How to survive the loss of their favorite team: Psychologist
A Life / / December 19, 2019
According to clinical psychologist-consultant Mary Elec, at a time when we cheer for our favorite team or the national team, it represents for us all that we feel and what we feel involved. And if the team loses, it's a blow to us because someone else's we won.
With this easy to handle. The best remedy here is to try not to take the team failed to heart, to separate themselves from players and return to themselves, to other things and events that you please, and bring pleasure.
Maria Elec, a clinical psychologist and consultant
Immediately after the game
1. A sober assessment of the scale of events
Information about the competition so actively discussed in the media, social networks, it seems that this is the most important in the history of mankind. Perhaps they will happen is something that the epithet "the very game" will be used, and in dozens of years. For fans of the situation escalates, as he feels implicated, so going wild emotions.
It's hard to believe right after the match, but losing your team - not the end of the world. Of course, a sad event, but not vital for you. To understand this, look at the situation more. The team lost, but you still have other things and events that bring joy: work, hobbies,
sport and even athletes, acting in other sports.2. Accept your feelings, but try to control them
Anger, irritation, despair - losing team is a strong emotional response, and that's fine. Do you have feelings and have the right to try them, allow yourself to it.
But splash of emotions better to control. Perhaps once it seems a good idea to argue with the "other" fans, throwing objects, to fight and to behave destructively in other ways. It is not, therefore, hold back.
3. Go to the gym
Jogging, boxing training, the traditional power and even a dance lesson - any exercise is suitable to throw out strong emotions. Exercise stimulates the production of joy hormone endorphinExercise fuels the brain's stress buffersAnd it will reconcile you with several teams losing.
4. Play video games
You need to ignore, and play your favorite genre is suitable as well as possible. You will be able to direct aggression on imaginary monsters, and a joystick or mouse in their hands to remind that something you still can control, even if it is not the results of their favorite team.
5. Go for a walk
Walk in a nice pace and breathe deeply - for kombonabor stress relief. Both of these actions help restore emotional balance. Most likely, the emotions will engulf and hinder relax. To help you, think of the steps or take a breath, take it down. To complicate the task, you can count down or the digit.
6. Talk about it
Hardly you are rooting for their team in splendid isolation. Sports fans - it's a great community, and for sure you will find a companion. speak with him about the loss, call a spade judges from the team players and opponents all who "blame" the loser. This will bring you relief.
After some time
7. Surround yourself with people
People are depressed tend to isolate themselves. Especially if around the familiar, far from football, which continue to enjoy life, despite losing team. But this is a way to worsen the mood even more. So keep the saturation of social contacts at the same level as before the competition.
8. fill the vacuum
You set up a monthly viewing of matches, but the team was eliminated from the competition before, and a sense of emptiness will not take long. In such a situation are not only football fans. If you do not believe me, talk to the man, favorite TV series which was closed in the middle of the season.
To suddenly arose in my heart a black hole is not sucked in all the positive feelings, fill it with something that will take time and head as well as sports. In the end, you can do football and show everyone how to play.
9. wait out
Most likely, the melancholy and despair pass in a few days, but until then give yourself time to grieve.
If the sadness does not recede over time, and you can not concentrate on anything else, perhaps, we are talking about depressive disorder. In this case it is better to visit a psychologist.
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