How to raise a happy child

Now the department in a bookstore dedicated to the development and education of the child, more like a section selection in Botany: you can choose, what exactly do you want the child to grow up - a smart, healthy, vegetarian, gluten free child and without bad habits, and so on and so like. And if the earlier a child - it was happiness, and it was a natural extension of the family, but now to the replenishment of the family are preparing as if it were a flight to Mars. This stress is panic and fear. And this is wrong!

Writer Jennifer Senior, mother six year old son, in his speech at the TED offers its own version of "parental concern".

Now the department in a bookstore dedicated to the development and education of the child, more like a section selection in Botany: you can choose, what exactly do you want the child to grow up - a smart, healthy, vegetarian, gluten free child and without bad habits and so on and so like. We do not just want children, we want young geniuses who are already with three years will be programming, talk for at least three languages, reading, writing, and God knows what to do. And if the earlier a child - it was happiness, and it was a natural extension of the family, but now to the replenishment of the family are preparing as if it were a flight to Mars. This stress is panic and fear. And this is wrong!

Writer Jennifer Senior, mother six year old son, in his speech at the TED offers its own version of "parental concern".

History №1. When my son was almost two years, I was standing with a stroller next to the coffee kiosk and considered children's magazines. Within minutes, my contemplation interrupted the question of an elderly lady who was interested in what I see and what kind of magazine like my child. I replied that it was for developing lessons. And then the lady suffered. What? But as? And how much your kid? And he already knows? But I have a grandson, almost the same age and already knows the letters! And so on and so on... Since this lady was not the first one to bother me with these questions and advice regarding the education of my child, I could not stand and repeated question about so that he can, without thinking, replied calmly counts to 10, knows not only Russian and English alphabets, but already knows how to read short the words. This was followed by a pause, bulging eyes and a hasty removal of the ladies, muttered under his breath, something it Alia missed and would have to make up. If you consider that she believed what I blurted out without thinking absolutely, I do not envy the child.

Story number 2. In the group my son was a wonderful girl Masha, who had time to everywhere and dancing and the music, and preparatory classes for school. Masha exhibited forward on all holidays, and the director of our preschool institutions every time pronounced eulogies in honor of Masha and her grandmother. Masha every time strained smile, his teeth, and reprized his role, and then went into hysterics and strikes, tossed in his mother toys (in the grandmother throw is not risky because it feared and Masha Mama). And if at first we do not Masha very much and loved, then watch these scenes throughout the year and become better acquainted with her mother and grandmother, she began to sympathize. Do Masha smart girl grows up? Absolutely. And will it be happy? Here is another question.

Such stories quite a lot - walking with a child on the ground and talking to parents of kindergarten for four years, and is not hear. Just wanted to, so we stopped to go crazy and do what feels our parental heart, and does not require the society.

[Ted id = 1974 lang = ru]