Leave the kids alone. Let them be alone with him!

All parents want their children to grow up from the brilliant musicians, talented scientists and successful entrepreneurs. To do this, they are making huge efforts, turning their lives into an ongoing cycle of sports sections, clubs, tutoring and extra classes. Maybe that's enough to torment them?

The reason for this article served as a response to one of the service users on Quora questionThat it was common in childhood and adolescence, the most successful people of our time. Auron Hoffman argues that the study of the biographies of many famous people told him the answer to this question, and it reads as follows - "loneliness."

Yes, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Max Levchin, Elon Musk, Mark Zuckerberg, and dozens of other well-known figures had in childhood and adolescence has enough free time, when they were left to themselves. And here are some reasons why it has gone to their advantage.

self-knowledge

All the people who held a child a lot of time alone, an additional opportunity to examine themselves and their ability to dream, invent, improve. It is said that in deciding the destiny of man is his relation to himself and the world around them, rather than external circumstances. If you were not able to really understand myself, understand that the rest is certainly not succeed.

Reading

No one, I think, do not have to convince Useful reading. This is perhaps the most valuable skill that should vaccinate their children at this time. But reading requires a sufficient amount of free time and privacy. If you try to take every free minute of your child some useful activity, the book will inevitably recede into the background.

Imagination

Any child, to his own devices, will miss only the first time, and then turn on the imagination and invent for themselves entertainment. Backyard thus turns into a strange planet, overgrown weeds - in the insidious invaders, and the hero - in a brave defender of our universe. Or a secret agent, traveler, noble knight, and so the list goes on. Yes, maybe he does not learn well and give a pass commanding general games, but with imagination he will surely be all right.

Creative activity

Is it possible to paint a picture with your friends? Write poetry? To come up with the plot of the new film? Create a sculpture?

Yes, you can. But most people prefer to deal with such things alone. Creative classes can not stand the hustle and prying eyes, they require a focus on the subject and seclusion. A person who does not know and does not like being alone, is unlikely to become a creator.

Freedom from social pressure

Any team, especially school, is rigidly organized environment in which each element strives for an appropriate place. The hierarchy in the class observed more strictly than at the royal court, but to take it a high level, the child must cease to be yourself and learn to play by the rules. Yes, it is a valuable skill for life, but sometimes social pressure not temper the child, and cripple it. Leave him some personal time when he could be himself.

In recent decades, there was a strange tendency to consider staying alone dangerous and futile exercise for children and teenagers. A good child is the one who is always busy with something, and preferably under the supervision of an adult.

Every parent feels compelled to spend as much time as possible with their children, entertaining, developing, taking and teaching their children. And if, for understandable reasons, they would not succeed, then come to the aid of the numerous clubs, studios, prodlonki, teachers and so on. And even when the child seems to be left alone, he still remains under the control of social networks, phone calls, verifying esemesok.

Hey, what are you doing? Leave them at least for some time alone!

What do you think about this?