8 skills, which should have everyone in 18 years

Many parents are simply obsessed with safety and care, so it is often their children grow sluggish anything unfit plants. It is this issue is dedicated to the book "Let them go. How to prepare children for adult life"Julie Hames-Litkott from Stanford University. Layfhaker chose the key ideas of the work and accompanied by their comments.

1. Talk to strangers

Obsessed adult safety so severely hammered into the heads of your children prohibition of communication with strangers, he is imprinted in their brain for life. As a result, you can often meet rozovoschokih burly, bearded and sometimes even young people, are simply not able to ask for directions, make a reservation at the cafe, make an appointment to see a doctor, and so Further.

What do parents

Instead of a total ban on talking with strangers should be taught to distinguish good people from bad, and safe from dangerous situations.

2. Do not get lost

Led by the child by the hand and accompanied only up to a certain age on all trips. If time does not stop doing it, you can get as a result of a programmed robot, which is able to move only at a known and approved mom routes.

What do parents

Give more autonomy in their movements. The only way to learn to understand the intricacies of public transport routes, to get to the necessary places and never be afraid of getting lost.

3. Manage your tasks, schedules, and time

Parents are created in order to permanently nudet the need to do your homework, go to the gym, go to sleep. That's what many people think teenagers, and for this they have a good reason.

What do parents

Sooner or later there comes a time when you need to provide children the opportunity to self identify and prioritize, schedule workload, set deadlines and monitor their compliance.

4. Do the homework

At a young age I do not really want to deal with all those boring individual cleaning and laundry. And parents often sorry "deprive children of childhood." The result is young people who can not even take care of themselves, not that of others.

What do parents

Ensure a smooth transition from joint participation in household chores to a complete self-service. Including cleaning, washing, cooking, and other prosaic skills that are always useful in life.

5. To solve interpersonal problems

If adults too often interfere in the personal life of his child and his relations in the team, their child never learns to independently solve misunderstandings, experience setbacks and to deal with conflict.

What do parents

It is not necessary on the first call to rush to deal with offenders, or to settle the problems in the study. Give a chance to do it on their own and only in case of real need to provide assistance.

6. Cope with stress

Life is not like a straight and level road. Rather, it resembles a bumpy mountain road, which then climbs steeply, then descends down. Every young person should be mentally prepared for tough competition, extreme loads and heartless chiefs.

What do parents

Do not intervene if a child is difficult. Do not interfere, even if it is very difficult. Intervene only when it is impossible.

7. Earn and manage money

Whether we like it or not, agree or argue, but the money - is the foundation of our lives and blood. The sooner we instill this thought his younger children, the better. It is necessary from childhood to accustom them to the fact that every thing has not only value, but also the price to be paid for it.

What do parents

Give the child a personal money with the full freedom of their spending. Strictly limited the amount allocated once a week or a month, better than any lecture teaches the financial discipline, explains the need for savings, savings and other teaching truism in dealing with money.

8. Decisions

If the parents too get used to the role of the driver and a shepherd for their offspring, it is not surprising that children gradually turn into sheep. Yes, as a result of them becomes very easy to manage, but the sheep are helpless one by one, so always try to stay in the middle of the herd. Do you really want that?

What do parents

Teach a man to be a man and to decisions. To choose clothes, food, friends, music, and dozens of other things that shape a person. Accustomed to take decisions in the details, the person will be independent and in serious matters.

And what skills do you think the most important for the beginning of my adult life of a young man or woman? Share in the comments.