How useful melancholy and why you should not fight it

Melancholia is usually no reason. It arises by itself, it appears as a mist. Fight it offer with the "Simple Steps to Happiness" guides "to fight with nostalgia," and so on. Very interesting look at the melancholy offered American writer Laren Stover (Laren Stover).

In his article for New York Times it tells how all life felt strange because of causeless melancholy, comes of age. Only with time she learned not only to live with his melancholy, but also to enjoy and benefit from such sentiments.

In a sense, that's fine - to fall into the arms of cloudy melancholy. See black-and-white film or listen to the sound of the wind that Truman Capote would be called "meadow harp."

Laren Stover

Continuing his thought, the writer invites us to live together with melancholy, instead of throwing all their forces to fight against it. A state of depression and sadness can be very fruitful for all of us. Learning to live with his melancholy, you let the emotions boiling inside, go outside. A little cry or complain about a bad mood - this is normal, and even after such a "session" of melancholy you feel much better.

How to learn to get the most out of his melancholy? Laren Stover says he goes through all the stages of melancholy and sadness, let emotions overwhelm her and go outside.

Do not accept yourself, that you feel sad if you do not want to get out of this state.

Bring your melancholy to the maximum. Let the feelings and allow the accumulated emotions exit. I want to cry - cry, I want to whine and complain about life - forward! Behave like a hero of cheap melodrama, if it asks the soul.

Why is it good? You will not suppress their own emotions, and it is more useful than to keep it all inside. In addition, you will get bored relatively quickly smeared the tears on the cheeks and you quickly will come to normal.

Interesting fact: if you try to get out and go to your friends, explain that you are swept causeless sadness and longing, the nine ten companions try to say something like: "Oh, come on, well as all" difficult to object to them: you do everything in order. Therefore, these words from loved ones and family, oddly enough, only cause rejection and a desire to once again hide behind the door of the apartment.

The same thing happens when you read the materials like the "effective steps to happiness." These tips are likely real and effective. But when you are melancholy, it seems that everything is better than you, and the world is living on some other laws, you do not know.

Does above all, that we have ceased to appreciate the melancholy, because I always try to fight it? Probably yes.

Attempts to get rid of boredom as quickly as possible similar to the use of cheat-code in a video game. If you do not get a feeling for all the drama, how do you know that there is such sadness and melancholy?

Melancholy, as we have said, we have no reason to. Because of this key feature of it is essentially very similar to the common cold.

Vaccination and antibiotics will not work: you just need to survive. Therefore, instead of hiding feelings deep down, annoyed, in response to the advice of friends and colleagues strained smile, greet Her Majesty Melancholy. This state is absolutely natural. If you do not be sad sometimes, even moments of happiness would not be so sweet. As the sunset and sunrise, as the ebb and flow, melancholy comes and goes.

You feel myself slipping into depression? Arrange a corresponding evening. Music Joy Division or the book of Oscar Wilde fit perfectly. Soon you will be back on the horse, because honestly will experience their sadness.