8 reasons not to focus on the first relationship if they failed

Few who manage to build a standing relationship with the first attempt. There is nothing surprising, because without experience there is no success. Someone thinks that meet once their man - a great success, but there are those who find it too boring. Here are eight reasons you perk up when your first novel was not the only.

The first does not mean better

Meaning something first overrated. In the story of Andre Maurois "Seasonal flowers," the main character - a university professor and literary critic Etienne Carlo - every Thursday has flowers on the grave of his dead wife. He vowed to keep her loyalty and does not believe that he is interested in another woman.

But once in the same cemetery Etienne gets acquainted with a charming young widow, and between friendships. New friend is reading the book, she recommends Etienne, and he, in turn, is pleasantly surprised by the maturity and depth of its judgments. So Morua protagonist unexpectedly re-experiencing the feelings and unconsciously notices that the girl will suit him more than pushed spouse.

The new novel - another candy buketny period

My friend, parting with a guy with whom met since high school, admitted that, remembering the beginning of their romance, thinking, "Surely I will never it will not?" And there really was something to mourn. Start relations - a pleasure for both. A man and a woman love each other, but did not say so openly. They flirt, meet from time to time. They do not argue, because between them there are no insults and innuendo. Their first touch each other the most pleasant, because more do not have time to become familiar.

This disturbing period lasts up to the first stand for some time after. Then people become closer and their relationship - it is easier. So think of each of his novel as a bonus and the opportunity to once again enjoy life.

The experience will make you wiser

Women who have sufficient experience in dealing with men, not surprised when a partner ceases to call and seek meetings. Those who have already faced with similar, do not panic, believing that the person does not ring because it is busy, the phone lost, was in the hospital or dead. For them, it is obvious that nothing happened to him, except for one: the desire to communicate is lost.

Your curiosity in the question "What about the others?" Is met

Hardly Monogamous never visited idea how to meet with the other person. With a lifetime of only one partner, you do not learn some interesting and sometimes unexpected things about the opposite sex. Men, for example, should know that not all women love melodrama, children and compliments, and women - that there are men in the passive SexuallyInclined to romance and dream of a large family.

You realize that the whole thing in relation to the situation

Where people are involved, will never be objectivity. Every situation can be turned so as aspired by the imagination. If desired, tactful attitude easily mistaken for sympathy, and indifference - for trying to hide emotions. To think about how you apply this or that person, then spend time.

If partner shows a lack of respect to your desires, not his word or contemptuous of your profession, the situation will not change. The question is, are you ready to take it and for how long. In the first relationship you have stupid excuses and hope for change for the better. With experience comes to the conclusion that the expected change in someone or pointless character.

Parting hardened you

first parting are experiencing more difficult than the next. Suffice it to recall the story of Ivan Bunin "Mitya's Love". Mitya, fleeing from his girlfriend Kathy in a village falls into a love relationship. His mood influenced her writing, and if not, it is crazy. If Mitya found the strength to survive this period of anguish and despair, further setbacks in his personal life, he would have perceived easier.

Mental anguish tempered character, and over time a person learns to switch attention to work, sports, friends. And then the emotional state becomes more stable.

You will learn to let go

My friend, having parted with her first boyfriend, has announced that he is a scoundrel and a fool, because I did not want to be with her. I asked her:

- Nastya, and you want to meet with the elderly man?

- Of course not! - she was outraged.

- So you get, you fool?

She was not ready to recognize themselves as such. The fact that the two broke up, only means that the more they do not fit each other.

You will gain emotional independence

Many people have an interest in new Passo former partners. Five years ago I could spend hours on social networks to consider photos Lenochek, Anechek Olenek and (for some reason they all had affectionate nicknames), comparing them with each other and looking for flaws in them. Over time, the increased interest was replaced by a lazy curiosity.

So if a few years ago, you went crazy on that to whom you are doing now is not present, and today's jealousy turns into indifference. I'm here at the girls react ex-boyfriends is not so painful. And some even admit cute.