29 proven tips for those who are tired of living in the old way

Larisa Parfentieva, my good friend and colleague at the publishing house "Myth", wrote the book "100 ways to change lives"How to achieve more, become happier and realize the power that we have inside. Word - Larissa.

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From 7 years, I dreamed of becoming a writer, but in high school I was convinced that "the writer - is not a profession." And I went into journalism. After graduating from the journalism faculty of Moscow State University, I worked for various media, led its transmission, cooperated with Ksenia Sobchak. But once discovered, that does not live his life. At this point, I was so depressed that gained 30 extra kilos.

Eventually I resigned from a prestigious job, returned from Moscow to his hometown, in Ufa, and realized that it was time for dreams.

I hit the "myth", took off the excess weight, to understand themselves, spoke at the TEDx, began to help people. In just a few years, I have read 1000 books on self-development, Remembered all those with whom I talked during the work in the media, heroes, stars, businessmen - and it is more than 10 000 people - and created the book "100 ways to change lives." In it - the most sensible tools to start a new life. And in this article - the list of what you need to remember those who are sick of living in the old way.

Okay, and what to do?

1. Inspiration or desperation? Writer and business coach Jim Rohn (Jim Rohn) said that there are only two reasons for a change: inspiration or desperation. If you do not follow the inspiration, then you definitely will cover despair. The question is, will you wait for him.

2. "Ok, I'm at the bottom." Congratulations! Make the bottom of the solid foundation on which to stand.

3. Start with any small action: doing exercises, meditate, read a book in the morning, or at least their bed.

One guy decided to overcome the "paralysis of action" and began in the morning and evening, carefully brush your teeth. By the time he made this decision, his life has already reached the bottom: the destroyed businesses and ruined the family.

Sounds strange, but it's true: Brushing gave initial kick. Soon there was a run in the morning, and then the right environment. As a result, our hero opened his own start-up, which is now successfully developing.

One small action disciplining able to change everything.

4. Those who overhauled cast down, you can start with a pulse. Momentum can be everything that you are able to stir up and get a taste of the life: a parachute jump, public performance, climbing a mountain. You can go "hellish week"Which offers Erik Bertrand Larssen (Erik Bertrand Larssen). Impulse will give you energy for the first steps.

5. "Can anything less radical?" Read a lot. If you read one book a week, for the year you read more than 50 books. That's enough to make a giant leap forward. Before you write "100 ways to change lives", I read more than 1000 books on self development. Drop by drop the book completely change the way of thinking.

6. The best thing you can do is to find "his flock." I will not give strange metaphors and parables about the importance of the environment, but to find "his flock" - is half the battle.

7. Everyone says that you need to look for a favorite cause. I do not like this term. Vocation is not always made up of your favorite things. it often arises from a problem that people want to solve.

For example, the publishing house "Myth" and appeared 11 years ago, the founding fathers realized that nobody produces a really good book. Today, production of "Myth," read by thousands of people.

Sara Blakely (Sara Blakely), which became in 2012 the youngest billionaire, has created his own company for the production of corrective underwear, because she could not find a good pantyhose. Another girl decided their problems, losing weight by 60 kg, and has found his calling in helping others.

I call all this obsession level 80. So do not think about the "favorite business." Look obsession.

8. Think about what product, service, thing you would like to use? What are your problems you could solve and help people? What kind of people you admire (and perhaps a little jealous of you they are good)? What would you do if you knew exactly what you'll get?

9. If you find something you like, just start. If you decide to become writerWrite the first chapter. Then another and another. Then the book. Chances are, if it's the first book, then it will have to throw out. Repeat all over again, and will be much better.

10. Nobody knows how he got there, where came. Everyone talks about the goals and achieving them, but in fact at the beginning it is quite impossible to calculate. The only thing that remains - to believe and to dream. When Bill Gates was asked how he felt after crossing the finish line, he replied: "If I knew where the finish line, I would have crossed it."

11. Near us are flying "black swans." This is the theory of the scientist Nassim Taleb (Nassim Taleb), according to which all key events in life happen unplanned. Many admit that their success is determined random circumstances. For example, a chance meeting with an investor in an elevator. Or secretary who stayed at work late because it was preparing for a date, and suddenly took a call from a major customer. Our way - this is a "black swan". All that remains for us - to work hard and believe that he will lead us to the right place.

12. "How many hours need to have noticed?" To get you started doing something tolerably enough 20 hours. 100 hours - and you will not be ashamed. 1000 hours - you are at a good average performance. 3000 - you will be considered a professional. 5000 - you will be able to earn not bad on this matter. Famous 10,000 hours - and you recognize the whole world.

13. There are four levels of realization:

1. Makings.
2. Ability.
3. Talent.
4. Genius.

Labor transforms the makings in the ability, then in talent, and later - in the genius. Choose any area and watering her work. In the end you will become a genius in this.

One well-known chess player Judit Polgar (Judit Polgár) asked: "Could you get so good at something else besides chess?? May in mathematics? "She replied:" If I had spent on it as long as chess, perhaps I would have been gorgeous in almost everything ".

14. Obsession works as a fire. You start to burn, and then this heat flied other people, opportunities, resources. You feed your obsession, and it makes you more. And you become visible. And then you come to the money and fame.

15. Early in his career all engaged in imitation. This is normal. Ray Bradbury admitted that he wrote three million words in 8 years, before finding his voice. Repeat for the other, and then you will hear his voice.

16. "And if what I do not earn?" I really like the picture of "Green Blob" Ellsworth Kelly (Kelly Ellsworth). Describe it very easily. It's... green blob, oddly enough. Just. Green. Blot. The painting was sold for 1.6 million dollars.

When I look at the "Blot", it inspires me very much, because it reminds us of the fact that you can earn on everything that you do truly and from the heart. Even if it is "real" is not understood by most people on the planet.

17. "I have a whole year writing / drawing / doing business, but still has not earned his million!" That's sad.

18. There are two ways to deal with the hated work:

1. Radical - this is when you throw it immediately. It only works on those who motivates "hot tail." I worked on it on my friend - no. He quit his job in the tax, and then worked in pizza delivery, but eventually returned to the tax and unhappy again.
2. The optimal way - to combine. Motivational author Barbara Sher (Barbara Sher) seven years working as a waitress, being a single mother, and wrote a book. Albert Einstein was a clerk in the patent office, and in his spare time engaged in science. None of them complained about the lack of time. Get up one hour earlier. Do not sit in social networks. What is more important: your dream or a new message?

19. Emotional change cycle consists of five stages and is similar to a sine wave:

1. Unfounded optimism.
2. Informed pessimism.
3. moment of despair (the lowest point of the sinusoid).
4. Informed optimism.
5. Success and self-fulfillment.

If you can get yourself in "a moment of desperation," you can achieve anything.

20. Murphy's law says:

If something can go wrong, it is sure to go wrong.

Over the past three years I have launched 10 projects. Seven of them have failed, three were successful. As a result, benefiting those who can pass through itself the greatest amount of pain and uncertainty.

21. "And I have no one believes!" It does not matter. The main thing - do not stop. The laws of physics, as opposed to the metaphysical laws are ruthless: if you a lot workYou have in any case work.

22. "Experts say that I can not do it." Faina Ranevskaya director of a theater called "perfect mediocrity," and Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper because of "lack of imagination". That's all you need to know about "expert opinion."

23. "My girlfriend does not like what I'm doing." If you do not sell drugs or people, then I would suggest to change the girl. If you do not understand the close, if you do not recognize experts, if no one in you do not believe, do not waste energy on offense. You can not imagine how many resources you spend on the prosecution. Spit on them. Take away its energy from insults and spend it on goal.

24. If it is scary, imagine being a firefighter. When he enters the burning building, it is also scary. But his fear goes away as soon as he is inside, because it is necessary to do their job, to save people. Begin to act, and you will have no fear.

25. Some throw started midway because the fall in the "pit". For example, you start to learn to draw. You will very quickly become quite bearable artist, you praise. You begin to practice even harder and at some point, be sure to get into the "hole" - is a state, When you have ceased to be perceived as a talented newcomer, but at the same time to the level of the pros you more nedotyagivaet.

It is important to continue to work hard, and then you will go to a new level. Remember: the darkest night before the dawn.

26. You can not become what you want, staying who you are. You definitely have to make a choice. Recently a friend of mine, who desperately wants to lose weight and constantly talks about it, began to eat the bread with mayonnaise at midnight. I asked: "And what do you want more bread or lose weight?" She answered honestly: "Bread." If every time you select the "bread", it probably should not worry about what you do not have what you want.

27. "What if I fail?" Maybe it will not work. But in any case, any action increases the chances of success.

28. Invent new ones who, as a child, never ceases to amaze. Changing environment, move, explore!

29. If you can not make a choice, then you have already decided to leave things as they are.

Full guidance on the changes can be found in the book "100 ways to change lives».

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