attention

We work together with her husband. More than 10 years we have been close to 24 hours a day. We have common projects, and lack of communication through the roof. We have an office in which to work separately from each other. In most families, on the contrary: the spouses meet after work. We are not to part.

They support me

If I did not have time to cook dinner, my husband will eat cheese or drink protein. If you do not pat his shirt, patted himself. He also works a lot. But he does not reproach me that I was from morning to evening is something I write and I do not go to bed until you sell an article.

On he came to the hospital for emergency surgery last week. Yes, I was torn between work, garden, gym and the child. But he was always hot soup, which I prepared and brought home. And in the "T F" still published articles.

Priorities are set correctly. Work hard not to score at close. You just have to ask what they think about it.

I have my own view on motherhood

I have two sons. I go to their morning performances and important events, but do not go to school meetings. Because I do not want to, not because I strangled work. And also because my mom - the class teacher of my son, hehe.

I physically can not stand the discussions which lead the children on the New Year and what color to choose blinds in class. I pass on all the money in advance and agree with any activities. But spare me the school chatik.

I treat the kids when they get sick, bedding and helping with homework. But I do not mean amplification pusi-moymalysh. I never painted with finger paints them, and did not learn the letters to two years.

I pay programming courses to senior and junior English school. But I can not sculpt them out of plasticine in the evenings. I do not want. Excuse me, good mother.

Recently, my son toothache. Yes, I did not know he had a milk or a radical. Yes, I do not remember what his teeth fell out. I took him in the best clinics of the city, and there is clear. And I think it's better than keeping a frightened child's hand in a free hospital, where they treat without adequate anesthesia. Because "Yazhemat and ready to spend three hours on a voucher and queue. And let the work can wait. But we are side by side, and all the teeth we keep the tooth fairy. " Swimming - know.

My time is expensive

A good hostess every quarter washes windows, preparing three meals and starches change linens. for general cleaning in the kitchen, I'll call the cleaners, the husband will dine in the cafe, and I poglazhu whenever I want. Poglazhu or, if no time. And I will not torment the conscience.

If I'm working instead of washing of windows, at that time I do not burn at work. And do what I'm good at, what I get paid and what I like.

I like the independence of

I was not maternity leaveAnd for 17 years was not a single month that I myself did not earn enough for a normal life. Important for me to be independent, well and receive from no one to depend on. My younger sisters are sitting in the decree for three years with each child. They like it, it's their choice - I respect it. And mine was, and he voluntarily.

I rest as much as I like, and not as a "right"

I can work from home, combining article writing with a mask on his face, check vorstku news sitting in a restaurant, and discussing a new project on the way to the supermarket. I, like all normal people, go to the cafe, watch movies, find the time for a coffee in the morning and a beautician. Yes, during the eyelash I listen to a webinar on procedural documents instead of music. Yes, as long as I do a manicure, I can read the printout laws. Because I'm interested.

Figachit not mean sitting in a dressing gown without lifting your fingers off the keyboard, forgetting about the family and the joys of life. Not to go twice a year abroad with a disabled phone not to deprive yourself of the main pleasures. A lot of work not to burn out and pull the strap.

I know many examples when people relax during outings, writing, music tracks, trips to exhibitions, yoga, or travel. That's fine, right, and all this for someone an example to follow. But the universal advice here can not be. I'm from the outings do not relax.

My recipe for burnout on the job - to be honest with you.

I ceased to be equal to others and feel guilty for unvisited countries and unread children's fairy tales. Recognized that kicks off from work and it's part of my happiness.

Do as you like. I like that.

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