How to stop to avoid difficulties

Here are a few examples:

• Right now you are reading this article and are likely to stay away from something you do not want to think about what you will.
• We constantly check the warning social networking, news, and email to do something difficult or unpleasant.
• We have long do not pay taxes, do not answer the long message, postpone cleaning because they do not want to do it.

One can cite thousands of such examples, when our brain unbeknownst to us switched to something else, so as not to think about unpleasant. Check it out for yourself: stop for a moment and try to understand what thoughts you are avoiding. Or you notice any problem, or your brain to quickly switch to another subject.

This exercise is part of the adoption of the method, which uses Leo Babauta. But first, let's understand why, when we avoid the problem, we only harm ourselves.

Understand that avoid useless difficulties

We are always subconsciously want to escape from the discomfort, pain and complications. And our brain has learned to do it, is not it, we forget about problems. But at the same time, we have a lifetime to escape from the complexities and distractions, not only to deal with the difficulties.

A This means that we allow fear and anxiety to control us. We are like a small child who does not want to work, and only wants to get a new toy.

As a result, we do not do important things or postpone them to the very last moment, and then work in a state of stress. The same fate befalls sports, proper nutrition, Finances, relationships, and other aspects of our lives.

In the end, we still have to deal with these problems, but by the time they usually grow to a universal scale.

accept challenges

According to the adopted methodology, developed by Leo Babauta, better be fully aware of what you have a problem, not avoid them and decide. Having begun to do so, you will understand that these problems are not so terrible.

1.First ask yourself: "What do I do now?". Put a few reminders for the day, or leave yourself a note not to forget what you're doing.

Answers can be quite unremarkable, for example: "I sit in Facebook", "open a new tab in the browser" or "I eat." The main thing - to accustom themselves to the awareness.

2.Then ask yourself this question: "What do I miss?". When faced with something difficult or unpleasant, we'll automatically switch to something else. We avoid these thoughts or cases without even noticing.

So try to understand what you're avoiding: it may be a fear for some difficult task, unpleasant emotions, discomfort, or just stay in the present moment. Know what to avoid.

3.Take this feeling, whatever it was. Think not about your attitude towards him, but about the physical sensations. Most likely, you will notice that it is not such a terrible. Try to stay with this feeling for a while.

4.Proceed. When you took your problem and realized that it is not as scary as you thought at first, you can do as an adult, not as a child: you decide how to deal with this problem.

For example, if you are experiencing the fear of some business, remind yourself that it will benefit you and others, that it is more important than fear. If you are angry with someone and because of this, avoid the difficult conversation, try to understand that anger and offense - only emotions. So you will be easier to calmly discuss with the person of your problems and find some solution.

Of course, this technique does not relieve you of all the problems. But it will help you to cope with discomfort, not to avoid it, as most do. You'll be less prokrastinirovat and learn to live in the present moment. Naturally, this will not happen in one day. You will need some time, that it has become a habit.