Story of a boy my mother, who broke his spine, and then crossed the Bosporus

Maria has become a major motivator in the life of his youngest son, Eugene, who, after a year of fracture of the spine do not get out of bed, and after a few years began to win championships and swam across the Bosporus. This was told Maria on Google Women's Summit. Presenting its history.

My husband broke on the car when the children were very young. And I was left alone with four children. And I - a good mother, but not a very good dad. But I had to be a dad. With her daughters it was still clear, but what about the sons?

Maria Kolosova

10 years

When the youngest son was 10 years old, was pushed in a school, he fell back to the stairs and broke his spine. And a year did not go. Just lying. And how do you think he did? Ate. What he has yet to do? You can not get up, so he was lying, eating, reading and playing chess.

11 years

Time has passed, you can have ten minutes a day to go, well, the other children at school. They learn some social skills are acquired, the program run. A son of the house.

12-13 years

When he went back to school, it weighed 90 kilograms during the growth of 165 centimeters. In addition, he was fat, he had forgotten how to fill the shirt into pants, collect portfolio properly, wrapping tutorials. A teacher of dislike.

And somehow he could not organize themselves and missed a lot, but not a stupid boy. In the end, I was summoned by the director of "contributory". Well it is clear - in the school ranking, they do not want weak children. Ten children below rated - in the garden, and ten of fresh brains to take the streets, because that is always a queue. A son - the second from the end. I said to the director: "Yes, everything is good, let us one last chance." We were given six months.

On the way home I was thinking: First, it was the fourth child, I have no strength to check the lessons, I'm tired. I have time and do not, have to work a lot - to earn money. Second, I realized that if I start to check the scores as he wrapped textbooks if the shirt runs, it will spoil the relationship with his son. And it does not have the problem of becoming addicted in 13 years on, my mother put her handkerchief in the pocket or not. He has other tasks.

The child has problems in what? He does not know how to organize themselves around some purpose, he even put them does not know how. Yes, it is something like - puzzles in mathematics to solve, plays chess well. But to set a goal, he does not know how.

I realized that my mother and all the more as a psychologist should help him to understand what he likes.

So when I came home, she said from the doorway: "Eugene, you're eight years old normal swimming, I used to take you to the pool. Let's go pereplyvom Bosporus ". We looked at the video, I told him something HEX, in the end, he agreed, but set a condition - not to go together in one pool. And then I realized how important it was that I did not climb into his briefcase with the lessons.

He began to walk to the pool, exercise, it has five months to the Bosphorus. But as always, there was only pleasure, any organizational difficulties. The company, which was engaged in flight, a slot (a certain number of seats, giving the right to participate in the competition), hotel, had disappeared. And I somehow know about it, and he - no.

And we already fly to Cyprus to take part in his first swim in the open water of 3.5 kilometers. I swam with a crack in his hand, he came last, but Zhenya something sailed the first!

And I understand that I have a child, and cool swims ahead of professional swimmers, but you need to tell him the truth, that the Bosphorus will not. I explained to him that we do not have slots, and he replied he asked to buy tickets to go at least to see how the guys will start. And I can not deny this child, he lived five months of this!

I bought a ticket, he flew to Turkey and began to call out: "Mom, I'll jump and still swim close to them, even without a chip!". Of course, I began to dissuade him: "You are mad come down! This is dangerous".

On the last day before the Bosphorus swimmers showed the road, and there was a terrible storm, wind storm. Both adult male 39 years, says: "No, I do not swim." My son bought his slot, made his way to the barge, which they Shiga, put on a cap, chip and came 16th among the six thousand athletes.

The child, which a few months ago expelled from school, comes home and says, "Mom, I'm in the next year on the Bosphorus will be the first!".

14 years old

Next was an important turning point. I asked his son: "Do you like to swim in open water? Good. You'll swim, I'll take the credit, loan money. The world has many beautiful races: it is possible, for example, between the Hawaiian Islands with the dolphins to swim for a while; you can swim in the bay of San Francisco with seals; you can go to Hong Kong. Many excellent starts, you will be involved in all. And I'm not going to check the lessons, and I buy in the reference school, you've got a runny nose when you were in the competition, and I will pay all travel, but I do not want to know that you have a poor rating in the school. " He agreed.

Three weeks disaccustomed son at school and flies to Hawaii to swim with dolphins, then a few weeks to learn and fly to Beijing to participate in the swim and then in Hong Kong. Which boy is not like in 14 years?

He visited the most beautiful places in the world, rose, pulled himself up, came in the shoulders and in the school, he realized that rating, it turns out, pick up is very simple. And I said, "Mom, just something you need to listen to what the teacher says, do all the homework and gather a portfolio properly."

15-16 years

It takes a year, three examinations - and all three fives. And in rating, instead of the second from the end, Eugene becomes the second from the beginning.

And then the Bosphorus, and he wins it, becoming the record.

But when already loomed ahead 11 class, the director called me to school and said, "Take the child out of school." I think: this time? "Passed September, the children have written practice tests, your son in all subjects at most. What I'm going to teach him a year? Take ".

Son to me once said that he has a plan: "Can I go to Cyprus to the trainer, I will teach math there, winter come to the Olympic Games, win them and will do ahead of time without examination? I have a plan for what to learn. " And I have a plan was not ...

Well, I went and wrote a letter with his own hand: "I ask my child be expelled from one of the best physical and mathematical schools."

But not everything went as planned, he himself, and it was a very interesting moment. Jack comes in winter, writing competitions and does not get the two, then three points, and then the results were lost altogether. For him, it's new, he finds himself in a situation where he was not successful. Everything! The rate has not worked. In March, there were only two Olympics.

I saw him hard, but what could I do? I wrote a letter with his own hand on the deduction, because I thought that a boy of 16 years had better learn to make decisions and take responsibility for them, than to walk every day to school. That's his decision, his responsibility here, here are the results. And as a mom, I can cook it on the hot cocoa in the morning and say that I believe in it.

He says the last two Olympic Games... and becomes a winner, enters the university, and the next day flying away to Cyprus. But it could not happen!

Risk - a very important thing, because a person who does not reach the target is different from that up and display their abilities, in that the second takes on the tasks that he does not know how solve.

And the probability of failure is high there, and he gets it. But whoever takes up this task and now knows how to dispose of this failure, it becomes a winner - a man who in the end to realize themselves.

When Eugene set a world record, he was incredibly happy. He came and told me: "Mom, I figured out the formula of his success. This is my abilities, multiplied by your love. "

If you believe in their children and love them very much, I think the success they achieved.