How to deal with permanent employment

Life flies in the affairs and concerns. We do not notice the small pleasures, do not allow yourself to relax and feel constantly overloaded and pereutomlonnymi. Psychologist David Sbarro shared their experiences in dealing with excessive employment.

Sbarro David (David Sbarra)

Professor of psychology at the University of Arizona.

"We so appreciate the time that researchers have detected an aversion to idleness and the need to justify their continued occupancy - quoted David Sbarro book"Not yet!“. - And very often we do not even notice. "

As a clinical psychologist, Sbarro has worked with many people trying to improve their lives, for example, to preserve the family, or to cope with depression. And he did not just convinced that the changes for the better will be made only after the recognition of the problem.

As much as it may sound trite, personal responsibility - the engine of change in behavior. This will help in the fight against employment.

Recognize that permanent employment - it is a problem

The cause of many mental suffering is often preoccupation with unpleasant memories and thoughts. We are continuously scroll through them in the head and can not create a psychological distance between themselves and the unfairness of life. As a result, we are completely cut off from its main values: the basic principles that should ideally lead our behavior. It is therefore important to separate themselves from their negative thoughts ( "Everything is awful," "I feel awful"), to begin to live meaningfully.

Similar is happening with employment, which devalues ​​everything that is important to us. We work with children, socialize, play sports - and all this unconsciously, as if simply expunged from the list of lines of business. Employment should not be a guiding principle in life. But often we do not even notice that it has become a problem.

To make life more colorful and meaningful, you need to do less and serious about his choice.

Learn to appreciate inaction

When David realized that the constant employment does not see life, he decided to start with a simple - to spend more time on the street. He is regularly involved in sports, but that's just walking like unlearned. So he began to walk more.

"It is not too difficult - says Sbarro - just leave the car a little further away from the office or go for a walk at lunch."

Even an extra 40 minute walk two or three times a week can dramatically change the way we live. During the walk, you might think, inspired by nature and calm.

In addition, David advises appreciate inaction. This is not a call to laziness, just need to realize the importance of the moment, is not employed by any business. In this case, he cites one of the essay, journalist and cartoonist Tim Kreider from the book "We do not learn anything».

Permanent employment is our encouragement, a hedge against emptiness. Of course, our lives can not be banal and meaningless, if we each hour engaged in business. All this noise, the rush, the stress just cover our fears.

Tim Kreider

Here are a few tips to help you deal with permanent employment.

• Try to enjoy the simple unplanned actions, such as the opportunity to play with children or to lie on the couch with a book. Perhaps you, like David, will notice that when you're working less, your performance results are getting better.
• Give up the social networks. This black hole is constantly spanning your attention. It is unlikely to be in a room full of screaming and demanding your people's attention, but it is in such a position, and turns our brains, as we sit in social networks Have you started.
• Laugh more. Employment goes hand in hand with seriousness. And too serious attitude to everything only hurts.
• Appreciate your friends and family. Friendship also reinforces our strength, as well as food.

The irony is that by doing less, we no longer enjoy life. Of course, sometimes you will still tightening cycle in different cases. But in general, you will begin to feel better, more informed decisions and feel more energetic.