3 important skills, which you no one told
A Life / / December 19, 2019
Imagine if he had not read the article, and talk to people you trust. Today we will try to go back and ask for advice from those whose opinion matters to you. Maybe they forgot to tell you about some things.
No need to take things at their own expense
In the sense of responsibility, there is one side effect is absolutely devastating for the individual. The brain in an attempt to control what is happening around wants to take things at their own expense.
- The car cut in front of it you.
- New laws are to you it was more difficult to live.
- The active growth of the company has brought you pay raises.
We tend to regard everything that happens as something that directly concerns us.
But not everything that happens to you, it belongs to you.
This truth is hard to accept and even harder to remember her every day. After all, we are dependent on how our brain and body. Well-behaved feel when there was something good. If something bad mood, we'll take it to heart.
Very nice to think what happens to you good things, because you're such a great person. It is very convenient and easy. Do you know why it is impossible to think? Because this way of thinking will destroy you to the ground.
If you there is something wrong, does this mean that you are a horrible person? If you stole a wallet or phone crashed whether to sprinkle ashes on his head?
This type of thinking is like a seesaw: every day you experience the ups and downs of trying to interpret every little thing.
The feeling that you have something to deserve it, it is very dangerous. Such thing simply should not exist in your vocabulary. It is an emotional vampire, black hole, sucking all the emotions, energy and love around you. Perhaps it sounds a bit dramatic, but you get the idea.
When people criticize you, it is more concerned with themselvesThan you. they express his vision, their priorities based on own life principles. In fact, most people do not think of you as much as you imagine.
If you have something does not work, you do not get loser. You become a person who sometimes fail. If there was trouble, you become sick, you know - this pain is not about you. It's just a natural and integral part of life.
Learn how to change the point of view
In schools and universities, we are taught to defend his point of view, to write persuasive copy, develop skills oratory. However, no one ever talked about how important it is to learn to accept the point of view of another person. What if your beliefs are with you will ruin?
In this hard to believe. After all, we so much time and effort we spend on it to develop its stance. It is therefore actively oppose those who violently attacks our foundations and trying to convince.
Remove the fingers from his ears and stop loud singing silly songs. Look around. How often are you wrong, you need to understand it. You will make mistakes very often. Almost every day. Why, every hour you will be wrong. It would be nice to develop this skill, so you can see your mistakes and correct them.
How to do it?
No secret there. You need to constantly work on yourself. Evaluate their behavior, ask: "What if I'm wrong? What to do in this case? ".
At first it will be very difficult. The brain and body will resist. Only by overcoming you will be able to train and develop the necessary skills.
Try this: Write down 20 acts committed today. Ask yourself the question: "Why do I do that? What it made me take such a solution? ". Perhaps it was one of the inner convictions:
- I'm not beautiful / ugly.
- I lazy/ленива.
- I do not know how to speak with the man.
- I'll never be happy.
- I think the apocalypse will come next Tuesday.
The more senses you invest in these beliefs, the more important to overcome them. After all, these are the foundations of the domestic hinder make the right decisions every day.
Now imagine that such beliefs are no more. You are very beautiful, is not lazy, you will soon be happy, and the horsemen of the Apocalypse stopped for a snack. You have now done the same as yesterday? Or you change your mind?
First, it will be terrible. Some of the solutions you will not even talk to himself. You do not want to know what really believe. You refuse to change ourselves. But you is vital to develop the ability, through which you can see your mistakes and take a different view. Work on yourself.
Learn to work without the submission of the final result
Good work, when you know it will all end. The school has written essay, because the teacher told you surrendered, was rated. No surprises. At work calmly work and receive a salary. Very comfortably.
But in life everything is different. There is no confidence in the future, nor in every decision. If you want to change careers, no one will shepnot ear: "Now you will be happy." Have to be afraid, worry and worry.
Therefore, we do not really like to take vital decisions. We try not to move, do not talk and do not act, if not confident in a favorable outcome of the cases. Many of us are wondering, "How do I know that I'm doing the right thing?". Yes way. No one knows that you are good and what is bad.
If you are trying to learn how to predict the outcome of their actions - you have a problem. Because we can not live. Some actions need to perform simply because they need to make. So the world, nothing can be done.
Add a little chaos in life. So, to stimulate changes in yourself, arouse passion, to feel the taste of life.
These three skills are worth to them to learn. Just do not turn everything into a competition. Try a little change for the better. Life is not an endless race for survival.