Before and after: How to "Willpower" changed the lives of George Chizhov
Books A Life / / December 19, 2019
Publisher "Mann, Ivanov and Ferber"We proposed a new heading" Before and After ". The publisher has collected many stories about people whose lives have changed because of the book. Meet the pilot post - the story of George Chizhov pumping willpower. If you enjoy heading, check huskies or in the comments - there will be new posts and a contest for the best story on you.
Georgy Chizhov says:
I will not write to you about the book. I'll tell you about myself. More precisely about those experiences and events that I experienced. Are you ready to sympathize with me? Then let's begin.
BEFORE
I always thought that I had a strong will is all right. Judge for yourself, I'm married, with two children, I have no bad habits, I go to the Internet as needed, go to the gym, 10 years I have been in business. In short, almost ideal.
So I decided not to read the book "Willpower". Maybe so, swipe a couple of pages to be aware of the content. But, picking up the book, I could not stop on the first two pages and began to read more.
At first, I felt a distinct disappointment. Disappointment is what I look like. It turned out I was not quite ideal. No not like this. I do not ideal, absolutely limp soft-bodied creature.
After the disappointment of it's astounding. I was surprised at how skillfully turns man can deceive himself. What is the subconscious tricks to succumb to various temptations and do not feel guilty.
The next state became completely engulfed me fear. Fear arose on the basis of the understanding that something needs to change. And dramatically. But what I did not know me. And because the fear turned into panic.
Then you obviously have a question - what is so terrible I made what I have to repent and what should be changed. Nothing that would be a revelation for you.
Listed in order. I always woke up later the alarm clock because he could not sleep properly as the night sitting on the Internet. I did not do morning exercises, I had breakfast harmful food, I turned on the TV as soon as put on the table a plate of food. In my things in the locker room is always a mess, and therefore I spent half an hour in the morning to find a shirt or sweater, so I was easier to wear what I wore yesterday, and the day before. And sometimes pose-the day before yesterday. I went out for 15-20 minutes after the appointed time, because later woke up and could not calculate the time in the morning to get ready. I forget the necessary documents and had to go back to the halfway house. Of course I was late for the meeting and strongly defended himself cursing the traffic jams and public transport. At work, I could not begin to carry out their duties, because in the beginning I went in social networks and respond to those comments, which came during the night, or rather early in the morning of those who went to another after me. Of course, to establish a dialogue that lasted throughout the day and is constantly distracted me from work. I did not keep a diary and a forgetting appointments and missed calls. In the evening I definitely found himself in some good company and spent almost all their time in the café or bar. And even if I did not drink alcohol, noise and the situation is still cause me physical fatigue. Over the weekend, I went with the kids to the cinema, where necessary to buy all of cola and popcorn. After the movie we went to the food court and ate fast food.
Well, perhaps it will be enough to form an opinion of me as a person who is familiar to most people's lives. I will not address issues of intimate life. There, too, everything seems like everyone and at the same time not as much as I would like in an ideal.
BOOK
And then I read half of the book, in the doldrums. On each page, I felt worse and worse. And I decided not to read the book because I saw the harm in it. In fact I hardly'll be able to change ourselves and become better. So why spoil the mood of yourself and others. I put the book down for two days. These two days were a torment, because I realized what I was wrong. But I did not know how to fix it. There were two ways - forget all that I have read and maintain your former way of life, telling himself in his own right. And the second way - to read the book to the end and try to complete all the tasks.
And surprisingly, I wrote the word "job". A job as such in the book there. There's a further explanation of our temptations and temptations, there are tips on how to control their weaknesses, and any comments on strategies for cultivation of will power. Everything. No imposing views, no claims on my own, there is always a reference to case studies. You on every page of the book calmly and convincingly explain why you are trying to get stronger, but you can not do it. And be sure to say, how to get out of this situation.
AFTER
So I decided to change. I believed that I could find the strength and become even stronger. Just looking at myself, I wanted to see a little better.
The first thing I did - Unplug the TV antenna. I hereby deprived watching TV not only themselves but also the whole family. The first two days, breaking was unbearable, but on the third day, I suddenly realized that we have to talk, to read books and to notice each other.
The next stage was the process of cleaning the refrigerator from harmful food.
I threw the remains of the sausage, sausage pack, a jar of pickles, got rid of the packages of chips, which are hidden in the closet as a reserve, the same I have found nowhere who had taken chocolate bars. None of the family members were not admitted that is his stock in "rainy day". I had to ruthlessly get rid of chocolate with caramel and nuts. Following in the bucket flew ketchup and mayonnaise. And in their place rose the olive oil.
To my surprise, I signed up for yoga. After the third visit, I felt very old and sick, as the muscles and joints They refused to accept unusual for them to load and sabotaged my desire to become healthy and beautiful. But I did not give up. I wanted to prove to myself that I can. And that book helped to notice sabotage the ultimate goal during the fixing of the intermediate success. What am I, you ask? In the book, everything is there.
For two weeks, I unexpectedly became thinner and thinner by 2 kg. I became closer to what I'm doing. Make out things in the locker room, found a couple of interesting new shirt and tie.
Forced children to bring order to their tables, fixed the wiring in the hallway and lock the bathroom.
At work, he introduced new standards of staff, found a bunch of shortcomings in their activities.
And I look at myself and realize that he could not stop. The change process is running and now only need to keep fit. Yes, even in the book is given advice - have to publicly announce that you are going to change in yourself. I announced. Now I have to bear in front of you responsible for his words. I hope it will strengthen my desire to get better and better every day. Because there is no limit to perfection. We just have to start by reading the book.
"Strength of will. How to develop and strengthen, "Kelly McGonigal
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