11 secrets of rich and harmonious life after 45

I've never thought about that when children grow up, I will come some other life "for himself". I actually was not clear what kind of life?

And I went to her unprepared. My 45th birthday coincided with the 18th anniversary of the younger daughter, and at one point I realized quite clearly: my responsibility for the upbringing of children is over. Then came the void... And then panic - what to do now? It's no joke, 25 years in a row, including weekends and holidays that responsibility. I have not had a new baby, who could fill the void and return to my real meaning. But it was a lot of regrets about the "uncomplicated" life and the future alone.

Then I calmed down, ask yourself "What's next?" And could see something pleasant. As it turned out, the line 45 years - this is the way to a new reality. And she was beautiful, if the time to learn a few important lessons.

1. Leisure time now belongs only to you

You can decide for himself what to fill it, how to share and where to invest. The whole day lying on the couch, to conquer Everest or cross stitching. Feed stray dogs or write poetry. You can do everything, what your heart desires. Full freedom of the decisions!

My discovery - devote one day a week for yourself, when you do anything that comes to mind! Just get up in the morning with either foot, you go there, aimlessly, and do what you wanted.

2. Came time to remember the dreams deferred

Dreamed about as a child, youth or ten years ago? Most likely, just do not remember and have a good rummage in the memory of the bins. But when it will be found, it will be the bomb! Do not doubt! Because a dream - it is a dormant volcano. And if you wake him, the process will not stop.

A time to dream is now enough. After I dug deferred dream of Latin American dances and learned to dance, now regularly rockin on the dance floor, opened a Latin American friends and learned to speak in Spanish.

3. Maturity opens up new horizons for the future

After 45 life starts gradually go down. As if you conquered the mountain, he reached the top and admire the views, ready to descend. Mid-life is passed, and this must be recognized. The flowering consummated, ahead of a gradual fading.

This is a very difficult moment - take your maturity and live on a happy and fulfilled life. Find the pros and enjoy them rather than try to stop leaving youth. It will have to let go and trust that in every age its charms. Compare young and ripe apple. You see the difference?

I came to the conclusion that the ability to be happy can and should be trained. I helped in this marathon # 100happydays and Instagram, where I collect moments of happiness in the photos.

4. For a full life to be with the body at the same time

With age, the processes in the body and slow down occurs hormonal changes. Now you need to pay special attention to treat yourself, and once a year a complete examination. It is very cool to be with your body at the same time realize that it supports you in all your endeavors, and does not prevent them. When you can easily afford to ride a roller coaster with her grandchildren, dance at parties until five in the morning and feel a cucumber in long flights and trips.

I made a checklist of all of its weaknesses, necessary analyzes and surveys, and along with doctors and clinics. Now I include these measures in their plan for the year, and necessary expenses - personal budget.

5. Environment that we like, we create ourselves

If you choose the course for a happy life after 45, then, most likely, will have to reconsider their environment and determine for themselves who are all these people. Friends? Familiar? Shortstop? What do you have in common with them? What fills you with this communication? Thus, you can create a community of interest and eliminate unnecessary communication and consuming power.

Generally comfortable and develop communication - not to mix themes and people from various circles. After this "inventory" I formed a circle of closest friends and family and a couple of laps of the interests (and dance to writing). And those people who have not logged in, gradually themselves are gone from my life.

6. The inevitability of excess weight after 45 - is a myth

The most important thing - the desire to stay slim and beautiful. And then ask yourself the question, how to do it. Because in reality it is not very difficult. To begin to understand your own individual taste. Then define it for good or for harm. And if you have bad eating habits, then look for their causes. Because getting rid of them can only eliminate the cause.

My rule slim figure: there are only when required, for as long as needed, and only what is required. If the rule does not work, it is an occasion to ask ourselves the question: what is wrong with me? What internal problems, I compensate by eating?

7. For vitality and harmony in handy favorite activity

Accept the fact that now life goes on recession, to preserve the vigor of mind and body harmony is necessary to move enough. Find your favorite activity. What do you like? Begin to run, swim, kayak, walk in the mountains or just buy Scandinavian stick. Sometimes a new sneakers or dance shoes, wanted to get involved in an active hobby. Because the movement - that's life! After 45 it is still very, very much!

My favorite activities - walking through the woods on foot, bike, Swimming and a lot of Latin American dances. In winter, of course, skiing and ice skating, as well as riding a roller coaster with her grandchildren and wallow in the snowdrifts.

8. Creativity opens a second wind in the self-realization

Usually at this age already manages to realize himself in some activity, so professional crisis may occur. I want to change the familiar scope, apply their skills to other areas of interest. There will have to dig a well: what is the soul that lights your eyes? It is possible to carry out excavations on their own with the help of Free writingYou can ask friends pozadavat you questions on this topic. You can hire the services of psychologists and coaches. Or select the appropriate online course search topic vocation, which is now a great variety.

I used all the ways! But the most effective were online courses, after which I discovered the world of creative writing. This is my parallel world to the soul, who is now in his personal blog: articles, stories and even a nearly finished novel. Forthcoming collection of funny poems.

9. External beauty - it is their own hands and thoughts

It is said that every woman must by 40 years to have a beautiful face. The point here is that the youth we have the appearance that we are given. And in the maturity of our appearance - it is the work of our hands and thoughts.

The latter is much more important. If we follow his thoughts, we smile and observe in the life of a beautiful, know how to thank the people and the world around us for all that we have, and do not suffer because of what we do not, it will all be written on our face. And over the years, this effect is only amplified. But self-care, of course, has not been canceled. The hairdresser, manicure, Massage and sauna should be in your plans on a regular basis. Plus a constant home care.

Comparing the photos with a difference of 30 years, I want to say that now I like myself a lot more! And it would not want to return to their 18.

10. Harmonious relations are based on respect for personal boundaries

At this age, it is very important to build up relationships with parents and children. And most importantly - to outline the boundaries of their own and to distinguish the boundaries of their loved ones. Pledge of non-contentious relations - is respect other people's space and lifestyle, even if these people you do not someone else's.

You want to correct attitude to their personal life and their territories? Decide what you are interested to do together, and do not break the rules of conduct in the territory of your relatives. For example, my daughter and I love to go shopping together, or in a cafe. A son and his family - to watch a movie or go out of town. And it would be foolish on my part to call the daughter of a campaign, and his son - for shopping, if they can not tolerate this.

11. Wisdom - is to be happy at any age

There is a joke: "With age comes wisdom. But sometimes old age comes alone. " I think that old age lives in the head. So I for one came to wisdom. Without old age. As long as you move, find meaning in life, rejoice, dream, watch your health, and thoughts and have time every day to catch the moments of happiness, no old age you are not afraid!

Be wise - it is to live the life that is like, do what you like, and talk to those who like it. And life after 45, these possibilities are opened. And if you have reached the zen and able to please yourself, the world and you very quickly reciprocate, do not hesitate! And all this is called - to be happy.

And wisdom after 45 is to be happy going into the sunset of his life.